As the old saying goes, the grace of life is greater than that of man, the grace of nurturing is greater than that of heaven, and the filial piety of a hundred virtues comes first.
However, no matter how great we portray family affection, in practical life, there are still many people who have no gratitude at all, turn a blind eye to the decades of parenting and cultivation of their biological parents, and even when parents are in urgent need of their children's care and care, they are justified and do not care about themselves and hang high.
A professor in Taiwan worked hard when he was young, sent eight children to the United States to study for a doctorate, and cultivated into a social elite, but when he was 92 years old, all his children ignored him, did not pay pension money, and did not come back to visit, and finally the old professor died alone in a nursing home.
Also, during the funeral, all the children refused to come back to mourn for them. It can be described as filial piety to the extreme.
It is often said that "filial piety comes first", an old saying that has been passed down for five thousand years, and now it sounds like the philosophy contained in it is very correct. However, with the progress of the times, many people have lost the original intention of filial piety, filial piety to parents should be a natural thing, but in the eyes of some people, parents have become a burden. In this way, the human instinct to reproduce has also sown the seeds of pain while exchanging prosperity.
Some people may say that these 8 children may have their own grievances, and the competition in American life is also large, even if it is elite, there is not much liquidity and spare money. Different families do have their own survival pressures, but the way to express feelings is never just to use material conditions as a reference, but to get along day and night.
I have seen a family with a very poor living environment, and the family of three lives in a rental house of 20 square meters. The narrow space is difficult to stretch their hands and feet, and can only provide them with the most basic living conditions, a bed for rest, and a table for eating. Other objects are placed messily, the rice cooker is put under the bed, and it is only taken out when it is necessary to eat, and the life is very embarrassing, and it is no exaggeration to summarize it with "destitution".
The couple raised an 8-year-old daughter, and the family's financial support mainly depended on his father, who was a worker, who endured the fiery sun and the cold wind all year round, and the heavy work on the construction site tanned him, and also bent his body in silence, leaving behind various diseases.
They come from the countryside to the city, no diploma, no background, can only engage in the lowest level of labor work, many people are curious, they have their own big houses in the countryside, not to talk about the spring platform, but can ensure that they are free, and the house is surrounded by mountains and rivers, they can completely plant crops to feed themselves, and now live in a heaven, an earth.
They abandoned ease and came to the city to work hard, for only one simple reason - they wanted to give their children a better educational environment. It is precisely because of the loss of no culture that I do not want the next generation to repeat their old ways, even if the days are poor, they still try to meet the needs of their daughters, and in their daily poverty, I see full of warmth.
If it is instinctive for parents to take care of their children, then it is not an obligation for a son-in-law to take care of his mother-in-law. A man named Hu Shiqiang in Weifang, Shandong, when his mother-in-law was paralyzed in bed, he took the initiative to take on the heavy responsibility of taking care of his mother-in-law, wiping his body and changing clothes for the elderly during the day, waking up every two hours in the middle of the night, turning over and massaging the elderly... Hu Shiqiang has insisted on this kind of care for more than ten years and has never complained.
Hu Shiqiang himself actually has no money, and his work is busy and hard, but he will never slack off in the slightest, and he was also honored in the "Weifang Good People List" in August 2021. If you want to love someone fiercely, you never need any reason or excuse, and people who really care have the opportunity to show in any environment.
Parents spend more than 20 years to raise us to adulthood, most of them are not to prevent aging, but out of affectionate love, there are many ways of love, may have brought us harm, if you try to understand, you can find the warmth.
Obviously, it was a more superior background, so why was the old professor treated like this by eight children? It can be found from the report that the eight children have been borrowing money for various reasons before the professor's death, obviously have the ability to make money, but still like parasites, attached to the old man's body and continued to suck blood, until they found that the professor's body was problematic, they sent him to the local nursing center, and then left it alone.
Such a shameful act of the eight children, from any point of view, is heinous cruelty, and their attitude towards their father is like a natural hatred, and in the depths of their nature, there is a terrible disregard for emotions, and I wonder if they can have the slightest sense of guilt in the middle of the night, remembering the poor father who provided them with their education.
The poor father spent his life helping them build a bridge to a bright future, but he did not expect that he would one day be kicked by his eight beloved children into the rushing river under the bridge.
Feelings are complex, the form of love should be based on the two sides running together, even if you can't understand the importance of emotions, you also know the principle of "dripping water, gushing springs to repay each other". Because there are emotions that can be used as a cover, they fiercely evade the obligations and responsibilities that they should bear, which is an egoistic concept that should not appear in family affection.
Mencius once said: "There are five kinds of filial piety: first, to be lazy in its limbs and disregard the support of its parents; second, to play good wine and disregard the support of parents; third, to be good and wealthy, to have a private wife, and to disregard the support of parents; fourth, to indulge the desires of the eyes and ears, thinking that the parents are killed; and fifth, to be brave and fierce, to endanger the parents." ”
There are very few children who can complete these five rituals, but it is extremely easy to want to do one. The most basic filial piety also needs to protect the life of parents, in addition to the emotional need for companionship, but also to give assistance in terms of interests, this point of cognition has nothing to do with identity status, the strong goodness of the heart, and it is not a better explanation to rely on identity status.
But a person's evil and ugliness can be vividly displayed because of the simplest filial piety. How can a child without filial piety have the dignity of being a human being?