In 1922, nineteen-year-old Lu Xiaoman obeyed his parents' orders and married the twenty-eight-year-old Wang Geng. After a sensational wedding in Beijing, Lu Xiaoman's gorgeous and comfortable girl's life reached the end, opening a half-life of entanglement with three men and playing a good hand.
The marriage of Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng is described a lot in modern literature. The promising young general who returned from studying abroad, and the talented and beautiful Miss Qianjin, the two personalities that seemed to be the right person in the door were opposite, and they had been unable to communicate well, and there were many crises in the three years of marriage!
Wang Geng, who was busy with official duties, had to entrust his wife to the care of his brother Xu Zhimo, and did not want to give the two the opportunity to fall in love. A romantic poet whose hobbies are in love with words and love, a frustrated beauty who has come to hand in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, the two fell in love without accident. The hot and crazy love makes Lu Xiaoman risk death to fall into the child with Wang Geng.
Figure | Lu Xiaoman, the first husband Wang Geng
In 1926, after Liang Qichao read the marriage testimony that made the two people feel self-conscious, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo, who broke through the world's barriers, finally became dependents, and Wang Geng also sent the blessing of "bitter and sweet to know the taste". Unfortunately, this is not the end of the happiness of Xu Lu and Lu, but the beginning of the abyss.
After the new marriage, Lu Xiaoman showed love to Xu Zhimo in the Xu family without scruples, and the feeding and hugging were staged in turn, which made the second elder of the Xu family very annoyed, and Xu Zhimo had to take her to Shanghai.
The life of the Ten Mile Ocean Field made Lu Xiaoman feel like a fish in the water, completely lost in the paper drunken gold fans. Countless beautiful clothes, feasts and rewards every three to five minutes, and the pomp and circumstance of the family servants made Xu Zhimo unable to make ends meet every month. And because she was physically weak, she also met Weng Ruiwu, who had a hand massage ability, to condition her body, and began to smoke opium under his persuasion.
The inevitable tragedy that followed was well known to the public: Xu Zhimo had to run for his life in order to earn money to support his family, and frequently traveled to Nanjing, Shanghai and Beiping to teach. In November 1931, he flew to Beiping on a free postal plane and was killed by bad weather!
Xu Zhimo's death made Lu Xiaoman's love for him deep and clear, making his image indelible in Lu Xiaoman's heart. Lu Xiaoman, who was only 28 years old, took off his Chinese clothes and refused to travel to the banquet, away from the once-enthusiastic lights and wines, immersed himself in sorting out the remains of his deceased husband, and studied painting with famous teachers He Tianjian and Chen Banding to cultivate his body and mind.
Figure | Wedding photo with Xu Zhimo in the past
However, At this time, Lu Xiaoman was completely inseparable from Weng Ruiwu, who was around to take care of her life. She took opium every day at a huge cost, and her illness and illness for many years were laissez-faire, but Weng Ruiwu, who already had a family, always cared for her kindly and beautiful face. He often prepared opium for her to smoke at home, and specially bought her Lao Chang's Western-style snacks and wine hearts and chocolates. He also tried his best to create romance for her, and on snowy days, he brought her the cleanest snow outside and made "snow water tea", just to make her smile.
Widowed Lu Xiaoman, the sick body needs Weng Ruiwu treatment, life needs Weng Ruiwu care, and her heart needs Weng Ruiwu's company at noon to relieve loneliness. Over time, Lu Xiaoman finally stopped struggling and committed himself to him who only had feelings and no love.
Weng Rui accompanied Lu Xiaoman for nearly 30 years, accompanied her to sing and paint, brought her tea and water, and provided her with medicine and diet without slacking off. In order to make Lu Xiaoman's life comfortable, he has held many jobs, and even sold his family's Tibetan paintings and antiques, which can be described as the most affectionate.
Figure | Weng Rui noon
However, seemingly perfect feelings, broken can not be prevented. By the mid-1950s after liberation, Lu Xiaoman had lost his former charm, his skin was loose, his teeth were out, and his white hair was disheveled. Weng Ruiwu cheated again, and the object was actually Lu Xiaoman's 18-year-old adopted daughter Guan Xiaobao. The two gave birth to a daughter in 1955. Weng Ruiwu was arrested and imprisoned for two years, and after he came out, his lung disease worsened and he was plagued by illness. At this time, Lu Xiaoman had already joined the work under the arrangement of the state, and she not only raised his young illegitimate daughter, but also went to the hospital to take care of him from time to time until his death in 1961.
In the first half of their relationship, he desperately gave everything for her; in the second half, she did not abandon and tolerated all his faults. Although she was determined not to marry him in those years, she always brought harm to his wife and children. And after he accompanied her for more than twenty years, he actually secretly spent time with her adopted daughter Chen Cang, giving her the greatest humiliation and betrayal. Maybe she has seen through the world as a reincarnation, and in the face of these things, she can deal with it without anger or sorrow!
