Two days ago, I watched a Japanese movie "The Life of the Rejected Matsuko" on the recommendation of a friend, which was adapted from the novel of the same name by Soki Yamada.
Matsuko Kawajiri was born in Fukuoka in 1947 to a well-off family, grew up peacefully, and became a middle school teacher after graduating from university. She was expelled for harboring students to steal money, and ran away from home in a hurry, and from then on she began her life of falling more and more.
Chu Chu lived with a new novelist, but was beaten up every day after witnessing her boyfriend commit suicide in bed. He also cohabited with his ex-boyfriend's competitor, giggled and went to meet his wife, and was once again abandoned.
Self-abandonment to do massage girls, after the red quickly passed, raised a pimping little white face, actually small white face to roll her money with other women to go, in a rage to kill the little white face.
In a hurry, he fled to the place where his ex-boyfriend's favorite writer, Osamu Dazai, committed suicide and wanted to die, who knew that the time had passed, and the water here was not shallow enough to be knee-deep. Matsuko did not die, and immediately followed a hairdresser, wanting to be a good person.
Unexpectedly, the police chased after her, imprisoned for eight years, and when she came out, she thought she could start over with the barber, who knew that the barber's children would play soy sauce, and she left again.
Reunited with the student who made her leave, Long Yangyi, she is willing to be a woman in the underworld, and believes that there will be no more men in her life. However, she was scolded and hunted down, and because of this, she also disabled one of her legs, but after waiting for eight years, she waited for an old punch after Long Yangyi was released from prison.
The man who changed matsuko's fate for the rest of her life also finally ended all her hopes for life, and Matsuko has since become a person, eating and drinking every day, not dressing up or cleaning up the room, becoming a fat garbage woman. Just when she may have the last shred of life, she ended up dying under the baseball bats of a group of middle school students.
Director Tetsuya Nakajima uses the form of a drama song and dance drama to show a smart and beautiful woman, who has been looking for love in men's fists and deceptions all her life, and finally still can't get the story of the life she wants, showing us the story of the picture rich in color, the use of music is diverse, forming a strong visual impact, but after watching it, I feel very depressed in my heart, and I feel breathless for a long time.
Why is it that a positive and optimistic person, with the spirit of not dying, fights against life, but still cannot escape the tragic life?
Adler once said in the book "The Psychology of Children's Education", "All children have an innate sense of inferiority, which stimulates children's imagination and stimulates them to eliminate inferiority by improving the status quo." ”
Matsuko grew up in a motherless family, had a younger brother and a sick sister, so her father poured almost all his fatherly love and attention to his sister, and she was the neglected and strictly demanding child.
In the child's view, the father's strict requirements are not to recognize their own dissatisfaction, so Matsuko has a strong sense of inferiority since she was a child, she tried her best to get her father's love, and finally she found herself like a clown to play a grimace to win her father a smile, so playing a grimace became the only chance she had from childhood to adulthood to get her father's smile.
As she grew up, grimacing became a form of defense for her, which was a metaphor for Matsuko's ego not growing up in this regard.
Adler once said, "As far as children are concerned, a strong sense of inferiority evokes excessive aggressiveness, like a poison into the soul, and the child will never feel satisfied." ”
In the film, Matsuko in the eyes of many people is incomprehensible, she worked hard, insisted, once a beautiful music teacher, do massage girls can also quickly become popular, prison can also adhere to the next plate of sports, but also become a beauty student, she has never been confident that she is also the "God" in the eyes of others, but no matter how hard she tries, she can not let herself get rid of the inferiority complex rooted in her childhood.
Because excessive aggressiveness makes her inner sensitivity and vigilance, as soon as she meets a man, her flattering personality will become the sword that will eventually hurt herself. Every man she meets in her life has become a "psychological father" that she wants to please, but this "flattery" eventually becomes "dislike", because in the relationship, inferiority makes her have no self, no bottom line, no boundaries.
Therefore, Matsuko's life is ultimately a life that she has abandoned, the attention and love that she did not get in childhood has become what she has sought in her life, and the flattering personality pattern formed in childhood has made her ability to develop emotional and social relations stagnant; the unfinished self-development of youth hinders the formation of her correct attitude to life and the formation of social outlook in adulthood, which eventually leads to her tragic life.
Matsuko uses the story of a lifetime to reflect Adler's famous saying: Happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood.