After the reunion: Sun Haiyang and his wife quietly lived outside their son's village for three days

On December 11, Sun Haiyang and his wife Peng Siying embarked on a journey to find their son. The biggest difference between this day and the departure on December 6 is that the newly retrieved son Sun Zhuo did not go back with them - Sun Zhuo told his biological parents these days that he wanted to finish the semester at his adoptive parents.

From Yanggu County, Liaocheng, where Sun Zhuo grew up, all the way south to Shenzhen, where Sun Haiyang's family now lives, is a long Guangji-Daguang Expressway. Sun Haiyang drove more than 1,700 kilometers alone, resting and stopping to walk all day.

"It's really far..." Peng Siying sighed in the passenger seat, full of pity that he was getting farther and farther away from his son.

In the summer of sun haiyang's 10th year of searching for a son, I once went to Shenzhen to interview the family, and after that, I had occasional but not close ties with Sun Haiyang. He found the child a week ago, and I didn't even feel like I had too good a reason to call and ask him for endless details. After all, I have done little to help him on his way to find his son, and now it is a kind of respect to let him spend a little more time with the child.

This article is a sporadic side note of the family's life before and after Sun Zhuo's recovery. Yi also followed Peng Siying's principle: "If the child is found, you can still come to Shenzhen to sit at home in the future, but we should not disrupt the child's life too much." ”

"Quietly stayed in the place where the kids live for 3 days"

In the early morning of December 10, Peng Siying asked me where I was in WeChat. When she learned that I was not in Yanggu County, she replied with some jokes: "Then I will be relieved." ”

She said that she wanted to quietly see the place where Sun Zhuo grew up in the past few days, afraid that the reporter would follow and attract the attention of the locals and disrupt the child's original life.

In fact, on December 6, the couple and Sun Zhuo took the high-speed train back to their hometown. But they saw that Sun Zhuo was always surrounded by crowds in public, and some were worried about the children, so the couple decided to drive him to his home in Liaocheng Yanggu, so that the three of them could also use the time on the road to talk more.

The real farewell moment was completed when the couple brought their children back to Yanggu County. At that time, they sent Sun Zhuo to the school gate, and Peng Siying also specially sent a WeChat message to the child after the separation, to the effect that she was going to leave tonight to go back to school with peace of mind.

The couple was just firing a shot — they were afraid that their children would know they hadn't left that day and that they had something on their minds at school.

Subsequently, Sun Haiyang and his wife found an inn 2 kilometers away from Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents' village, and in Yanggu for 3 days, the two changed hotels 3 times, seemingly deliberately obscuring their whereabouts. 2 kilometers, this is the safe distance for the couple to observe the child's life circle, keep it as if they are far away, not only can not alarm the people around them, but also can figure out the living habits, vision, and observations of Sun Zhuo in the past 14 years. The couple also went to the trafficker's village to see what kind of place it was.

But the couple never walked into Sun Zhuo's home in Yanggu, nor did they see their adoptive parents over there, and even the neighbors around the house did not dare to disturb, "afraid of alarming the child, and did not know how to communicate with the parents there, after all, the children have feelings for them." Peng Siying did not make any comments about the adoptive parents, even if the adoptive mother issued a statement saying that she did not pay for the child, it was the trafficker who took the initiative to send the child, Peng Siying did not show too much emotion. She understands that any comment that reaches a child's ears can be a disservice. She didn't even dare to judge how good or bad her child had been in her adoptive parents' house over the past few years. "Before meeting Sun Zhuo, we had countless assumptions about good and bad, but now that we meet, we really don't know how to evaluate." Peng Siying said.

In the past few days, outside the gate of the school, Sun Haiyang and his wife have also circled several times, but they have never dared to step inside, afraid of the children's classmates talking. "Now many of my classmates already know about me." Sun Zhuo once told Peng Siying about his situation at school.

Through the class teacher, Peng Siying knew some of Sun Zhuo's situation at school. The class teacher of Sun Zhuo Primary School showed Peng Siying a lot of photos of his childhood, "I saw these photos the most amazingly, and when I saw the happy look of the children at that time, I also smiled." ”

One morning, Peng Siying lost sleep because of stomach pain, and she took the initiative to chat with me on WeChat. In fact, Peng Siying's history of stomach pain is almost as long as the year when Sun Zhuo was abducted, "When Sun Zhuo first left, I was particularly depressed every day, but I didn't want the child's father and the old man to see it, so he often put his head in the quilt and pulled his throat and shouted, or he held his breath and cried, and his stomach was broken after a long time." But at this time, in Yanggu County, where Sun Zhuo lived, she couldn't see a pharmacy that opened late at night, let alone ordered for medicine.

She poured out her feelings after a few days of walking in the child's living environment: "After a lap down, I feel a little backward." Here is like our life more than 20 years ago, everyone uses very few electronic products, there are few enterprises, manufacturing in the county, only a large area of farmland. From these deficiencies and regrets, Peng Siying slowly pieced together her puzzle of her child's life. So when the child came home one day, she knew what to quietly make up for her eldest son.

"This is actually something that the child has thought about many times before he finds it, and when the child returns, I must carefully walk through every corner of his growth." Peng Siying said that this was within the plan.