The image of Lu Xiaoman circulating in the world is a few periods of affair and daily spending. In fact, this talented woman by nature, there is also a little-known B side of life: prosperous and full of cloth shoes and plain clothes, calligraphy and painting works left a name in history!
Lu Xiaoman was entangled with three men in his life, and he was controversial and even criticized. Many people criticize her for disregarding the world and squandering lifestyle, believing that she relies on parasitizing different men to get a comfortable life, and has a talent but never wants to support herself and never make a due contribution to society.
In fact, such an evaluation is really unfair to her!
Because of his proficiency in the British and French Chinese, the seventeen-year-old Lu Xiaoman was already a diplomatic assistant hand-picked by Gu Weijun, the minister of foreign affairs of Beiyang. As a young woman, she has a high emotional intelligence, can attack and defend in the diplomatic field, and is free to advance and retreat.
Once she accompanied the French general Xiafei to review the Beiyang honor guard, and General Xiafei questioned the messy behavior of the honor guard. She wits to resolve the embarrassment: just because the general is a famous hero, everyone can't help but be excited to see you, so the movements can't be neat!
In the face of foreign guests complaining that the traditional Chinese programs arranged by the foreign guests have lost the standards of a big country, she did not hesitate to reply: the characteristics of the country are not unspeakable, it is just that you can't understand it!
Gu Weijun once said to a friend: "Lu Ding's face is not smart at all, but his daughter Miss Lu Xiaoman is so beautiful and smart!" ”
If in modern times, with her intelligence and talent, she would have been able to become an outstanding female diplomat. Unfortunately, at that time, even for high-society women, the only destination was marriage.
Figure | Lu Xiaoman silhouette
Lu Xiaoman was born in a rich and noble family, his father Lu Ding was a man in the late Qing Dynasty, and later studied at Waseda University in Japan, and returned to China to serve in the Ministry of Finance of the National Government, and his mother Wu Manhua was also a famous person. Her parents died 8 children prematurely, and she is the only one of them to bear fruit, which can be described as a combination of thousands of pampering and top resources. As a woman who was born in that era and owned everything, it was a daily routine to spend thousands of dollars at home, and no one would mention the concept of "making money" to her.
She is indeed talented and talented, and she is extremely talented in piano, chess, calligraphy, painting and poetry, not only good at Chinese pen and ink Danqing, but also in Western oil painting, and even has a high degree of achievement in innovative novels. And all kinds of talents seem to be handy, but which one is dazzling. In today's view, she can earn a lot of money by relying on any talent, and economic independence is not an easy task?
However, at that time, Lu Xiaoman's talents were cultivated by her parents according to the requirements of high society for celebrities, and the purpose of training was by no means to make her economically independent by virtue of her talents. At that time, families cultivated famous women with only one purpose: to highlight the success of family education and pave the way for marrying a good son-in-law. Lu Xiaoman's parents directly arranged an arranged marriage for her. After the newly married, Lu Xiaoman was directly refused by Wang Geng to continue to serve outside the country. At that time, if the women in the family went to show their faces to sell their art in order to make a few dollars, it meant that they had fallen into the class, which was absolutely unacceptable to the upper class.
Therefore, although Lu Xiaoman was the pioneer of women's fashion at that time, the idea that he was indoctrinated from childhood to adulthood was that women could enjoy the wealth given by men at home. She does not have the concept of independence on her own, nor does she know how to start independent, so she will deliberately avoid when she suddenly loses her financial dependence, which is the reaction of normal people.
But Xu Zhimo's death was indeed the first watershed in Lu Xiaoman's life.
She wrote "Crying Mo", the writing skills were fully demonstrated, and the pain jumped on the paper:
I am convinced that there is no pen in the world that can describe how sad I am now in my heart. Don't say that I myself am a team that can't be easily moved. But other than that, I had no chance to vent my heart full of grief, and I hoped that Mo's soul would also come to help me, and the heavens gave me this thunderbolt so bad that I was so numb that I couldn't cry out, and my body was just numb. After a few days of drowsiness, I didn't wake up until today, knowing that you really said goodbye to me forever! rub! If you say it's you, even if it's the sky, you can't know how painful and sad I am in my heart now!
In the Qingming Dynasty of 1933, Lu Xiaoman came to Jiaoshi alone to give Xu Zhimo a grave, leaving a poem in pain:
The feeling of intestinal brokenness has not disappeared, and this heart has long been sent to Yunjiao.
Over the years, I have been more aware of the cold taste of the wilderness, and I wrote that the lakes and mountains are always lonely.
Before Xu Zhimo's death, she sang night and night, arrogant and indulgent; after his death, she suddenly woke up and avoided the hustle and bustle of the world. Xu Zhimo has always hoped that Lu Xiaoman can do a little career away from decadence seriously, such as painting and writing. In the thirty-four years since he left, she has lived as he once expected:
"Yunyou", "Aimei Xiaozha", "Shima Diary", "Selected Poems of Xu Zhimo", and "The Complete Works of Shima" are all compiled and compiled into books by her. Xu Zhimo, a modern romantic poet, can have many works circulated in the world, which is inseparable from the efforts of his widow Lu Xiaoman!
