The moon has clouds and sunshine, and people have sorrows and joys. What should we do when the relationship comes to an end?
In feelings, when people come, someone will leave, and we must get used to parting and know how to say goodbye.
Feelings often come and go uncontrolled, when fate comes, you have to learn to grasp and cherish. When the fate is gone, you must also know how to let go.
In a person's lifetime, it is impossible for only one person to stay.
A relationship can't always be smooth sailing.
Sometimes, if you have a certain obsession with a relationship, refuse to let go easily, and do not know how to reserve appropriate space and space for the other party, you will go narrower and narrower on the road of feelings.
Whether it is facing feelings or life, you should have an inclusive heart.
Although feelings are full of twists and turns, sometimes you will inevitably love the wrong person, but as long as you are brave and strong enough, willing to keep moving forward, you will always meet your own happiness.
Going back to the original question, what do we do when the relationship comes to an end?
First of all, analyze why this relationship will come to an end, so as to summarize the experience and learn lessons for the next relationship.
There are many reasons why a relationship has come to an end.
It could be because you don't have a good personality, it could be because you don't share a common language, it could be because you dislike and dislike each other, or it may be because you are in love with someone else.
Summarizing the reasons for the failure of feelings and recognizing the essence of emotional failure will allow you to get the necessary growth from a failed relationship.
Whatever the reason for the breakup, you should try to get together and disperse.
The premise of a good gathering and dispersion is that you have truly loved each other and are willing to give each other a little dignity when they are separated.
You loved each other vigorously before, and you also gave all your enthusiasm and sincerity to each other, but now all this has been in vain, and in the blink of an eye, it has become a passing cloud.
When you know that your relationship has come to an end, he no longer loves you, and he has completely let go of you in his heart, you should let go as soon as possible, instead of stalking him, because this is meaningless, it is a waste of time and energy.
Second, don't blame the other person too much.
Although you broke up and there was an irreparable rift in your relationship, I still don't recommend that you blame your ex excessively. After all, you once loved each other with all your heart.
Of course, if he does something particularly sorry for you, such as cheating you out of money, hurting your family, etc., such a person is naturally not worth your continued contact with him, even ordinary friends can't do it.
If your breakup is only because of some irreconcilable contradictions, for example, you have no tacit understanding at all, and you find that you are not suitable for living together through a period of interaction, then you can choose to get together with him.
Break up to see character. Since you are about to break up with him, you don't have to talk harshly to him anymore, but you should maintain the necessary decency and leave appropriate room for each other.
Being grateful will make your life better.
Don't over-blame or hate your ex because it's not worth it.
When you are good at distilling life wisdom from a failed emotional experience and knowing how to be grateful, it will prompt you to become a better version of yourself.
Furthermore, you have to know how to stop losses in time.
No matter how much you love someone, as long as he doesn't love you, or he has someone else in his heart, you should let go as soon as possible and stop the loss in time.
You don't want to be controlled by sunk costs in your relationship.
The so-called sunk cost refers to the time, money, and emotions you have paid for this relationship, and these things can no longer be recovered.
Sometimes, the reason why you are reluctant to give up a fictitious relationship is not necessarily because you still love this person, but because you are not willing to let everything you have given go to waste.
However, you must understand that feelings cannot be forced and reconciled. Now that you know that the relationship will never go back to the past and that your relationship has completely broken down, you should quit early.
Only when you don't wave away the wrong person early can you meet the right person as soon as possible.
Instead of stumbling through a broken relationship and trying to be unflattering, you should let go decisively and rediscover your happiness.
As you keep going, you will encounter more beautiful scenery.
The energy of love is conserved. When you want to have more love, you first have to take the initiative to give your love.
As the writer Shi Dingrou said: "Love is a gift." It's not that you can give, it means you have. It's you give, you have. ”
It's a beautiful thing to be with someone you love.
When your heart is full of great love, you will not be easily trapped by love.
In the face of a failed relationship, you will also calmly let go. Because you know that there is still a long way to go in life, and there are more beautiful people and things worth encountering.
When the relationship comes to an end, please don't feel overly sad and depressed about it, you can be sad for a while, but don't get caught up in it all the time.
Since the relationship has come to an end, then you should give up decisively, turn around, love yourself well, and continue to move forward.
You have to believe that you deserve better feelings.