He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
When I like you, you happen to like me, and this kind of relationship is meaningful.
When I give for you, you can also give me back in time, and this effort is worth it.
In intimate relationships, we all expect: if you don't forget, there will be an echo.
But disappointingly:
Not every time you like it, you can be responded to; Not every effort is meaningful.
When you get along with the opposite sex, if the other person doesn't like you, what are the obvious manifestations?
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Deny you access to his "circle"
Let's start with: what does it look like when someone likes you?
The most obvious manifestations are:
He will subconsciously let you integrate into his circle and introduce his friends, relatives, and gradually introduce you to know.
The purpose of this behavior is to make you feel a sense of belonging, trust, and security in him.
"I trust you so much and like you that I am willing to let you know my family and friends."
It's an recognition, an affirmation.
On the contrary, if the other person does not like you, he will refuse you to enter his social circle.
Deny you access to his family and do not allow you to approach his friends.
For example, he eats with friends, always carries you behind his back, and refuses to invite you to go along.
Psychologically speaking, the behavior of "sharing socialization" often occurs between close people.
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There is no passionate desire to share
When the opposite sex gets along, when the opposite side treats you, it instantly switches from introverted personality to extrovert; From silence, switch to "aggressive".
This shift and contrast, as well as the strong desire to share he shows, is a hint that he has a good impression of you.
He shares food, scenery, day's work, and mood with you, in fact, he wants you to participate in his life.
The state of opening one's heart is the expression of a person's strong love.
On the contrary, if in the process of your relationship, you feel his indifference, perfunctory and "resistance".
That means that in his subconscious, he does not like you and does not trust you.
At least, he doesn't like you as much as you like him.
At best, he doesn't hate you as a person, but the relationship between you is not enough for him to talk to you about everything.
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Resisting "physical behavior"
For example:
When the relationship between the opposite sex develops further, from a friend relationship to an "ambiguous state".
The behavior of two people will also seem particularly intimate.
In the eyes, with appreciation and good feelings;
When looking at each other, the eyes are always affectionate;
When walking shoulder to shoulder, do not resist the other person approaching you;
When crossing a traffic light, acquiesce to the other person holding your hand.
These physical behaviors of increasing intimacy hint at the warming of the relationship between the two people.
The other person does not like you, what is the state?
For example:
When chatting with you, the eyes rarely look at you;
His body, subconsciously away from you;
In the face of your initiative, his first reaction is to flee and frighten.
Behavioral psychology shows:
The behavior of the body, often with many emotional hints; This is especially evident in social and emotional situations.
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You can feel his inner "rejection" of you
In other words:
Even if you are in a relationship, you can feel a sense of alienation from him.
He is repulsive and resistant to you, and always has something to hide from you.
That is, from the very beginning he "treated you as an outsider" in his heart.
What does this mean?
It means that he doesn't trust you, doesn't like you enough, and is ready to leave you at any time.
On the contrary, when a person likes you and loves you more and more, his subconscious reaction is:
Let you fit into his life, into his future life.
Everything he does, every plan for the future, you are there.
He will work hard for you to be better together and prepare for your relationship to warm up.
Of course, he prioritizes your feelings in everything he does.
This is not only a respect, but also a "psychological identity".
Only by loving each other can we have a sense of belonging;
Only when it looks like it is strange and distant does it seem strange and distant.
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With him, you don't feel "liked"
If you feel uncomfortable with someone and your energy is always being consumed, then you are not suitable.
If you are always unhappy with someone, then your acquaintance is a mistake.
In love, if you perceive that the other person does not like you, or that you do not feel his love for you.
Don't doubt this intuition, he must not like you.
True liking or love must have a strong desire for expression, sharing and passion.
How to act this way?
Probably it is:
The moment you see the other person, your whole person's emotions swell; The heart beats fast, the mood is tense, and there are some physiological reactions.
When you look at each other, you sink deeper and deeper, wanting to keep looking into each other's eyes.
Such a feeling is to meet true love.
On the contrary, if you can't feel love, you can't feel the emotional connection between you, then it means that the other party doesn't like you.
Today's Topic:
What do you do if you notice that the other person "doesn't like you enough"?
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