Distance produces beauty, which is also deeply rooted in the child's heart.
Today's mothers can bring up the eldest children from beginning to end, almost all families need elders to help themselves, and even some mothers will directly put their children in the elderly family.
On the one hand, it is because I am busy with work and do not have the time and energy to raise children well. On the other hand, because I know that I lack experience, it is better to let the more experienced elders take over the children than to let myself cross the river by feeling the stones!
Fostering a child is a big challenge for moms
If you have not really accompanied your child, you will inevitably be estranged from yourself
Children before the age of three are in the stage of intuitive image thinking, they only have feelings and impressions of what they see with their eyes, and they regard things inside and outside the eyes as non-existent.
It's like when a child has separation anxiety and the mother suddenly disappears in front of her eyes, they will feel that the whole world has changed dramatically, they don't know where the mother has gone, and they will even feel that the mother will never appear again.
Moreover, children's attention is also very easy to be distracted, even if they are very eager to find their mother, when they take out their favorite toys or cartoons, they can quickly calm down and forget that they want to find their mother.
In this way, the child will have a deep sense of affection and security with the people he contacts every day, even if it is his own mother, because of the lack of communication and contact for a long time, he will turn his face and not recognize people.
Moms think of children, and it's only right
All mothers are going through October pregnancy and childbirth, and they must personally feel the process of the child growing up in their own body, just like everyone says that the child is a piece of meat that falls from the mother's body, and there is no mother who does not love her child.
Even if this mother is a workaholic, spending most of her time at work every day, and has little time to think about her own affairs and enjoy life, this does not affect the mother's thinking about children.
Why are the children brought up by grandparents and grandparents closer to their grandparents? The truth is a bit heartbreaking
Nowadays, if the mother must put the child in the elderly family, she will usually choose to give it to the grandparents, perhaps because she does not want her parents to be affected, or because the grandparents will take better care of them. And even if they are children who grew up in their grandparents' homes, they are closer to their grandparents.
In this way, many mothers will not be willing to put their children in their mother's house, but such a normal situation will make Grandma and Grandpa feel a little chilly.
Grandparents will spoil their children a little more
When the baby is born, the grandparents will be more excited and happy than the grandparents, after all, this child is the flesh and blood of the in-laws, for the mother-in-law, this child is just an "outsider".
After all, the daughter who marries out spills out the water, the daughter is already a person of the in-laws' family, and the children born are naturally also people of the in-laws' family, and the relationship with the mother's family is not big. On the contrary, the issue of educating children will be more severe. Less coddling.
This slight difference is naturally also in the eyes of the child, who is good to him, who is not good to him, he knows it. Who is good at bullying and who is not good at bullying them are also well known.
In this way, compared to their strict grandparents, they will naturally like to spoil themselves more and not refuse any of their own requests! Children are not stupid, and it is human nature to seek advantages and avoid harms.
Distance from grandparents produces beauty
As the saying goes, distance produces beauty, too frequent and too dense interaction is easy to produce contradictions, perhaps because grandma and grandpa have too many requirements for themselves, it will make children feel disgusted, why always ask me to ask me that?
At this time, they will constantly think back to their grandparents, if I were at my grandparents' house, they would not nag me, if I wanted to watch TV, they would definitely let me watch enough! This is the difference between grandparents and grandparents!
And it also verifies that the phrase "not getting" is always in turmoil, and the more restricted it is, the more it longs for freedom. In this way, the child will naturally show his love for his grandparents and hope that his grandparents will redeem him!
Today's summary:
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