We in love are happy and sweet, but there are no unbroken feasts in the world, and there are not so many lovers who are always sweet and not scattered. Most people's first reaction when faced with the departure of their lover is that they cannot accept it, and the second reaction is to long for him to be able to return to his side again. People are emotional animals, scenes from the past, completely flashed in the mind, how to break up? Can't you love forever and forever?
Many people will make many amazing moves for this, such as cutting off the liver and intestines, not eating or drinking, washing their faces with tears all day; and some people are eating and drinking, eating crazy and happy! These two extreme ways are nothing more than longing for the other party to be able to return to their side.
But the broken mirror can never be recovered.
In love, the other half suddenly left, for what reason? Whether in life, or in movies and television, we have seen many couples say that they break up, and the reason for breaking up is nothing more than "you are good, I am not worthy of you", or "You are good, but we are not suitable." "There are many reasons, from a psychological point of view, these are just their excuses, they are not in love with the excuse, many people who break up will not put out the real reason at all, just want to find a suitable reason to tell each other euphemistically, so as to make themselves decent and unscathed retreat."
But in fact, if you read Haruki Murakami's book, you will know that these reasons can often be grouped together.
Many years ago, Haruki Murakami wrote a collection of novels, "Men Without Women", one of which was "Driving My Car", which was very simple, and the protagonist, Ieyasuke Fukusuke, hired a female driver after separating his wife.
Jiafu's wife unfortunately passed away, on the surface their husband and wife relationship is very harmonious, in fact, behind the scenes, there is a lot of helplessness hidden. Jiafu is painfully entangled, he always thinks that it is beautiful to love with his wife, but he did not expect that his wife actually had a private meeting with other men behind his back, and later, Jiafu found the man, but no matter how he looked, he could not find a reason for his wife to betray himself.
The family was sad. He couldn't figure it out, he was clearly a good man, and his marriage with his wife was favored by everyone, but why did he have such a sad ending? Is it that you are not good enough? But that man is also ordinary!
With the death of his wife, that memory was sealed in the long river of time.
Just from time to time, it quietly pops up and gives him a psychological trauma. No matter how he tried to find his other half, he couldn't find the original feeling, so he missed many beautiful women.
Later, Jiafu met a female driver he hired.
The two began an in-depth conversation, but jiafu's heart knot was opened. At this time, Haruki Murakami borrowed the mouth of the female driver to say something subtle: no matter what reason his wife left the family, it does not matter, this can be summed up in one point, that is, she wants to leave.
In real life, the same is true, there are thousands of reasons to leave people, you don't have to delve into why he left, maybe even he himself does not know, why to leave? It is only when he says that sentence and gives up the relationship that it can be clearly stated that the relationship is completely over, and he just wants to leave.
If we are always entangled in why the other party is leaving, then we are stuck in a dead cycle, life is in the world, many things, there is no definite answer, do not love, is not love. Isn't love just a kind of inexplicable feeling?
Even if you have read many books, done many problems, made a lot of money, and gained a reputation, you may not be able to explain the small things in life, especially in love, and it makes countless people feel annoyed. Time does not wait for anyone, entanglement is a waste of life. Instead of being so sad and entangled in this little thing, it is better to start a new life, desperately create, and move forward, and the future will be better.
Things have happened, feelings can not continue, do not love is not love, insist on no meaning, you should let go a little, stride forward, otherwise, waste time, but also let you miss the beauty of life.
To be a wise person, to understand that not everything in life has a specific answer, the departure of the other half in love, not that he met a better person, nor that you did not love him enough, but it just felt wrong, or suddenly wanted to leave. Human nature is unpredictable, no feeling is no feeling, where is the specific reason to say?
People who do not understand this will not be able to achieve great things after all, and they may fall under that haze all day long, muddy, torturing themselves and their families.
People who really understand, often like turning a book, change their mood, that thing has turned the page, only by accepting and starting a new life, can we get ourselves out of this suffering, in order to have a broader life.
"Men Without Women" is a collection of novels by Haruki Murakami, which contains seven short stories, and this article is quoted in "Driving My Car", which Hamaguchi Ryusuke adapted into a Japanese film of the same name, which is a rare masterpiece in the past two years.