How to get back your boyfriend after a breakup and avoid these misunderstandings
Xiaoyue has been with her boyfriend for almost three years, her personality is more noisy, and her boyfriend has always accommodated her.
However, the boyfriend's forehead did not exchange for her cherishing, and finally the boyfriend could not stand it and proposed to her to break up.
Break up for a month, Xiaoyue tried many methods, but the effect is not large, entangled, also broken, sent messages, retreat ex-boyfriend is not willing to take care of ...
The way to get it back is actually very simple, and if the method is wrong, the efforts made are in vain.
Sometimes you do more things, thinking that the other party will be very moved, but in exchange for the other party not only can not empathize, can not change their minds, and even afraid, disgusted, resist.
Many people want to save their love after breaking up, but because they use the wrong method, they do something unfavorable to the redemption, resulting in missing the best time to save.
Today, let's talk about what are the misunderstandings of redeeming love.
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Desperate to reunite, blindly redeemed ·
After the breakup, don't immediately go to your ex-boyfriend to ask for a compound, you must first re-examine the relationship between the two of you, find more reasons from your own body, any failed relationship can not be just a person's reason.
You can think about whether you just accept the other party's efforts and rarely care about the other party's feelings, whether you are affected by the wrong values, the standards for your boyfriend are too high, and whether you do not give your boyfriend enough support and care when he needs you the most.
This period of calm time is very important for each other, both to give each other a space and to provide the possibility of the future of both parties.
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Avoid begging with a low posture ·
If you've ever tried to salvage it, have you ever heard the following déjà vu conversation?" What am I doing badly, am I going to change it?" I do whatever you want me to do, I listen to you for everything, and I beg you not to leave me. "I can't live without you, I'll die without you, please don't leave me." Such a conversation. This is called low-profile begging, like begging for mercy and charity, without dignity. Even if you really beg the other party to turn back, you will definitely not turn back because you love you.
Begging is no self-esteem, without self-esteem there is no self, a person without self, how to let others love.
Moreover, begging for a return will definitely not be an equal love, an unequal love, can not go on for a long time.
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Pay too much attention to the other party and ignore their own construction·
Many people will have a misunderstanding when they are broken up, thinking that the other party proposes to break up because the other party has a better choice, especially after the man is broken up, he will think that the other party worships gold and so on directly humiliates the other party.
Under the domination of misconceptions, they often go to extremes. In fact, no matter what the reason is separated, it is inseparable from the problem of attraction. What do you attract the other person the most? What are the values in you that are worth the other person's continued stay with you? And what problems do you have that are greater than these values?
Be clear about this, and you'll understand why he broke up with you. Find more reasons from yourself and understand the reasons for the breakup, so that you can make targeted changes to improve yourself, and only when he sees that you have really changed will he reconsider you.