The campus is the first stop for children to enter the society. Coming to school means that children have to temporarily leave the love and protection of their parents and face and deal with some problems alone.
Although there are teachers on campus, there are too many children in a class to take care of, and teachers are inevitably exhausted, and there will always be places that cannot be taken care of.
When children get together, there will inevitably be some small frictions. If these small contradictions are not resolved in time, they will become more and more intense over time, and may even cause serious consequences.
Some parents are dismissive of this, thinking that the child has any big contradictions, the relationship between the two is not good today, maybe in two days it will be fine, there is no need to care too much. Children's affairs must be solved by themselves, how can adults be kind enough to intervene?
Not really. Many children are bullied at school, teachers do not help solve it at school, and they do not get the love of their parents when they go home, and over time their personality will also have problems, and they even do not want to go to school, and they lose interest in learning.
Should a child be bullied at school and "fight back"? Parents with high emotional intelligence counterattacked, attracting praise from netizens
One day, my son from elementary school came home and said to Old Li, "Dad, I don't want to go to school anymore." Old Li was curious, and last week his son said that the teacher praised him in class, and he liked the school. How could I suddenly not want to go to school?
After some inquiry, I learned that it was the son who had clashed with the little marshal at the back table. The two did not give in to each other, and the son remembered what his father had taught him before, and did not move. But the little marshal kicked him, which made him feel very wronged.
Old Li opened his son's trouser leg to see that there was a red mark on his calf, and there was a large bruise. Who is willing to let their children be wronged? Old Li immediately decided to help his son "revenge" back.
But how to do it, this makes old Li difficult. Tell the teacher? Teachers have limited energy in a day and may not be able to keep an eye on their children all the time, which will also burden the teacher's work.
Tell each other's parents? The other parent may not really discipline their children, if they cannot solve this matter perfectly, it will affect the relationship between children, not to mention, it will also make children repulsive to school.
So Lao Li opened WeChat and said such a paragraph in the parent group.
"Hello parents, I am Xiao Li's father. After coming home from school today, I found that my son's leg was injured, he said that he had an argument with his classmates, but he did not expect that this classmate directly gave him a 'Foshan shadowless foot'.
He was very angry now, saying that he would go to a teacher to learn the art, and then come back to take revenge after completing his studies. I thought it was bad and stopped him. What do parents think? ”
Soon some parents replied, "Children should get along harmoniously with each other, can not do oh", and also said that they will go home to discipline the child well, will not let him bully classmates, attract parents to echo.
Soon Old Li's mobile phone received a message, which was sent by the parent of the child who bullied his son, saying that he understood the contradictions between the children and was sorry to hurt Xiao Li. And attached a video of Xiao Shuai apologizing, hoping to get Xiao Li's forgiveness.
After that, Xiao Li not only regained his interest in school, but also became good friends with the little handsome man at the back table. Old Li laughed and said that this is really "no fight, no acquaintance".
The matter was posted on the Internet, and many netizens praised the father's proper way of handling the problem. Just a few words to explain the causes and consequences, humor implies warnings, funny and graceful, appropriate high emotional intelligence.
Regarding the interpersonal relationship between children, how should parents deal with and guide them?
Children are often bullied in the school, or the relationship with other students is not harmonious, at this time, how parents should educate their children to deal with interpersonal problems, is a headache for many people.
In fact, parents do not need to worry too much, children's thinking is relatively simple, usually there is no big contradiction, as long as the timely dredging guidance can be easily resolved.
As parents, we must educate children to think more about others, not always take themselves as the center, and often think from the perspective of others; be generous and learn to share, so that children can make a lot of friends in school.
However, when unfair phenomena occur, parents should also tell their children that they cannot blindly tolerate it. When the other party violates their own vital interests, they must also stand up and bravely say "no"!
Parents should also often ask about their children's recent situation in school, such as whether they have been wronged and whether they have encountered problems that cannot be handled. Timely understand the psychological changes of children, help and guide problem solving, and eliminate hidden dangers for children's growth.
Write at the end:
Every parent does not want their children to be wronged, but parents cannot follow them for a lifetime. Teach them how to deal with problems, maintain relationships with other children, and not let yourself fall into a helpless situation.
Courageously express your anger and dissatisfaction and say "no" to all injustices. It is the best way to protect children by teaching them to be kind to others and how to face the wind and rain alone.
How do you deal with your child's relationship problems at school?
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