Nine times out of ten, the things encountered on the road of life are not satisfactory. When encountering difficulties and setbacks, we should look for reasons and find ways to overcome difficulties, rather than choosing to allow ourselves to degenerate.
After a divorce, a woman lives on the street with her children.
Recently, I saw a netizen post on the Internet that there was a woman in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province, who was divorced, and after leaving the house, she took her child to the second grade of primary school and lived on the street, and her child is 13 years old. (Her child was about 9 years old at the time.)
The woman, a native of Anhui, married in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province, and bore her husband two children, but somehow she was expelled from the house.
After the divorce, she was responsible for raising her younger son and her ex-husband was responsible for raising her eldest son. She tried to move her children and her hukou back to her mother's house, but her father did not agree, so she began a wandering career.
Passers-by saw that they were pitiful and often offered to help them.
She takes her young children and eats them every day by picking up food discarded by others. He made a living by picking up paper skins and plastic bottles and exchanging them for money at scrap pick-up stations.
She has now been living on the streets with her children for at least four years, according to nearby residents, according to the area where she wandered. Passers-by saw that their mother and son were pitiful, and often gave them some food and money.
At first, everyone thought she had a mental problem, so she would wander with her children. But after a long period of watching, she found that she would sort out her clothes every day and play with her mobile phone.
When others give things to her, she will even pick the good and the bad, and pick the fat and thin of the things that others give. So, it was concluded that there was nothing wrong with her mental aspect. It may be a loss of confidence in life, or laziness that chooses to wander.
She is reluctant to work, relying on the help of others to survive in the world, the nearby residents see it in their eyes and hide it in their hearts, and everyone does not want to get used to her delicious and lazy behavior.
But looking at the young child she brought, everyone couldn't bear to watch her child suffer with her, so they chose to help her appropriately.
It's good to help others, but attention should be paid to the way it is.
We have always advocated helping others, because helping others is a virtue. However, not everything is suitable for help.
This woman who is wandering the streets with her children should not be helped. Helping her too much will only make her become dependent, and the result will only make her become lazy and lazy.
If you really want to help her, you should give her spiritual help. Encourage her to be strong, to face reality bravely, to rely on her own hands to work and earn money to make a living.
Only by letting her go to work by herself is a long-term help to her, and the help given to her only in terms of money and materials can only be temporary.
Couples have contradictions divorced, but the children are innocent.
Now she has been wandering for more than 4 years, and her children are a little sluggish when they talk because they have dropped out of school and have fewer opportunities to communicate with people.
The main responsibility for influencing the growth of a child lies in her willingness to degenerate. Although she is a clean family, she is still young and healthy, can remarry, and is fully capable of earning money through labor to support herself and provide for her children's schooling.
Her ex-husband is also responsible, although the child was raised by her alone after the divorce, but he is the father of the child after all, and he does not care about seeing the child drop out of school and live on the street.
As the saying goes, don't look at the monk's face to see the Buddha's face. Even if you don't remember the love of husband and wife in the past, you should also read that the child is his own flesh and blood, and that the child is innocent, take care of the child, let the child have a place to live, and let the child receive education.