Ever heard of "reverse parenting"? Post-90s parents are in charge, and "reverse parenting" is hot.
What is it
Let him, who is still unable to walk, take on the responsibility of coaxing people to sleep?
What is it
Let the young girl pull her mother forward with a toy car?
What is it again
Let the child even eat pears become a luxury?
In the end, it is the "annihilation of human nature"
Or "moral decay"
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No
It is the parents of the post-90s, taking the child's road, so that the child has no way to go.
What is "reverse parenting"?
This actually refers to the young parents of the post-90s,
In child-rearing with the child's identity,
Show that you need to be taken care of by the child, show weakness to the child,
Thus stimulating the child's initiative and sense of responsibility,
Make your child better.
In the past, parents attached great importance to the "sense of prestige" in front of their children.
Now, parents prefer the relaxed form of "reverse parenting" education.
01
Share a recent case of reverse parenting.
The son was addicted to the game and refused to listen to anything, so the father decided to "go along" with the child.
Love to play games, right? Okay, then have fun!
He no longer prevents his son from playing games, and even instructs his son on how to play and lets his son play seriously.
And while guiding, he said to his son solemnly:
"If you don't play a game well, you will be beaten up, just like writing homework and doing homework, if you don't do your homework well, you will be beaten, and if you don't play a game well, you will also be beaten!"
After saying that, he also set a goal for his son who loves to play games: "You can't rush through this level tonight, so don't sleep!" ”
As soon as the son heard it, his originally unconcerned attitude immediately became serious.
In the past, children played games, it was fun, compared to learning, playing games is easy and casual, plus the father does not let play, but let the children remember.
But now dad agreed, and also set a goal, to play seriously, so that the child feels the pressure. The game that originally thought it was fun was not so fragrant in an instant.
I have to say that this dad's wave of reverse education is simply too hardcore.
Through games, he teaches children to be serious in everything they do, so that children do not have the psychology of luck and playfulness.
After reading it, netizens directly called: This is a good way for children to quit Internet addiction!
In fact, in educating children, parents sometimes need to move some "careful thinking".
Parents should flexibly choose appropriate educational methods according to their children's problems, so as to better guide their children's growth.
When the child goes to school, the mother will rub more than the child, so that the child feels the anxiety of being late, to remember for a long time, and to do things without further delay.
A little boy in the fourth grade in Sichuan did not want to read, so he took a leave of absence from his teacher to go home and play.
When the boy's father learned of this, he sent the child directly to the construction site.
Don't want to go to class, well, then dig a ditch and work! The father also did not let his son do it for free, and gave him 5 yuan a day.
As a result, the boy cried for two hours.
Many children feel tired of studying, learning is bitter, and how their parents say that reading is good, they can't listen to it. Then directly let the child feel how tired the life without reading is.
We often say that without contrast, there is no harm. After children experience the difficulties of life, their attitude towards learning will change a lot.
Educating children, if the conventional way is useless, may wish to come to a wave of "reverse education". Maybe there will be unexpected effects.
02
It is undeniable that no parenting style is "all-powerful".
Are there any disadvantages to "reverse parenting"? "Yes."
1) The premise of "reverse parenting" is to give the child enough security
2) "Reverse parenting" requires parents to grasp the "lazy" scale
3) "Reverse parenting" requires parents to have enough patience
Therefore, parents must pay attention to the fact that while using "reverse parenting", we must take into account "positive guidance".
When a child makes a mistake, he can reverse parenting, exaggerate the child's mistakes, and let the child realize the mistakes on his own.
However, if the child has not been exposed to things and rules at all, it is generally recommended to "positive guidance", and only the combination of positive and negative is balanced.
Mo Yan once said: The excellence of children is soaked with the sweat of parents.
Whether it is reverse parenting or positive guidance, as long as parents are willing to work hard, it is very important for the growth of children.
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