Liu Ruihong overturned?
In the past few days, there have been frequent news that netizens have jumped with him and been injured.
Either the foot is broken, or the muscles are strained.
There is also an unreliable father who kicked the child in the face during the jump exercise.
However, most netizens feel that this is not Liu Qihong's responsibility, and it is necessary to do what is within his ability.
In the live broadcast, Liu Qihong also reminded everyone to participate moderately.
The "national fitness tide" triggered by Liu Qihong has also been officially recognized.
A few days ago, Xinhua network also joined hands with Liu Qihong to create an exclusive fitness exercise for the whole family to dance together.
In the past few days, Liu's fan base has also risen to more than 50 million.
Some people say that it is the epidemic that has made Liu Qihong shine.
This kind of light is not only that he teaches everyone to exercise, but also brings joy to the time at home.
It is even more because everyone sees in him the responsibilities and responsibilities of men in the family.
Every time I watch him live broadcast "abuse" his wife, there is a voice of envy at the bottom.
Many people around me also call out the "treasure husband" who wants to have the same style as Liu Qihong.
Love wife, care for the family, sense of responsibility, emotional stability, humor, optimism and positivity...
Who wouldn't want such a partner?
As an article in Tencent's circle wrote:
"Liu Lihong should not be the only beneficiary of this fulfillment."
After the pandemic, maybe girls are becoming more and more aware of what kind of man they want, and boys are becoming more and more aware of what kind of man to be. ”
Liu Qihong's popularity showed everyone: a good father is the best feng shui in the family.
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Have a good dad first
Only emotionally stable mothers
A few days ago, a shanghai primary school student essay "a mother who explodes when touched" caught fire.
In the composition, it is written that usually the mother is gentle and lovely, beautiful and kind.
But after home isolation, it exploded at one point.
He said that his parents had to go online every day to grab vegetables and cook fried rice, and they were very busy.
Because Dad cooked the only pickled bamboo shoots in the family, Mom was furious.
And because Dad smoked two napkins to put bones, Mom lost her temper again.
Finally he lamented:
"No matter how clear this virus is, the mother's gentleness will clear up."
Some people say that mom looks at the tears, and dad looks at the silence.
Funny and heart-wrenching.
The mother who blows up when she touches it, which is a bad temper, but there are too many things to worry about.
In real life, I often hear men complain.
Before marriage, the wife was gentle as water, and after marriage, she became irritable and lived like a tigress.
Which mother is willing to yell and scream every day and show off with a vicious face.
Behind every grumpy mother, there is hidden helplessness and exhaustion that is not seen.
As Professor Chu Yin, a strange player, said:
"The tigress is forced by men, sharpened by children, and urged by families."
In a family, the husband is used to being a hand-throwing treasurer, and the mother's gentleness has no room to grow.
Dads have responsibilities and know how to take responsibility, so that moms have the strength and energy to give back to the family.
Liu Qihong's wife vivi is like this.
In front of the camera, she is always smiling, gentle and good-tempered, and has countless fans.
A friend of mine once lamented:
"Why is it that she has three children and is still so emotionally stable?"
Because it is nourished by love, it is tolerant.
As a husband, Liu Lihong gave her a full sense of love and security.
In front of the camera and on Weibo, from time to time, he shows affection with his wife and openly thanks his wife.
As a father, Liu Qihong has never been absent and is the right-hand man for parenting.
You can see it in "Where Daddy Goes".
He can cook, tie his daughter's hair, match clothes, be patient and meticulous.
Usually, he will take the children to exercise together and play a variety of fun parent-child games.
Even the mother-in-law said that after her daughter married Liu Qihong, she had an extra son.
Someone who shares family chores and is always concerned about being considerate of themselves, it is no wonder that vivi is always gentle.
The British psychologist Winnicott once said:
"In the family, it takes a father to make the mother feel physically comfortable and spiritually happy."
Many parenting numbers often emphasize that the mother's personality determines the fate of the child's life.
In fact, there must be a good father first, and then there will be a gentle mother.
Father is the key to determining the temperature of a family.
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Dad knows how to support
Families will be more harmonious
Liu Lihong once said in the program:
"One of the things I learned as the head of the family is to listen to my wife."
Many family conflicts are due to the fact that parents do not have a united front.
A few days ago, I watched a parenting variety show "The Boy Who Opened His Heart".
The one who impressed me the most was an 11-year-old boy.
As soon as he came up, he scored his parents:
"I have a handsome dad and I give him a 10.
I also have a bad mom who is always nosy and I give her a 0. ”
Picture @ Variety Show "The Boy Who Opened His Heart"
Dad on the side, full of pride.
Looking closely, I was extremely sad for this mother.
This little boy is addicted to games and often secretly stays up late to play until four or five o'clock in the morning.
Once, he spent all the money on his mom's pay card while playing a game.
The payment password was cracked by him sprinkling phosphor.
Picture @ Variety Show "The Boy Who Opened His Heart"
To this end, her mother disciplined her very strictly, fearing that he would indulge in the game.
