In a family, the arrival of a new life means that the family has hope, but in some cases it is cold and warm to have children.
Ms. Shen recently had a heart breakdown, and she left the hospital alone to return to the rental house after giving birth to her child in the hospital. When the police found Ms. Shen in the rental house, her mood had reached a freezing point. Ms. Shen and the police cried and said: "Eating is a problem, I ate two pieces of bread on the day I gave birth, or the nurse gave it to me." ”
Many people have asked, why didn't Ms. Shen's husband take care of her? It turned out that Ms. Shen's lover had been ill for many years and was currently taking care of a pair of children in her hometown, and her life was very difficult, and she could not take time to visit her in the hospital.
The local well-wishers are very sympathetic to Ms. Shen's plight, and everyone has reached out to help her, and she herself said that she feels the love of everyone and hopes to live here for a long time.
This was originally a very heartwarming story, but the comments of netizens were very heartfelt:
"So it's difficult to have three children?"
"It's really poorer and poorer, and it doesn't deserve sympathy!"
"Others can only help for a while, there is no economic conditions or do not give birth!"
To sum up, it is necessary to combine the economic conditions of having children and not to blindly have children.
With the liberalization of the policy, more and more families have two or three children, which are roughly divided into two categories:
One is to blindly follow the trend to give birth to the second and third children, feeling that other people's families around them are also born, and their own families cannot lag behind. Completely disregarding the actual situation and not thinking about the parenting of children after birth.
The consequence of this is often the jump of the family chicken and the dog, and many women complain that life is terrible after giving birth. It is not the first child, but already has the experience of being a parent, the child is born to feed well, and any bite can be fed.
Families with poor economies are more inclined to have more children, after all, one child has a job, and other siblings can follow suit.
For this type of parent, I just want to say that it is really irresponsible, raising children is costly, just look at rebirth and ignore good parenting, and the child's childhood will only be overshadowed.
Taking a step back, it is good that the child grows up to be out of work, but if it is just an ordinary person, it will also be subject to certain restrictions when talking about marriage. No one wants to marry into a family like a phoenix man, and no one wants to marry a brother-in-law demon who always supplements his mother's family.
Most families with only children or only daughters are not willing to have a relationship with a family with many children, unless the other family is very good, and no parent under the sky can watch the child's good life become a bottomless pit that cannot be filled.
It's cruel to say, and some people may not want to face it, but that's the truth. When their own lives are not guaranteed, the newborn children are also too guilty, and it is even more difficult for the existing children.
The second is a very responsible parent, who has a clear understanding of their small family and a plan for future risks. Whether it is financial or human, it can not only ensure that it does not delay in taking care of Dabao, but also can take care of the newborn with peace of mind.
A friend who gave birth to a second child once recounted her experience in the ward, and she was accompanied by her husband during the days of hospitalization. Because the arrangements have been made in advance, they do not need to worry about it outside the home, and the couple only needs to take good care of the newborn child in the hospital.
But the other mother next to her is different, and has been crying and crying since the birth of the second child. The family's big treasure wants to find his mother after school, and his personality becomes particularly irritable and loves to beat people. The in-laws did not give strength, did not take the changes in Dabao in their eyes, but let it develop, thinking that it would be fine if they cried.
Giving children a reassuring family environment, not rich but stable economic conditions, and not missing fatherly love and maternal love are the things that every parent should consider.
Of course, for a difficult family like Ms. Shen, although many netizens say they don't understand, we should also show respect and hope that they will survive the family difficulties, relatives and friends can help, and give the child a happy childhood with no food and clothing.