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What is perfect in life?
There seems to be no definite answer to these questions.
A perfect life is a paradox in itself, and it is difficult to find something completely flawless in reality.
Then, with regard to the highest enjoyment of life, it does exist, depending on the will and cognition of the individual.
For some, having wealth may represent the ultimate enjoyment of life, while for others, the joy of family may be the pinnacle of their quest.
Our thinking, cognition, and perception of the outside world often stem from our inner reflection of our environment.
In short, the external environment shapes the understanding and definition of the highest enjoyment for many people.
What we are going to explore today is what the ultimate enjoyment of life is from a subjective and personal point of view.
Psychology, a discipline that focuses on the exploration of the human psyche, is dedicated to helping people pursue happiness.
From a psychological point of view, the top enjoyment of life is closely related to the individual.
According to different psychologists, this enjoyment has different definitions:
(1) For Adler, the founder of the school of individual psychology, the highest enjoyment of life lies in overcoming inferiority complex and achieving self-transcendence, which is reflected in his book "The Courage to Be Hated".
(2) Rogers, the pioneer of humanistic psychology, devoted his life to the search for the balance of life and the realization of individual subjectivity. For him, the highest enjoyment may be to find self-worth in the process of resolving personal conflicts.
(3) Maslow's hierarchy of needs is well known to psychology enthusiasts, the top of the theory is self-actualization, for Maslow, the highest enjoyment of life is closely related to the realization of self-worth and the satisfaction of spiritual needs.
Analyzing these perspectives in depth, you will find that what these psychologists consider to be the ultimate enjoyment of life is essentially a process of self-reconciliation and the pursuit of inner need satisfaction, which is an inside-out experience shaped by the inner psychology of the individual.
At a deep level, life is seen as a kind of enjoyment, based on satisfaction with the realization of needs.
The top pleasure of life is not the ephemeral pleasure and comfort brought by the external environment, as mentioned earlier, and this outside-in enjoyment implies that the optimization of the external environment does not bring lasting and profound satisfaction and comfort.
The supreme enjoyment of life is emanating from the inside out, a kind of vigorous vitality and endless hope that spreads outward from the individual himself, all of which is based on the individual's attitude towards the objective world.
The so-called attitude towards the objective world, from the perspective of psychology, involves an individual's cognition and evaluation of himself, others and his relationship with society.
This affects how individuals perceive society and themselves, as well as the formation of their values and worldviews, which are mostly shaped by the environment.
As a result, many people believe that changing the environment is the ultimate and perfect solution to the problem.
The existence of psychology proves from the side that both psychological states and environmental changes have a great impact on people's life experience.
From a practical point of view, changes in the environment do not have a long-term positive or negative impact on people's psychological state and satisfaction.
When discussing what is life's top pleasure, many people may first think of material satisfaction.
But if you dig deeper, the highest enjoyment of life is actually a life attitude, and the most ideal life attitude can be summed up in four words - living in the present.
To many, "living in the moment" seems to have some negative overtones, as the term superficially seems to promote a lifestyle that goes with the flow, as opposed to the values of hard work and hard work.
Therefore, it may not be widely accepted to "live in the moment" as the highest enjoyment of life.
In the eyes of some, it is difficult to succeed in a life without planning and careful planning, and from this perspective, "living in the moment" seems to have a certain negative connotation.
Apparently not.
Living in the present is actually a satisfying and peaceful way of life, and a kind of indifferent acceptance of life's changes.
We are taught from an early age to make a long-term and clear plan for life, and only in this way can we realize our personal values.
However, life is often not smooth sailing, and it is often full of ups and downs.
Even Li Bai, who is talented, had grand ideals when he was young, but in the end the officialdom was disappointed.
Historically, there have been many literati who had a clear life plan and understanding, but the changes were often unpredictable, which made their plans often fall through.
In psychology, there is a concept called "psychological elasticity", which refers to the ability of a person to resist stress and recover from negative experiences.
In general, people with greater resilience are better able to cope with stress and "flex and stretch".
On the road to the realization of personal values, everyone may encounter setbacks and difficulties.
To live in the present is to find a way to adapt in the face of adversity, to show greater psychological resilience, to face reality calmly, and not to be overly anxious about the future.
In fact, living in the moment alleviates about 80% of people's suffering.
Most of these pains are not physical, but psychological, anxiety, insecurity, and contradictions, which stem from different conflicts of values.
Most of people's anxieties and conflicts come from regret and nostalgia for the past, as well as worries and speculations about the future.
In the infinite thinking about the past and the future, people tend to imprison themselves in the cage of thoughts, and this negative emotion can lead to self-limitation and make people fall into a vicious circle.
Therefore, living in the present is not a negative attitude of escapism and abandonment of the pursuit of personal values, but a wise way of life.
It is a psychological adjustment in balancing the immutability and unpredictability of the past and the future.
When you truly understand the deeper meaning of "living in the moment", you will gain a new perspective on your own life, look forward to the future with the best mindset, and be prepared to accept the possible variables and live each day carefully.
This kind of life is the top enjoyment of life.
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