In 1941, after ten years of closing the door, Lu Xiaoman held his first solo exhibition at the Daxin Gallery on the fourth floor of Shanghai Daxin Company. More than 100 paintings are based on landscapes, flowers and birds, the content is vivid and not kitsch, widely praised by the art community, and the works are sold out.
Mr. Dong Qiao admired Xiao Man's paintings. He once saw a pair of Lu Xiaoman imitating the Tang Dynasty painter Pei Kuan's fan-faced "Qiulin Scattered Horse", the beauty of the painting of the horse "with light color, with a thin pen, that is Lu Xiaoman's natural skill, coupled with small letters, characters with bone and flesh, the inscription is ancient and beautiful." ”
Figure | Beiyang Pictorial, November 13, 1926
Fast forward to 1947, Lu Xiaoman made another amazing decision, voluntarily admitted to the hospital for drug rehabilitation. After more than twenty years of opium consumption, the pain of abstinence is very unbearable. But this woman who has always been pampered has a strong will beyond ordinary people at this moment, and successfully got rid of drug addiction.
Soon after the founding of New China, Lu Xiaoman ushered in the second major turning point in his life.
In 1956, at the age of 53, Lu Xiaoman, under the care of Chen Yi, the mayor of Shanghai, received her her first official job as a librarian at the Shanghai Museum of Culture and History. She cherishes this hard-won opportunity, earns an income by working hard, and still picks up the paintbrush in her spare time. During this period, she had a photograph, cloth cloth shoes, lead Hua washed a slight smile, and there was the indifference and obedience of the world under her eyes.
Figure | Lu Xiaoman in his later years
Her painting skills, which she had persisted for many years, were also increasingly sophisticated, and her works were selected for national art exhibitions twice in 1949 and 1955. Lu Xiaoman, who is highly regarded by the Chinese art world, has worked harder, and from time to time new works have come out. In 1958, he was finally invited by the Shanghai Artists Association to become a full-time painter at the Shanghai Academy of Chinese Painting. Since then, she has created the best work of her life. Its brush flowers light ink landscape, see the tradition, people are in a trance.
However, most of her masterpieces are collected by the Shanghai China Academy of Painting, and very few are circulated to the outside world. In recent years, the auction price of her paintings has risen, and the auction price of millions of dollars ranks first among female painters in the same period, which shows the market's recognition and pursuit of her works.
Her proficiency in English not only played an outstanding role in the Beiyang government, but also played a role after the founding of the People's Republic of China, successfully translating tagore's novels and autobiographical novels Agnes Gray. Her adaptation of the historical story "The Wife of Hebo" (also known as "Ximen Leopard Zhiye"),was published by the Shanghai Culture Publishing House in 1957.
Figure | Published in The Shanghai Pictorial No. 253, July 15, 1927
Inspired by the new China, the first lady of the Republic of China, the political and ideological outlook has also undergone tremendous changes. In 1956, he joined the Peasants' and Workers' Democratic Party and became a member of the Xuhui District Literary and Art Branch. In the following 1959, she also became a counselor in the counselor office of the Shanghai Municipal People's Government, actively participating in the administration and discussion of politics, and offering suggestions and suggestions. That year, he was even more fortunate to be rated as a March 8th Red Flag Bearer by the National Fine Arts Association!
In the autumn of 1964, at the request of the painting academy, Lu Xiaoman, who was terminally ill, painted four pairs of beautiful and poetic landscape banners for Du Fu Caotang in Chengdu, which were used for the "Exhibition of Du Fu's Life" and were appreciated by the Chinese and foreign guests. She asked her girlfriend Zhao Qingge with the painting: "Do you think my paintings are more advanced than before liberation?" Zhao Qingge looked at it and said, "You have drawn the artistic conception and charm of Du Shi, which can be regarded as zimei's confidant!" She was very comforted when she heard it. The following spring, that is, he died a long time ago, and he escaped the upcoming ten-year movement.
Hu Shi once said: Lu Xiaoman is a must-see scenery in Beijing. Husband Xu Zhimo said: A pair of eyes are also talking, the sun is shining, the secret of the heart spring. It can be seen that he was unique in his youth. The famous yuan of the Republic of China has the saying of "Southern Tang and Northern Land", and Lu is Lu Xiaoman. Beauty is highly sought after in every era, and it is not surprising that men compete to bend their waists and have several relationships to live today.
But what Lu Xiaoman left to the world was not just the right and wrong of his relationship with three men. People say she lived a ridiculous life, was not financially and personally independent, and did not understand her very differently for the second half of her life. Fortunately, the spiritual wealth of her other world, the paintings and literary works left behind, will be passed on forever to the world for future generations to admire and taste, and will be recorded in the history of modern Chinese literature and art along with the long river of history. Perhaps these are the greatest comforts for this woman who has gone through vicissitudes!
Figure | Published in The Shanghai Pictorial No. 554, February 6, 1930
Text | Woe-wee-
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