"The child has not returned, everything is not the end"

The roles of Sun Haiyang and Peng Siying seem to have been inverted in the past few days: before the child was not found, it was always Sun Haiyang who faced the media, and he had unlimited patience and answered questions when dealing with the media. In his words, "Or I went out to look for more, they saw that the children were very similar, but they were not, and they would not be able to accept the collapse." I'm numb, just ask me. ”

After the child was retrieved, Sun Haiyang's words in front of people gradually decreased, and his wife was always politely greeting reporters who had helped them. Sun Haiyang likes to watch his wife and son chat, and rarely gets together to ask questions. Occasionally, he would suddenly sigh with his wife: "It's so good, you don't have to go out and look for it." Maybe Sun Haiyang was not extroverted, but in order to find Sun Zhuo, he became a "person who always talks" for more than a decade. Now he wanted to rest.

In fact, for the couple, even if it was more than a week ago, "Sun Zhuo is coming back" is just a fleeting premonition. Peng Siying said that on December 2, several reporters from CCTV came and said that they wanted to shoot something for their family, "so that maybe Sun Zhuo will be back soon." The family felt that there was something in the reporter's words, after all, in recent years, there have been fewer and fewer media that have really found their homes, and this time there should be some breakthroughs. Later, more and more people came to the family, and the couple's suspicion that Sun Zhuo was going to come back became stronger and stronger. Until December 6, the Shenzhen police notified them to go to the scene of their relatives.

In Peng Siying's circle of friends in the past two years, the younger son is the most frequent. This young son is in primary school in Shenzhen, has learned to host, and has worked as a child model, which may have been what Sun Zhuo should have looked like in his childhood. People who know Sun Haiyang's search for a son know that the birth of the younger son of the Sun family is also related to this search, when the couple hoped that the younger brother could bring the whereabouts of the older brother, so the younger brother's name "Sun Hui" also included the harmonic sound of "Hui".

Yet there is another child— the eldest daughter of the Sun family — who has almost disappeared into the narrative of the Sun family's search for a son. At that time, the reporter went to Sun Haiyang's house to visit the door, and the eldest daughter did not come to say hello after returning home, and went straight into her room. The reporter who had been to Sun Haiyang's home did not mention this eldest daughter as if there was a tacit understanding: Sun Haiyang wanted to tell everyone that the abducted Sun Zhuo was his most precious child. If the eldest daughter is mentioned, some people may question it.

After spending a few days with Sun Haiyang, I can probably appreciate the intentions he did not explicitly say, and after hesitating and deciding not to mention the information of the eldest daughter in the report. Now, this Sun family boss, who is a graduate student at Nanyang Technological University, can finally appear in the reports of various media.

At home in Shenzhen, the 10-year-old son always asked on the phone these days: He was doing housework this weekend, and now that his brother is back, is he going to spend a day doing housework with his brother? The couple could not answer the child's question, after all, Sun Zhuo had not yet said that he would return to his home in Shenzhen, "and he did not decide which room he would sleep in after that, if he was willing to live with his brother, it was best." Peng Siying did not dare to make too many assumptions, for fear that everything would fall short.

In fact, 4 years ago, I went to Sun Haiyang's home, I did not meet Peng Siying, Sun Haiyang said that she happened to go to a private hospital in a foreign country for treatment. In Sun Haiyang's account at that time, his wife fell ill at once because of the abduction of her child: palpitations, bile reflux, varicose veins, and one of the most bottomless diseases was depression. Sun Haiyang said that his wife's only social circle was the patients in the private cancer hospital. But in Peng Siying's circle of friends in recent years, she can't see any trace of her difficult life, she records the growth of a son and a daughter, and the lost eldest son Sun Zhuo has not appeared in the circle of friends.

The whirlpool of calm depths, no one can see clearly. Just like the Sun Haiyang I saw at that time, during the day he shuttled through Shenzhen Zhang Luo's livelihood: to go to the bun shop to see the location of the franchise store, to clean several houses as a second landlord in the urban village, and skillfully negotiate with the tenants, like a flexible and shrewd small businessman. But when it was time to return home, he sat on the couch and talked about finding a son, and his expression became wooden again, and he lowered his head to recall the story he had repeated countless times.

That time Sun Haiyang told me the names of Guo Gangtang, Shen Junliang, peng Gaofeng, the fathers of the searching children, and in the next few years, the names of some of them would suddenly appear in the features of various media pages: their children were found. And Sun Haiyang here, more and more deserted. The children in the Search for Children Alliance found it, and some people will also come to interview Sun Haiyang as a fellow traveler, Sun Haiyang always does not talk much at this time, except for congratulations, he does not know what to say.

"What happened to Sun Zhuo?"

"Still looking, there's no new news." This almost became the fixed closing word of every WeChat greeting between Sun Haiyang and me.

Later, I gradually did not dare to ask Sun Haiyang anything more, and I always felt that any inquiry was a kind of interruption.

Now that Sun Haiyang has found Sun Zhuo, it is as if an era has ended. Although there are still many parents who are still looking for their children on the road, "Sun Zhuo", as a well-known symbol of finding children, will fade out of the public eye, and "Sun Zhuo" will only be a young name from now on.

According to his mother, Peng Siying, Sun Zhuo should continue to live under the name "Sun Zhuo". This is also the agreement between the couple when he has not yet found it: the child does not have to change his name, and he will face many storms alone in his future life, and the name Sun Zhuo only represents a special mark that he once had.

Peng Siying said that she would go to Yanggu County again, "after all, the child has not yet returned home, and it is not the end." ”

Column Editor-in-Chief: Zai Fei Text Editor: Zai Fei Caption Source: Peng Gaofeng

Source: Author: Yang Shuyuan