01.
The degree of a person's enlightenment is equal to the depth of his suffering.
——Lin Yutang, "My Country, My People"
The deeper the wound, the more thorough the understanding, love is like this, life is the same, one thing does not poke his sore spot, then he will not feel, will only feel that there is no big deal, and when he suffers a big loss, he will understand.
However, in this world, are there so many regret pills that can be taken? In love, the more deeply you love, the easiest person is to be hurt, because from the moment I confess to you, it means that from this moment on, you have the ability to hurt me.
Sadly, in this world, there are always lovers who are hurt, the true heart is always disappointed, a piece of sincere heart, is regarded as a simple fool, full of joyful love, is treated as childish, not mature enough, in fact, what you don't know is that only people who love you will show childishness in front of you and show the appearance of needing your care.
However, the beloved always have no fear, love and be loved, there must always be someone to take on different roles.
02.
The so-called effort,
It is an active and purposeful activity.
- Haruki Murakami
There is an initiative but no goal, just like a blind man touching an elephant, without an overall goal, not knowing what to work for, doing things blindly, just deceiving himself, going in the opposite direction, and finally going farther and farther.
Having a goal but not taking the initiative, it is even more embarrassing, it is better to talk than to do it, only to talk about it, but never to do it, which is not called effort
One of these two false ways of working hard, which we call "false self-discipline," is to work blindly without thinking, without goals. The second is that the false efforts, which seem to be very hard work, are actually stuck in the mouth
03.
It is easier for people to live in their own sorrows, and it is even more difficult to live in the sympathy of others.
—— Qiong Yao, "Gathering and Scattering Two Yiyi"
Being sympathized with is a kind of happiness and a kind of pain, because in the eyes of others, we are weak, and in this world, no one likes to be weak, but as long as you are the one who is sympathetic, you are labeled, this is a poor person who deserves sympathy.
Therefore, now most people have learned how to pretend to be strong in front of others, how to hide their weakness, even if they are injured, they will not cry like when they were young, but they will not be able to bear it in front of everyone.
When a person returns to the room, we silently shed tears, we often say that we want to become mature, to become an adult, but no one has told us how many setbacks and failures there are in the world when we grow up, nor have we told us how to face these difficulties, only that we must be strong, so we can only slowly grope for ourselves
In the end we succeeded, we were mature adults, we rarely cried anymore, and we rarely grieve all day for a toy, but we were touched by a little thing, because that was the last bit of innocence we had left.