If it is gratifying to see our child imitate us, you may feel rejected when the child transitions from imitating you to imitating his father. Children often begin to understand their gender and identify with parents of the same gender as them, a process that experts believe plays an important role in a child's relationship with their parents. At this time, you can see boys walking, talking, and moving like their fathers, and girls like mothers.
In some cases, when a child is completely focused on one parent, he tends to be estranged from parents of the opposite gender, as if boys and boys play together, girls and girls play together, and boys and girls are separated. After a while, the situation is reversed, and as children identify with parents of the same gender as themselves, they eventually begin to seem to compete with parents of the same gender, gaining the love of parents of the opposite gender (they will say, "Mom, will you marry me?"). ”）。
Over the years, the child may change from imitating the father to imitating the mother several times, and then back. Parents, relatives and friends should not label all of a child's behavior, which reinforces a stage of behavior. Calling a girl a mother's daughter and a boy a father's son is unhelpful and inaccurate. These labels can only make children more confused in their role identification. Because in the end, the child not only loves the father, nor does he just want to pull the mother's skirt. They are individuals with different temperaments and hobbies.
Of course, some comparisons are almost inevitable and can be fully accepted as long as they are positive. Telling a child that he loves to read like a mom and is as talented as a dad in art can often help the child build self-esteem while supporting family relationships, which should be a major goal for every family. We can think of the relationship between the child and the father, the relationship with the mother, as buying two different stocks, sometimes one up, sometimes the other up, sometimes both up.