He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
"Cai Tianfeng's case", I sorted it out based on some news reports on the Internet.
A feeling that can only be described in 1 word: contemplative and terrifying.
There is a goal, there is a plan, Cai Tianfeng's ex-husband's family planned such a case with no capital and billions of profits under completely rational conditions.
Why is it "no capital billion profit"?
Cai Tianfeng herself is a wealthy financially independent woman, plus her parents are also in business.
According to reports: Cai Tianfeng's personal worth has exceeded 100 million.
And she and her ex-husband do not have a certificate, and the inheritance belongs to 4 children, which means that the 2 children she has with her ex-husband can share at least 50 million assets.
There is no death penalty in Hong Kong, and I saw a lawyer on the Internet who analyzed:
If Cai Tianfeng's ex-husband's family has a mastermind to bear all the responsibility, it is to be locked up for decades or indefinitely.
The rest were released after a few years and lived the rest of their lives dashingly with Cai Tianfeng's tens of millions of assets.
A family of cold-blooded, cold-blooded, well-planned, and severely psychologically distorted.
What word should be used to describe such a person?
Cai Tianfeng's ex-husband's family is "bad to the bone."
First: the ex-husband has a previous conviction, and the ex-father-in-law also has a previous conviction
According to news reports: her ex-husband has a history of fraud; Her former father-in-law, a former police officer, was also arrested after committing a crime.
When a father and son are "these kinds of people" in a family, do you think they are reliable?
A girl, when she is young, often blinded by love and caught in love brain.
Men are good-looking, useless.
The key is to see his character and the character of his family.
Second: For the sake of profit, unscrupulous and ungrateful people
Cai Tianfeng, even after the divorce, has repeatedly given financial help to her ex-husband's family.
They lived in villas and spent Cai Tianfeng's money.
But these, instead of gaining their gratitude, caused them "deeper jealousy and resentment."
Through Cai Tianfeng's case, all women should understand these marriage truths.
-01
Find a partner to marry, you must be "in charge"
Women should not fantasize about "high marriage", because wealthy marriages may not be as happy as you think;
A woman who wants to change her destiny through marriage unless you have a good mind, super high emotional intelligence, and have strong endurance.
But such a woman can often be financially independent by herself, so why do you need to rely on marriage to achieve a counterattack in life?
Women should not lose their minds and think about "getting married".
The man you marry may not know how to be grateful, because one of the weaknesses of human nature is: greed and ambition.
"Greed is not enough to swallow the elephant".
When a person is in trouble, you pull him and let him get through the difficulty, he will remember your kindness for a lifetime;
When a person can easily enjoy your gifts by getting something for nothing, he doesn't know how to be grateful at all.
Because he will take your contribution for granted.
-02
It doesn't matter if a man is temporarily poor, what is scary is that he is "poor in heart"
What kind of man, unreliable?
He is not only poor, but also has a poor heart.
To put it simply: poor thinking, laziness, lack of progress, not progress.
If you look at the people around you, you'll find:
A man, as long as he is practical, motivated, diligent and hardworking, as long as he is willing to work, he can run a family well.
We don't talk about whether we are rich or not, and it's perfectly fine to provide for our families.
However, if a man is ambitious, greedy for cheapness, unenterprising, and not motivated in the slightest.
Then his life will be wasted.
This type of person has common characteristics:
envy of the rich and despise the poor; complaining about others, mocking others; I never reflect on myself and think I'm right.
They have a distinct "antisocial personality", referred to as "angry youth".
-03
Character is always more important than "face"
Some girls are always prone to "irrationality" in the matter of finding a partner to marry, and make decisions based entirely on momentary favor and sensibility.
Are there any such girls around you?
Seeing the handsome boy with a good figure, he was immediately attracted.
Typical "appearance is above".
As long as they are with good-looking boys, the rest of the factors are not considered at all.
"Good-looking skin bags are the same".
Even if the other party looks good, after ten years and eight years together, when people reach middle age, they will be blessed and gradually become ugly.
At this time, the importance of character and character is highlighted.
Around me, most women have a habit before marrying a man:
"Pack inquire".
Find someone to inquire about the boy's family situation, whether the man's parents and family are reliable, and whether they have committed anything.
Isn't this the most basic preparation for marriage?
Even if the other party's parents and family members make serious mistakes, do not marry over.
Cai Tianfeng is the most typical example.
-04
At any time, women should not give up on "realizing self-worth"
What is self-worth?
Broken down includes:
Financial independence, independent personality, with a strong "sense of self".
Simply put:
"The old lady has the ability, has a career, and can make money; I don't need to rely on you to live well, and the reason why I married you is because I am attracted to you; If I find out that you are sorry for me and find that we are not suitable for marriage, I have the ability and courage to divorce you at any time. ”
Never put your hopes in someone;
Never try to achieve self-worth through marriage.
If you want others to look at you, you first have to be able to look at yourself.
Only when a woman has money can she have confidence;
Women are brave so that they are not bullied.
Today's Topic:
What do you think of the "Cai Tianfeng" case?
What else do you think women need to consider when getting married?