When the opposite sex gets along, the essence of affection is: attraction.
Personal attraction is the self that a person reveals to the outside world.
Including: external image, personality, hard indicator conditions.
How to increase personal attractiveness?
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Improve your external image
There is a concept in psychology called the "first impression effect".
Meaning:
The first impression often determines a person's impression score and favorability.
The better the first impression, the higher the score given to the other person.
Whether it's interpersonal interactions, intimacy or you're choosing an item, first impressions matter.
When the opposite sex gets along, it's like you buy clothes.
You go shopping to buy clothes, and at every store, you scan the clothes roughly.
If it doesn't attract you, you'll turn around and leave; If there is a piece of clothing that attracts you, your attention will be instantly captured.
The same is true when interacting with the opposite sex.
If the other person has a good external image, you can't help but look at it a few more times.
It's like walking on the road and facing a person of the opposite sex.
His temperament, dressing, facial features, attract you at first glance.
At this moment, there is a voice in your heart: "How can there be such a good-looking person?" ”
It is at this moment that attraction occurs.
So, how to improve your external attractiveness so that the opposite sex "shines" at the first sight of you?
It's actually quite simple.
First: the instrument is clean, generous and tidy
Well understood.
For boys:
Don't wear too pompous clothes, don't exaggerate the shape, this will make girls feel that you are "unstable".
"Big gold chain small watch"
"Leggings, Beanie Shoes"
How many points will a girl give in such a dress?
You just need to be "generous, clean and tidy".
Clean clothes, neat face, decent and suitable for your hairstyle.
For girls:
Also, don't dress too pompously and don't have too much makeup.
Clean is aesthetic, neat and decent is a plus.
You can be young and cute, you can be a royal sister, you can be loli style, you can also be mature in the workplace, these are all right.
Second: improve external temperament
There were two boys standing together.
A boy hunched his back, unable to stand straight, walking leisurely; When sitting, it was again Jijirou's legs and shaking feet.
Another boy raised his head and chest when he stood, and he was very upright when he sat down.
Which of these two temperaments do you appreciate more?
The former gives a pompous philistine, sloppy feeling; The latter gives a feeling of self-confidence and decentness, generosity and sunshine.
Temperament has a lot to do with your posture.
The same is true for girls.
The old man often said: "There is a standing phase, and there is a sitting phase", which means that people must have a good posture.
Psychological research shows that if you maintain strict requirements for your posture, appearance, and stick to it, you can improve your self-confidence.
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Create a stable mood
This is another plus in the process of getting along with the opposite sex.
What does a good character look like?
Girls like the following personalities:
Sunny and cheerful, confident and optimistic, steady and mature, etc.
Boys' favorite personalities are:
Xiaojia Jasper, sister next door, cute and innocent, mature temperament, etc.
Of course, these personalities are only one aspect, and it is difficult for us to change our personality, but we can restrain our emotions and behaviors.
Having stable emotions and being able to provide emotional value to the other person will also increase your attractiveness.
What does this need to do?
First: learn to empathize and think differently
Like what:
When the other person chats with you, he expresses his anger, anxiety or unstable emotions, what should you do at this time?
First learn to listen, first listen to him finish, finish whining;
Secondly, learn to empathize, be able to stand in his perspective and echo his emotions;
Finally, give comfort and suggest what you think will work.
Second: know how to respect and do not swear
Both men and women hate people who "spit fragrant fragrances".
Even if you look good, as long as you open and close your mouth, it is a dirty word, and the impression will be reduced instantly.
How to respect each other?
Like what:
Do not force the other person, do not impose your ideas on the other person;
Don't be in control, you and the other person are independent individuals, respect each other's choices and ideas.
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Appropriately improve your "hard conditions"
What are hard conditions?
That is: work, income, savings, house, car, family conditions.
Of these options, we can change jobs and incomes.
We can't choose family, so we can only hope for ourselves.
Have a good family background, that's your luck; Without good family conditions, that's something you can't change.
And to improve your own conditions, what do you need to do well?
If you have a stable job and a stable income, try to find some part-time jobs and earn more money.
If you are on the rise, there is a clear upward channel in the workplace, and you can get promoted and raised, then try to take yourself to the next level.
In any case, the ability to continuously learn should be maintained.
Only by learning can your thinking be active and will not be eliminated.
Today's Topic:
What characteristics of the opposite sex are pluses?
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