Do you feel tired in your marriage? I think when you hear the word tired, it must be more tired, you can't always say that I am physically tired, right? It's easy to get tired and take a break for a glass of water. So I'll tell you, why do you feel tired in a relationship?
First: A lot of times it's that you think too much and do too little
The so-called too much thinking, what is the thinking? Sometimes you may be very entangled in thinking, do you love me or not? Or some people will think, why am I so unfortunate? Some people will think so, why am I so miserable? But too little has been done, that is, it has not been put into action when these problems are in mind. How to think about running this relationship, no, always waiting, waiting for the other party to change.
I feel that the other party did not do anything when he did not love himself so much. You are waiting, waiting for the other party to change your attitude, but waiting and waiting, there is no change, so you will feel very tired.
What is this like? Just like I always think that I want to go to Tsinghua, but I don't study, so you see the result is that you can't go to college, you can't read books, and in the end you will make yourself more tired, so your tiredness may be more that you use the wrong way to manage feelings.
Second: wrong positioning in marriage
I find that there are a lot of women who are wrong about the positioning in marriage, what does it mean? Let me give you an example, for example, there are many women who feel tired, where is the tiredness? She said that I was at home every day with my children, washing clothes and cooking, but my husband did not love himself at all. I feel like I've given so much for this relationship, but I can't cherish it.
If you feel this way, you must be positioned wrong. Why? Who were you after you married him? You are his wife, you are his wife, you are a woman, you are a happy woman, you should be a cute little princess.
But you look at what you are doing every day, washing and cooking with children, you seem to feel that this is your own strength, as if you feel that this is your contribution to marriage, but who did these things, the nanny did it, just say that you put your own positioning, put on the nanny, then this man, will only treat you in the way of treating the nanny, and eventually you will definitely feel tired
Because you have not received love after giving so much, you have to adjust your positioning. You think, if you can talk to this man about his future, about his ideals in life. With him, then you will become his soul mate, he will feel that you understand him, if you can talk to him about work, can support him behind his back, he will feel that you are his partner.
But if you just take care of the children at home, take care of the housework, etc., and only do this, thinking that these are the embodiment of your values, then you are the nanny. So what do you really want to be a partner? Or do you want to be a soul mate? Or a nanny? Whose is it up to? It doesn't depend on how cruel and scummy this man is, how much he doesn't cherish you, it depends on your mentality, where your own positioning is placed, understand?