It is often heard that many parents around them say that they will save their annual leave every year, and when their children are on vacation, they will have a "walk-away trip" with their children, so that they can not only have time to accompany their children, but also let them increase their knowledge during the journey. As long as it is good for the child, no matter what the economic conditions at home, most parents are willing to pay more.
Look at the other children in the community, when they play together, they will say where they have been, I can't help but feel worried about the girls, the child's current range of activities is in our city, a little farther is to return to the countryside hometown, compared with other children, it is simply a dirt bun, others are going out to travel, if we don't go out for a long time, we have lost on the starting line.
Anxiety often starts from the comparison, do not want the child to fall behind too much, I decided to take the child out with the summer vacation, just dad also has annual leave, we discussed going to Yunnan, look at the Erhai Sea, see the wind and snow of Dali.
Dali ancient city, the night is still very lively, the child does not have half an interest, talk to him about history and culture, do not understand, from the beginning to the end, this little guy is a little interested in the toy store, a trip down spent thousands of dollars, said good with the child long insight?
Traveling only relieves parents' anxiety
Think about it, did preschoolers offer to travel and grow up? Mostly because we thought it was necessary for the children, or other children went, we followed.
In our eyes, it is a wonderful spectacle, a breathtaking carving, a beautiful and delicious beauty, in the eyes of children, may not feel the beauty of it. Psychologist Piaget believes that children aged 2-7 are in the stage of self-centeredness, thinking that they are the center of the universe, and that all things exist because they are related to themselves, so children see the world from their own point of view. At their age, it is incomprehensible: what do those monuments and humanities have to do with me?
The so-called long insight and seeing the world are just to alleviate the anxiety of parents. If parents ignore the physical and psychological development characteristics of their children and stick to their own ideas, then they are bound to be physically and mentally exhausted and disappointed.
Don't blindly travel around with your children, but start with their interests and let them do what they like.
Families with average family backgrounds, do not take too many children to travel
Every trip, airfare, accommodation, and gifts are a large expense, but this does not bring enough insight to children, nor can it meet the expectations of parents, but it will bring them a bad impact. For example, parents will think, "I'm thrifty, take you wherever you go, you're like this...", and children will think that their parents' "investment" in themselves is a very utilitarian act.
Therefore, for families with ordinary families, it is not recommended to travel too much, because children are most interested in where to have fun, and tourism is only to let them "go from the playground in front of their homes to the playground far away". Parents feel that spending money must make children see something and learn something, which is really too difficult for children.
If it's a rich family, it's no problem. Maybe parents run from home to abroad, spend tens of thousands of yuan, just want their children to see the road teeth abroad, do not care about that little money. This issue is not within our consideration.
The real tour is when the child "wants to go"
A pool of clear water, a bunch of dead leaves, a branch, a bug, play for half a day, no need to travel, no need to play in the mountains, as long as there is a place where you can play freely, let the children broaden their horizons and enrich their cognition!
A niece who went to elementary school, after reading "Wangtianmen Mountain", especially wanted to see the magnificence of Tianmen Mountain, and her parents took time to take her to Zhangjiajie, not only carefully observing and comparing along the way, but also writing hundreds of words of travel notes from a personal point of view after returning home.
Therefore, only when they "want to go", children can truly experience and enjoy, integrate what they see and hear with their personal experience, and enrich their hearts and hearts, which is the real purpose of tourism.
Let the child be a child and travel around with children's books
Referring to my niece's experience, I began to "travel" with my children with picture books, so that I could see the outside world without going out. Every night, the child would ask me, "Mom, which city are we going to visit today?" ”
From Tower Bridge in London, to the Vatican in Rome, Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris, the Statue of Liberty in New York, the Opera House in Sydney, Italian cuisine, and snacks in Hong Kong, these are all comic strips that tell the story of world-famous culture, architecture, food, entertainment and so on.
The children understood: the world is really big, there are many different places from the cities we live in, they eat, wear, live, and play differently. These differences stimulate children's curiosity and spark their love and imagination of the world.