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Dumb moms are more likely to bring out smart kids!
Many people think that children do not start to learn to speak until they are one year old, children do not understand anything before the age of one, as long as they give the child a good drink and sleep, deal with the defecation he excrete, do not know that all the development of children is not overnight.
Although most children do not speak slowly until they are one year old, in fact, he has heard a lot of language before the age of one, and will watch the mouth shape of the mother when she opens her mouth, and after hearing the emotions in the mother's language, she can slowly speak through the memories and impressions before the age of one, and slowly speak after the age of one.
Therefore, the premise of children learning to speak is that there is a lot of language environment before the age of one.
Some mothers are not born to like to talk, and when taking children, they are often only enough to bury their heads in hard work, feed their children enough milk, change clean diapers for children, and coax children to sleep, but every day with children is quiet, so that the development of children's language will be more delayed, and children will get less stimulation.
And some mothers often like to chat with their children, although I don't know if the child can understand, but as long as the mother speaks, the child will smile or twitter, the mother feels happy.
No matter the big things and small things in the family, they will talk to the children, change the children's diapers, dress the children, and tell the children. Children brought out by such mothers will have a more cheerful and lively personality and better language development.
Therefore, whether the child is raised by the mother who is talkative from childhood, or by the mother who is silent and golden, there will be a certain difference when he grows up.
Is it a mother who brings her child up talking or silent? These gaps are obvious when children grow up, don't take it lightly
Gap one: Speak sooner or later
Before learning to speak, children must understand the meaning of language, and they must first see the shape of their mother's or other dependent's mouth when they speak through their eyes.
So before the child is one year old, the mother is a talker, often chats with the child, tells the child before feeding, the mother is going to give you milk, are you hungry? Tell the child when the diaper is not wet, the mother is now going to change your diaper is not wet, you see this diaper is not wet is pink, the mother first unziped your pants, and then cut your old diaper is not wet to wash your ass.
Such a child receives a very strong language atmosphere in the language of his mother every day, and he can understand the meaning of language earlier, he can also make a voice earlier, and learn to speak earlier.
And the mother usually takes the child when the silence is golden, rarely talk to the child, will make the child feel that talking does not have much effect, and he does not have a rich language atmosphere before learning to speak, there is no more imitation object, which will cause him to speak later.
Gap two: the child's sense of security
For example, when the mother changes the child's diaper, she keeps telling the child's mother what she wants to do for you now, and what you have to do with the mother, which will make the child realize the mother's love and cherishing for herself. In the soft words of the mother, the child can hear the love of the mother, can feel the love of the mother, he can know that he is safe, and the father and mother love himself.
But if the mother is not wet when changing the child's diapers, she does not say a word, rudely replaces the old diapers, and then cleans the child's ass, and soon replaces it with a new diaper, because there is no language description, all the actions make the child feel very abrupt, and even make the child feel uncomfortable.
These children may cry and struggle, but in the end he finds that crying and struggling is useless, he simply does not cry, but he will leave scars in his heart, thinking that his mother does not love me, and the child will get less security.
Gap three: the child's IQ level
Two prominent social cognitologists did a study on the effect of early childhood language skills on IQ, and selected 42 groups of families from different classes as samples, and followed these children for three years.
It was found that in families with mental workers, children heard an average of 487 sentences per hour, while families receiving welfare benefits only listened to an average of 178 sentences per hour. Over the course of three years, children from mentally-minded families and children from welfare families heard 32 million words in total. Later, when they went to school, they found that children with high vocabulary had better language skills than those with low vocabulary.
That is to say, the more parents chat with their children when they are young, the smarter their children become.
So smart mothers must learn to chat with children from an early age, as for how to chat with children, according to the characteristics of children's language development, children of different ages need, parents and children talk about different topics, tone of voice should also be different.
It is recommended that parents can buy a copy of "0~6 years old, seize the critical period of children's language".
The book was written by New Zealand professor Margaret McLegan, who has 30 years of professional experience in children's language development.
From the beginning of the child's language development, for example, before 6 weeks, parents should talk to the child more, no matter what the topic, can talk to the baby, while leaving time for the baby to respond, eye contact should also be made, and the expression on the face should be as exaggerated as possible.
Of course, there are also various stages, how the child's language development is, and how parents should guide it, are very clear.
As long as parents chat with their children according to the guidance inside, you will find that their children's language development will be far better than their peers, and their children's IQ will be higher. The parents who have purchased are also very satisfied. Is a good parenting book.
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