What about Dad?
He rarely cares about children and often teams up with them to play games.
When he doesn't play well, dad encourages him.
Picture @ Variety Show "The Boy Who Opened His Heart"
With his father's pocket, the little boy had no respect or gratitude for his mother.
He complained that his mother had a high school education and could not do fourth-grade math problems.
He also said that his mother was clumsy and would not do anything, like a ball.
Picture @ Variety Show "The Boy Who Opened His Heart"
Words are full of disgust.
For these evaluations of the child, the father on the side did not stop it, but watched.
As you can imagine, Dad is used to these things.
In a family, how the husband treats the wife, the child will treat the mother.
Jeon Hye-sung, a Yale professor who has trained six PhDs, once said:
"Fathers love wives, children love mothers, fathers despise wives, and children follow their mothers."
As the primary caregiver of the child, the mother's sense of authority is important.
Once the order is destroyed, the education of the child will also get out of control, and it is likely to raise a "bear child".
A good father will support his mother and stand firmly by his wife's side.
Especially in the way of education, parents should be more unified.
Blogger @Childhood Terminator once posted a video of a conversation with his two sons.
The eldest son assigned an assignment at school, which he was reluctant to do and was criticized by his mother.
So he asked his father for comment.
The father always sided with the mother, pointing out the problems with the child.
The younger brother said disapprovingly:
"Dad, why do you always help your wife talk, can't you educate your wife?"
The blogger says:
"For Mom's work, Dad, I want to show support and approval.
I didn't intervene when you did something wrong, my mother intervened, why should I contradict it?
We agree on the issue of educating you both. ”
In the end, the brothers obediently apologized to their mother.
This father's approach has also won the praise of hundreds of thousands of netizens.
In the process of educating children, dads may be absent for work reasons.
Some are made up for and will be particularly good to the child.
This practice will not only let the child learn to exploit the loophole, but also make the mother rejected.
Dad's recognition and encouragement and help are the best support for moms on the road to parenting.
Mothers who receive support will also have a good mood to educate and support their children.
In this way, the family can be stable and harmonious.
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A father
Capable of influencing three generations
In a speech, Liu Said:
"Dad shouldn't just be the one who provides material conditions, but more time should set an example for his child, provide a sense of security, and lead his child to explore the world around him."
This sense of responsibility for the family is what Liu Learned from his father.
Because I grew up seeing my father's dedication to the family, his companionship and education.
Entering the marriage, he also continued this responsibility.
Liu Ruihong's love for his wife and his sense of responsibility will also continue in his own children.
From the birth of a child to adulthood, the influence of dad on children is everywhere.
Good fathers know how to lead their children to grow.
It is to help children learn to be independent early, and it is also to establish rules for children during puberty.
It will also affect the happiness of children as adults.
Especially the daughter.
In the British BBC documentary "The Biological Significance of Fathers", a study found that:
Girls who lack paternal love will have puberty six months or even a year earlier.
Their probability of pregnancy during puberty is also 2.5 times higher than that of ordinary girls.
After adulthood, the daughter's view of mate selection is also deeply influenced by her father.
Girls who have lived in happy families since childhood and are close to their fathers are more likely to find a partner who resembles their father.
Therefore, fathers should set an example of a good man for their daughters.
In this way, the future daughter will have a better vision when looking for a boyfriend.
Boys learn how to be a man from their fathers.
A violent father will often raise a violent son, and he may also become a violent father after marriage.
This vicious circle between generations affects the happiness of generations.
I have a classmate who grew up in a family atmosphere of domestic violence.
He hated his father and made up his mind not to follow his father when he grew up.
But after getting married, he also learned to commit violence.
Because he didn't learn from his father how to properly manage intimate relationships.
The only thing he learned was to use force to make others obey.
For the sake of the future happiness of the child, as a father, you must also treat your partner and children responsibly.
Writer Megmick said:
"More than anyone else, the father is the one who can set the trajectory of his child's life."
From the father, the child observes what is a man, what is a husband, and what is a father.
The father determines the fate of the child after 10 years.
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There was a popular saying on the Internet:
"God gives you an absent father, he gives you an anxious, complaining mother, and eventually he will raise a child who is out of control."
The role of the father is the needle of the family.
Dad loves Mom, Mom will be emotionally stable, and the family will have temperature.
Fathers support mothers, children will respect mothers, and education will not get out of control.
Dads accompany their children and are responsible for the family, and children will embrace true happiness.
Of course, if you want to do a good job in the role of father, you must first be a good partner.
Because what the child sees now is his future life, especially the relationship between parents, which will directly affect their perception of intimate relationships.
The way we get along in the family, the performance of our partners, is the future of the child.
Finally, I would like to say to dads:
We cannot choose our own father, nor can we choose how our father loves us.
But we can choose how to be a father.
Whether to become an idol that the child worships all his life, or to become an enemy that the child wants to stay away from.
It's all up to us.
May the fathers not leave the scene on the way to parenting.