Children do not love to learn, do not take classes seriously, do not concentrate, what to do?
Children lose their temper at every turn, they still beat people, reasoning does not work, what to do?
Children are introverted and timid, and they are afraid when they see people, what should they do?
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If, you have the same problem, don't worry, anxiety and urging will only make the child more and more rebellious, as the famous family education scholar Yin Jianli said, "A person can not hate one thing at the same time, and will do a good job."
So, how can children get out of this unsatisfactory state? The following 3 suggestions, the sooner parents start, the better!
01
About habits
0 to 6 years old is a critical period for habit formation, and cultivating children to develop good habits at this stage is very beneficial to their future growth. Once you miss it, it will cost several times as much effort to make up for it, and the effect may be greatly reduced.
Some parents may say that I also know that good habits are very important, but when they say that children do not listen, what can they do?
At this time, we must be good at using tools, such as the picture book of the series of behavior habit formation, we only need to insist on reading with us, subtly, the child will naturally learn, and is happy to do so.
0-3 years old, the child's brain is developing at a high speed every day, is particularly sensitive to many things, and is easy to accept external influences, but has limited comprehension.
Therefore, it is recommended to follow 4 principles in the selection of picture books:
First, the color is bright, the pattern is simple, attractive to the baby, and reduce the interference with the baby.
Second, the components are strong and not easy to tear, so that even if the baby bites and tears, it is not easy to damage.
Third, the plot is single, easy to understand inside, young babies are still in the stage of cognitive development, and the picture books that are easy to understand are easy to understand.
Fourth, there is a strong interactivity, that is, picture books that can be "played", such as cave books, situation picture books, audio picture books, etc., to stimulate the baby's audiovisual nerves and increase reading interest.
Recommendation: "0-3 Behavior Habits Parenting Picture Book 6 Volumes", Chicken Ball Ball Touch Toy Book, Cognitive Book, etc.
Children aged 3-6 have greatly improved their cognitive ability, and they are an age group with heavy curiosity and strong imitation.
In the choice of behavioral habit picture books, it is recommended as follows:
First, the story has a plot, it is easy to understand, and the child will have fun watching it.
Second, the colors are bright and the patterns are rich, attracting the child's attention, but not too single, so that the child feels bored.
Third, there is a strong interactivity, no matter how old the child is, the child hopes to interact with the parents and mothers, and the interactive picture book can meet the needs of the child very well.
Recommended: "2-6 years old bedtime enlightenment storybook", "Oops, be careful!- good habits and bad habits", chicken ball growth series and other picture books.
"2-6 years old bedtime enlightenment storybook" focuses on introducing you.
This set of 40 books, rich in content, contains four major themes such as character training, emotional intelligence training, eternal love, emotional management, etc., the church expresses love, understands politeness, understands gratitude, and interprets 40 common situations of infants and young children, such as self-protection, not walking with strangers, how to get along with others, etc.
Bilingual in Chinese and English with audio accompaniment. If you can't read English, you can scan the code on your mobile phone and put it to your child, which not only enhances the parent-child relationship, but also lays a foundation for children to learn English, killing two birds with one stone.
What to do, what not to do, what to do, in addition to the constraints of verbal and daily behavior, picture books may be easier for children to understand the meaning of doing something.
02
About emotions
Behind the child's love of anger, there is always a hidden secret. The sooner parents know, the more calmly they can cope.
1. Weak language expression ability, replace complex emotions with anger
Children are young and cannot use words to describe their complex feelings, so they can only replace all unhappy emotions with the simplest anger.
2. Children imitate their parents
Have you noticed that parents often lose their temper, and the children in the family also love to cry and make trouble at every turn, and it is not good to coax. This is the influence of imitation.
Therefore, if we want to change the bad habit of children losing their tempers, we parents must first change our behavior.
3. Get followers
Children find it easier to get your attention when they're angry than when they're happy, so they'll have a fight over your attention.
At this moment, we need to reflect on whether we care less about our children. Less companionship?
4. The advent of the rebellious period
From the perspective of children's psychological development, children will usher in the first rebellious period around the age of two, that is, the "terrible two years old", about seven years old will experience a second rebellious period, and the third rebellious period is the adolescent stage.
Children in the rebellious period always like to sing the opposite tune, and the temper is like a volcanic eruption.
Young children, reasoning does not work, yelling, scolding will only exacerbate the child's fear, teach children to recognize and express their emotions, the best policy.
1. With the help of the "Emotional Face" game.
Prepare some paper, and then take the pen to draw some faces with different emotions, or in a simpler way, there is a picture book called "Various Faces", teaching children to recognize that different faces represent different emotions, and you can also do your own demonstrations for children to imitate.
2. With the help of picture books.
For example, "Toto Kicks and Kicks Great Emotional Power", "Angry Arthur", "Angry Soup", "I'm Angry", etc., vivid and vivid pictures teach children to easily recognize, express and manage their emotions.
When a child does not have the ability to express multiple emotions, he has no choice. Therefore, when the time comes, teach the child to recognize, feel and experience other emotions so that the child can know how to express it.
03
About learning
Not serious in class, grinding homework, poor concentration, poor academic performance... When encountering such a child, parents with big hearts are also anxious.
Teacher Wang Songzhou, a national special teacher, said that if a child has three qualities, to a large extent, it will not cause such a headache. One is learning efficiency; the second is learning habits; and the third is learning concentration.
Whether it is the formation of learning habits or the improvement of learning efficiency, it is inseparable from concentration. As Cai Yuanpei said: "Only by concentrating and concentrating on learning can we achieve more with less." ”
So, let's focus on how to cultivate children's concentration.
1. Find your child's point of interest
Interest is the best teacher. Only those who are interested have the motivation to study.
Whether it's parents or children, we all prefer to do what we want to do and control, don't we? Therefore, if we can help children find interests in learning, then children will be more willing to spend more time and focus more on learning.
2. Play with concentration
Relatively easy to find the child's interest point, it is relatively easy to deliberately cultivate the child's attention.
1) Mini games
For example, find differences (find differences in the same, find the same in the differences), sort by color, anti-password games (passwords are opposite to the action, including the left hand out of the right hand), etc., to exercise the child's concentration and reactive thinking.
The Schulte square method is considered to be the simplest training method. Sort out the numbers from 1 to 25, fill in the small square table, and then count from 1 to 25 as fast as possible, pointing out as you read, and timing at the same time. The shorter the time, the higher the concentration. The degree of difficulty can be adjusted by yourself.
Every child will not reject the game, we can exercise the child's concentration and reactive thinking, but we need to spend more time on the child.
2) Borrow a reference book
For example, "6 Minutes of Concentration Training Thinking Labyrinth" can be repeatedly scribbled, repeatedly trained, and children play unlimited times to properly play concentration.
For example, the "Paper-cutting origami series", which develops the whole brain for children, is not only a high-quality teaching material for creative artistic enlightenment, but also a better exercise for the flexibility of the baby's fingers.
For another example, "Pen Control Training", from points to curves, practices various lines, recognizes 26 letters and numbers within 50, learns while playing, consolidates pen control ability, and improves children's spatial thinking ability, pen movement ability and artistic creation.
You know, there is a big reason for the learning disability of children in the lower grades, that is, the lack of hand strength, resulting in problems such as slow writing and sloppiness, which is just ignored by many parents.
Children's education can never take shortcuts, but we can find the most labor-saving way to help children learn from each other's strengths and help children grow.