How to keep a distance between the opposite sex is an eternal topic.
Cao Zhi's "Gentleman's Walk" wrote: "Gentlemen are precautionary, not in the suspicious room, melon fields do not take care of themselves, and Li Xia does not complete the crown." ”
The meaning of this sentence is, walk through the melon field, do not bend down to carry your shoes; pass under the plum tree, do not raise your hand to tidy up the hat.
Metaphorical avoidance of suspicion.
The same applies to friends of the opposite sex.
Chatting between the opposite sex, too intimate salutations, it is easy to make the other party think differently; some ambiguous words are easy to cause unclear misunderstandings.
Therefore, even if the heterosexual relationship is good, it must know how to avoid suspicion and cannot call each other so on WeChat.
01
"Dear"
Many times, it is not bad for friends to occasionally make a joke between them, you can enliven the atmosphere and close the relationship between each other, but between friends of the opposite sex, you must remember to grasp the scale of jokes.
Some things can be said, and some words must not be said.
For example, "dear", you must not call the other person that way.
Because the word "dear" itself is very ambiguous, it is easy for your lover to misunderstand.
When you call others dear, you are not open-minded or omniscient, but you put the other person in a very special position, and in the long run, the difference of the other party will be highlighted.
Therefore, one can call one's lover "dear",
To know that the relationship between the opposite sex is not lovers, do not have too ambiguous titles, all day dear dear call, shouting and shouting is difficult to forget.
02
"What are you doing, missing you"
This sentence is even more resolutely rejected, which is also said to women.
Where did you put your lover when you said this?
Thinking of you, the implication is that you are thinking about him, as long as you say it, it crosses the ordinary relationship between men and women.
Thinking of you can not say casually, sometimes say it, let the other party misunderstand, may not be able to go back to your relationship.
Friends of the opposite sex should take sincerity as the premise and frankness as the standard to make friends, and do not produce the slightest emotion. Because of this emotion, not only will you not be intimate with each other, but it may also alienate each other.
03
"He or she is not as good as you"
After a long relationship, people will unconsciously compare the temptations outside with their other half.
But that's not a reason for you to talk to someone, or an excuse for you to poke someone's scar.
"He (she) is not as good as you", this sentence must not be said, because these words are like knives, which will hurt the other party's body and be covered in blood!
In life, maybe your other half is not perfect, most of the time you will be angry and stomp your feet,
But since we are in love with each other, we must love him in its entirety, tolerate his advantages, understand his difficulties, and remember his benefits, so that the feelings will become stronger and stronger.
In particular, do not count your lovers in front of friends of the opposite sex, which is the most hurtful thing to do.
Be measured externally, be loyal to your lover, and be responsible for your family! It is what we should pay the most attention to, and it is also the one that we should remember the most. Keeping a distance from the opposite sex, there is no harm, and everything that may be destroyed in the swaddling, so that the lives of two people are calm!