At the beginning of the marriage, we always looked forward to a small family, with you and me, I had children, and spent a long time together, but as we walked, many people scattered.
When the marriage cannot continue and the husband and wife face separation, the child's retention becomes a big problem because he has to make a choice.
In most cases, the child may follow the mother, after all, the mother accompanies the child for a longer time during the growth process, but some people are reluctant to let the child follow the mother because the man is reluctant or for other reasons.
Even so, if the party who gets the custody can take good care of the children, it is not impossible, but by this time in marriage, many couples have no love between them.
Even many people use children as chips.
Fuzhou Xiaozheng and her husband are colleagues, the two married and have a child, but now the relationship can not continue, because the other party always moves, and finally the two sides agreed to divorce, usually the man with the child, she went to visit on the weekend.
However, the divorce agreement was not negotiated, the man directly hid the child, did not let the woman see the child, Xiao Chen has not seen the child for 6 months, she does not know if the child belongs to the man in the future, is she no longer have the opportunity to see the child.
It was not wrong for my husband to say that he was the guardian, and she came to my house to make a big fuss, so I didn't let her see the child.
Every adult has an adult reason, but the child is so young, there is no choice, he is more difficult, this will become a shadow of his life, adults still need time and means to ease the mood.
What about children? He was innocent, there was no way but to bear it silently, even full of fear, and to bear the dissatisfaction in the hearts of adults.
Some people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and some people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
Marriage may not be able to get divorced at the end of the day, but it's harder to meet an immature man.
The matter of two people, involving innocent people, is not allowed to see the child, not to love her, but to deprive her of the right to be loved by her mother, which is really harmful to her.
Not allowing the child to see the mother, retaliating against the woman for hurting the child, but also hurting himself.
The child was conceived by the mother in October, and it has taken a lot of hardship to raise it to this day.
What's more, maternal love is irreplaceable by anyone, and if you have a small heart, you will plant hatred for your mother, which is too cruel to your children.
The root cause is selfishness, let go of selfishness, let life return to nature, back to the form of life, it is possible for children to live a healthy life in the case of losing their home.
Because the exchange of blackmail for integrity is not the integrity of the home.
Just like in "The Second Time is Also Beautiful", An An went up to the tree in order to see the child, it was Yu Feifan who let An An take the child at home, and now he hates that the two have no common topic, and the divorce also has to rob the child with An An.
Because of the divorce of the parents, the child has lost a complete home, and now because of the extremes of one party, the child is directly hidden.
If the marriage cannot continue, do not let the love of the parents be missing, and the child surrounded by love is undoubtedly happy.
Home can be absent, and love as a parental role cannot be absent.
If you insist on letting your child participate in the adult competition, in the end, you will win the child, it will also ruin the child's life, and you may also dislike the child.
Such a move will only ruin the lives of 3 people, and the adult's life will be cured by itself, but the child's life will be too difficult, and it will be affected from generation to generation.
Therefore, as an adult, first be independent and mature as an adult, and then talk about marriage, if you really want to get married, please be cautious about having children.
Because having children is irreversible, you are responsible for a life.
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May you listen to the sorrow and joy in your marriage, be the banyan tree hole of your emotions, and accompany you all the way