The baby below is on fire, and lo and behold, the baby is wearing blue short sleeves and sitting next to his mother. At this time, the mother is looking at the mobile phone, while the son's sitting posture is very standardized. Two small hands were placed on the knees in a proper manner, the legs were straight, and the waist plate was very straight. Some people say that the baby is too cute and the sitting posture is very disciplined, but sitting like this must be very tired, and even outsiders are full of tension when they look at it. Some people also say that such a high-quality baby is simply one of the talents in the world, and should be admitted out of the box, so that the baby will go directly to the soldier after he is older.
But another mother said that this baby was scared at home, and even when he went out, he was so timid that he didn't dare to sit there!
Although this "model boy" is a bit controversial, his upright sitting posture has left the public with a reputation of obedience and "culture". In today's society, the babies in the family are the era of little princes and little princesses, and some people will educate the baby to be so "straight, obedient", sitting posture and good-looking, parents are really cruel enough.
Of course, parents should be for the good of the child, I hope that the child has a good business card, so that outsiders can see at a glance that this child is educated and very reliable!
So, what is parenting?
Emerson said that the essence of cultivation, like human character, ultimately comes down to the question of moral sentiments. Thus, upbringing is a product of the moral category.
To put it bluntly, parents want their children to be educated, nothing more than expecting their children to do it: they have a sense of proportion in their hearts, they are polite and polite, their words and deeds are measured, and they have enough respect for others. As soon as such a child is taken out, outsiders feel that this child is rare to see, very educated, and a good moral child.
But on the contrary, if parents always feel that parenting is irrelevant, then things will go in the opposite direction. For example, if the child is at the mother's side, it is not sitting upright. It's the kind of posture where a person lies down and occupies three or four seats, and it's easy to imagine that the people around us won't be comfortable at all.
Everyone's impression of this child will not be sensible, well-behaved, and educated, but impolite, unruly, and annoying. What will turn to the children will be the blank stares of the people.
Therefore, it is a very meaningful thing to educate a well-educated child. Parents should support and respect, should not be afraid that the child is a bear child, just manage the child too strictly. We should not be afraid to manage the child too much and be honest, and simply give up on teaching the baby.
You know, a nurtured child actually has great advantages, which is incomparable to ordinary children.
What are the advantages of a cultured child?
1 Is often praised, recognized, and confident
A cultured child has a relatively higher chance of being praised from an early age. After being recognized by others, the child's sense of inferiority will be reduced, and the child will show great confidence. A confident child is more likely to achieve good grades in school, will be very perfect in personality, and will have a good childhood life.
2 people like, more opportunities
A cultured child, obedient, not annoying, the child is very good at looking at people's eyes. In public, children can abide by the rules, usually interact with people, and children can also get along with each other. Educated children know how to think differently and push themselves and others. Therefore, such children are more likely to be recruited when they go to school, and their popularity is very good. In the work of growing up, children are also easy to unite colleagues, get more resources, help to raise salaries, and seize opportunities.
Since there are parented children, there are so many advantages, how should parents cultivate their children's upbringing?
The premise of educating children is to teach children to abide by the rules
Every educated child understands a truth, and to be a man must abide by the rules. For example, outside, to observe public order, when riding the subway can not be loud noise, can not spit on the ground, to do not disturb others to rest; at home, the elders and the elderly must be fully respectful, there must be etiquette, the elderly and young are orderly, and there is a difference between respect and inferiority.
These conventional rules are the premise of educating children to be educated. When a child learns to consciously abide by the rules, he will basically be considered by the public that the child is a good child with upbringing and quality.
The basis for educating children is to let children understand politeness first
The basis for the evaluation of parenting in the public eye is whether the child understands politeness. If a child calls the elder by name directly, disregards the face of his parents, and confronts or accuses his parents in public, it is uncultured. If the child usually treats people and objects, behaves modestly and courteously, and the quality is very good. Well, it shows that the child is very cultured.
Therefore, usually parents can tell their children more: in front of the elders, speak in a peaceful tone, communicate more when things happen, be less willful, and reduce crying. Slowly, the child develops a habit, and he can be obedient and qualified.
Of course, if you are worried about over-educating your child and making your child timid, you should be very cautious and very disciplined. Well, you can adjust your educational approach appropriately and be less serious. Usually smile more at the child, hug the child more, increase the skin touch to the child, and narrow the psychological distance. This will also allow children to obey the rules and raise well.
What do you think the most cultured child looks like?