Marriage is a marriage joint-stock company composed of both spouses, and both parties are obliged to contribute to the accumulation of the company through their own characteristics of investing in the emotional aspect. In a sense, to look at marriage from a practical point of view, the union of two people is to create a better future for both parties to create a better future under the mutual excitement and companionship.
The frankness before marriage can provide a reference for each other to choose, the husband and wife need to be like-minded, if the two people are not in harmony before marriage, even if they are barely together, it is difficult to agree in life after marriage. A good marriage can accept each other's strengths and weaknesses, can rely on each other, and can reach the depths of each other's hearts.
Married couples also need emotional communication, men often ignore the emotional maintenance of the other half after marriage, while women need to rely on emotions to care. After many couples get married, wives feel that their husbands do not love themselves, and the image of care and care after marriage and before marriage is far from the same. On the one hand, as a husband, you should not skimp on expressing your love for your wife; on the other hand, as a wife, you should be considerate of the busyness and exhaustion of your husband who needs to fight for the family.
When a family lives together, it is inevitable that there will be some big and small things that are not going well, no matter what happens, remember not to criticize the family. A large part of the reason why we are dissatisfied with our other half and our children is because we have too high expectations of others, and if we lower our requirements for others, we will naturally not have so many emotional fluctuations. We need to try to understand them and listen to their voices instead of blaming them.
One of the main reasons why men are reluctant to go home is that wives always love to nag endlessly, and chatter is a deadly weapon that destroys love. Napoleon III often fled the palace late at night because he had a nagging wife, just in search of a quiet place; Tolstoy, at the age of 82, preferred to wander and die in the cold winter than to see his wife who was nagging and hysterical.
There are 4 common reasons for marital failure: 1. The disharmony of couples' lives. 2. Different opinions on leisure. 3. Family financial difficulties. 4. Psychological and physical abnormal phenomena of living emotions.
Although equality between men and women is now everywhere, there is a common phenomenon in the family today: widowed marriage! Women are often violently criticized and responsible for neglecting their families and children for their work, while fathers who are often busy with work and socializing seem to take this family attitude for granted.
The child's education requires both parents to play the role of a good parent to complete, not the responsibility of a person, the child's parents' concept of the family will directly affect the child, perhaps leading to the final problem of the lack of paternal love in the family now, or because of the cancer left over from our earlier Chinese idea of male superiority and female inferiority. Fathers, for the sake of your children, please let this harm end in your generation and go home to accompany your children.
Author: Shang Yulan