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In intimate relationships, whether boys or girls, paying must have a certain effect, but your efforts must be on the point, otherwise it may be thankless.
Especially girls.
Because in general, the public's definition of boys to pay, in fact, have a more objective answer, this answer even if you copy the past, most of them can be inseparable from ten, for example, money, small gifts, rituals, careful and other behaviors, in the boy's payment system, as long as girls do not hate each other, can get a positive and positive effect to a certain extent.
But for girls, not necessarily. Because in the relationship between men and women, due to various aspects of differences, boys and girls need different things in intimate relationships, so this requires girls to pay when the direction must be right.
A woman, after determining the relationship of these 3 kinds of giving, will make herself "cheap", really hope that you do not easily make mistakes.
01. Just determine the relationship, just when the mother booed cold and asked for warmth;
Some people may wonder: After determining the relationship, is it wrong for me to care about him?
Surely.
But this concern must be maintained in a suitable range, because at this time your relationship, in fact, is not stable, the next is the moment when the relationship begins to formally develop, if you want the subsequent development of two people to be healthy and positive energy, you must need each other in this relationship, there is a certain amount of pay, to go in both directions to have meaning.
You must not be a person unilaterally on the head, once the relationship is determined, you will dig your heart and lungs to be good to him, thinking that this good can be exchanged for his gratitude, and can also be good to himself, in fact, I have heard more than one girl ask me this: I am so good to him, why should he do something sorry for me?
There is a game in the relationship, not purely with the heart to deliver.
I have also written a point of view before, in a good relationship, if the pay adds up to a hundred points, the best state is that you pay fifty points, I also pay fifty points, but this is only the ideal state, real life is basically impossible to be so fair, love should not care so much, so you sixty, I am forty, or even thirty and seventy The proportion is also there, specific problems are analyzed.
However, if you alone pay ninety or even a hundred points, then the signal you send to the other party is: you don't have to give anything, you can enjoy my good.
If so, why did he go so far?
Therefore, when just determining the relationship, do not go to the other party as a mother, all kinds of booing and greeting, after all, he has felt this kind of good since he was a child, he will not be as you think, how touched, rather than doing this, you might as well always appear in front of him beautifully, affirm his value, can make him feel relaxed and happy when he is with you. At this time, his tendency to you will often increase quietly and unconsciously.
02. Think too far, not to force people to ask for an answer in their hearts;
In a romantic relationship, you have to understand four words: go with the flow.
That is to say, at what stage of the development of this relationship, there will naturally be some results.
In the early stage, you ask too much or assume too much, there is no benefit, rather than this, it is better to live the life of the two people at the moment is the king, time will naturally give you the best answer.
People who go too fast in their thinking and think too far will most likely end up stifling the relationship between two people in the early stage of development.
Some time ago, a girl came to talk to me, she recently talked about a boy, originally developed well, but she herself made everything yellow.
How did she do it? First, in the ambiguous period, she forced the boy to admit that he liked her, originally she did not do this, if she continued to develop, the boy would definitely say, after all, they only knew each other for half a month, this half a month they chatted every day until midnight, and also met twice, she felt very good, the boy also said so, and then one day, she pointed out the topic.
Second, after the point, she began to ask the boy to do this or that thing as a girlfriend, and the boy sometimes did not want to, so she kept asking the other party: Is he not loving himself, is he perfunctory?
The boy said no at first, but then she asked really annoyed, she was always asking for an answer, the boy directly said yes, said that now do not want to perfunctory, we still forget it.
At this time, she was not reconciled, and at the same time thought that the boy scum, thinking that he had said that he liked himself and did not agree to break up, or get along as before. The boy began not to reply to her message, and while she was sad, she continued to look for him and ask him why he was doing this?
I said: If you continue, he may be annoyed by you and want to delete you, or block you.
Obviously, her step-by-step approach makes the boy feel stressed and uncomfortable, obviously the feelings of the two people are still unstable, but she thinks too far. She told me that she had thought about what happened after the two people got married, and she was very happy.
I sighed, she is typical of using self-strategy to fall in love, and the result is blocked real love in real life.
03. Emotionally unstable, often sending small essays to question each other;
As an adult, it is really necessary to maintain emotional stability in a relationship.
Especially girls, no matter how much you love each other, in the early stage, please control your emotions and don't try to challenge a person's bottom line.
Some girls, at the beginning of love, because of emotional instability, all kinds of troubles, suspect here and there, and send some small essays at every turn.
They also think they are communicating, and wonder why the boys do not reply to their messages, I want to say: you are not called communication, but purely venting emotions.
If you don't believe that you look at your content yourself, you will most likely find that you have been accusing each other in various ways, so how do you want him to respond to you? Let him admit his mistakes? However, people may not think he is wrong at all.
You want the other party to love you in the way you want, in fact, this is basically impossible, in love, you need to run into, you need to seek common ground while reserving differences, no one is tailor-made for you. Adults only screen, do not change, really not suitable to leave is, do not go hysterical to ask each other to change.
Such you, in the eyes of the other party, will only be immature, unstable, and make him want to escape.
Therefore, many times, it is useless to have a lover's heart, and your love must be expressed in the right way, often with half the effort.
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