After two years, my husband used cold violence to perfunctory our marriage, and finally came to an end

(For privacy, the names of all characters in this article are fictitious)

I am Jing'er, a mother of two children, because I am petite, pale, and look like an unmarried girl. My husband is the only son in their family, and he has been the treasure of his parents since he was a child, in 2010, under the introduction of the matchmaker, we liked each other, and soon we entered the palace of marriage. A year later, my daughter was born. My husband has been taking care of the family's small business with my father-in-law, although I am not rich and expensive, my life is also passable.

The next year, the son came to our small family again, by this time the family's small business was outdated, not many people patronized, and our lives were in a dilemma. My parents told me that the house in my hometown was going to be demolished, and our family of four was fortunate to receive two houses and a certain demolition subsidy. Just like that, our family moved to the same neighborhood where my parents lived. Suddenly, our lives have changed dramatically. He got a new job, bought a BMW car with the money from the demolition, drove to work every day, and I picked up my kids at home to and from school, and the days went on for two years.

Later, I found that my husband was dressing more and more elaborately, coming back later and later, and sometimes even staying home all night. He always used to be busy as an excuse, but one day I saw a dark-skinned, slightly chubby girl sitting in his car. I completely broke down, I didn't understand why he was looking for a girl who was worse than me, I was unwilling and dismissive, but never thought about divorce. We were completely into the Cold War, and since then, my husband has simply not returned.

I pick up the children every day as usual and help them with their homework. Neighbor Yin Er Dad saw me sullen all day, often when we picked up the child to meet occasionally chat with me, at the beginning it was just the child's homework, he was a responsible man, the wife was busy with his own affairs all day, always did not return home, the child was basically brought up by him a big man, gradually, in my eyes, my heart was full of his voice and smile. In fact, the biggest reason is that the revenge psychology is at work, and as long as I think that he doesn't know where to be with that woman, I don't have any guilt in my heart. In this two-year window of absence, my husband ruthlessly used cold violence to perfunctory our marriage in name only. And I gradually sank in the initial revenge, into what I thought was illegitimate love.

Unsightly love will eventually be exposed to the sun, and this result is not something I can bear.

One day, my husband, who had never stepped into the house for two years, suddenly returned, and this time he happened to run into me and Yin'er's father together. He was so angry that he called everyone in my house, as if he were the only victim. And our marriage has come to an end.

The above is Jing'er's story, the whole story seems so familiar, it seems that everyone around them may encounter the version, but has there been any thought about the reason why it happened behind the story. Have you ever wondered why Jing'er's husband cheated on him, preferring to find a girl who was worse in appearance than his wife. It is said that men are from the Appearance Association, which is not enough. In fact, in the later telephone with her husband learned that Jing Er in the just married, has been ambiguous with a man, persuasion failed, and later moved to the current campus, but also found that she always likes to video chat with others, the mother-in-law met several times, her husband even discussed with her to sell the current house, leave here to live again, but Jing Er did not agree, several times persuasion fruitless, his husband said that it is for the children can not divorce, and then angry but chose not to go home, but also outside the bright and upright cheating.

At this point in the story, I suddenly wanted to laugh, the husband and wife said that they could not divorce for the sake of their children. But they each do the most harmful things to the child, pushing the child to the cusp of the storm and being pointed out behind his back. I wonder if they are worried about whether their children's hearts will be hurt when they each betray their marriage and family and enjoy the pleasure of their own revenge?

Where husband and wife are married. If one party is calm and mature enough to manage the family with a little more heart, things will not evolve to such a point.

Here, I would like to say to those who are confused on the edge of marriage: life is not easy, and it is good to do and cherish.