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It is said that "frozen three feet, not a day's cold", but the reader Xiaolu feels that she is cold to her husband, that is, when she is confinement. So out of the confinement, she proposed a divorce with her husband, and she did not want to delay for a moment.
It is said that Xiao Lu and her husband have a good relationship, although the two are introduced to each other, but the first time they met each other, they had a good feeling for each other, and then their process of getting along was also very harmonious, and their temperaments were also similar.
The two talked about love together for more than two years before entering the marriage hall. At the wedding, Xiaolu felt that she was a happy bride, and the reason why she was so confident was because she felt that she was favored by her husband.
Xiao Lu does not like the white square veil, her husband Da Li will follow her wishes, feel that it is okay not to wear a veil, although it is an insignificant little thing, but Xiao Lu feels that Da Li loves her and will spoil her.
In fact, the rent of that wedding dress is very expensive, and the veil also accounts for part of the rent. Da Li liked the feeling of the white veil dragging the ground at that time, but when she arrived at the wedding scene, Xiao Lu temporarily changed her mind.
At that time, Da Li went against his own will to follow Xiao Lu, just to make Xiao Lu happy, hoping that she could be a happy bride, which in Xiao Lu's view can definitely be a manifestation of Da Li Ai.
The friends who attended Xiao Lu's wedding said that Xiao Lu had a vision and picked a good man who loved her, because Da Li, a man, was willing to accommodate her and follow her, not because he was afraid of her, but because he loved her.
Xiao Lu felt that her friends were absolutely right, Da Li really loved her, and she felt that she was particularly lucky. However, looking at people and things can not only look at a moment, or how to say "the road knows the horsepower, and the day sees the hearts of the people".
What's more, love is not permanent, it has a shelf life. Once the preservation period is over, love will also deteriorate.
Xiao Lu may be lucky, her love shelf life is at least three years long, until she is pregnant and gives birth, she does not feel the man's coldness to her.
It was the hottest three-volt day of the year, and Xiao Lu was in time for the confinement. The doors and windows and air conditioners can't be turned on, she can't wash her hair and take a bath, and she feels that she is hungry in less than three days of confinement.
The weather is hot, the doors and windows are tightly closed, the room is like a stuffy tank, and can not be groomed, Xiaolu can withstand the fire, the milk is not enough for the child to eat, crying in the middle of the night, Xiaolu is not resting well, and it feels like it is going to collapse.
And Da Li had already moved to the second bedroom at the beginning of Xiao Lu's confinement, and his name was afraid of disturbing Xiao Lu and the child's rest, but in fact, he was going out to hide.
That night, the child was really not good, Xiao Lu called out to Big Li to help, and Big Lee slept deeply and did not respond at all. Xiao Lu had to move to the second bedroom a little bit to call Da Li, and as a result, Da Li was furious on the spot.
"Shouting anything, don't let people sleep well." You're a, you can't even get your own children, what use do you want! ”
After Chong Xiaolu finished growling, Da Li then fell back to sleep, Xiao Lu's tears crackled and fell down, crying so much that his liver and intestines were broken, but Da Li didn't even pay attention to her.
The next day, the mother-in-law came to deliver food, and Da Li also complained to the mother-in-law that Xiao Lu affected his sleep, and the mother-in-law was a doting son, so she said some cool words to Xiao Lu, which means that women have come this way.
Also let Xiao Lu try not to disturb Da Li rest, saying that men are not resting well to get sick, or she stays to coax the child, that is, her waist disc is protruding, and she can't hold the child, saying that it is equal to not saying.
There is more than that in the month, and a lot of things happen. But no matter which one, Da Li, the man, is very excessive, does not accommodate Xiao Lu when she is at her weakest, hurts her, and does not take her seriously.
The grievances and pain in Xiao Luyue's confinement are all displayed in the sentence "Let's divorce" after she came out of the confinement, and Da Li does not know how to pity and accommodate his own men, don't do it.
As the writer Yi Shu once said: "True love makes people happy, if you feel pain, there must be a mistake and need to end in time." ”
Indeed, a man's mind will change, and he will not be willing to accommodate you and understand you if he has no patience and tolerance before, and most of them will not take you seriously, and even have resistance to you.
And many times, women are willing to endure various shortcomings in men, such as not paying attention to hygiene, smelly socks thrown around, but because men are gentle with themselves, they will also make women willing to live with him.
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In fact, when encountering such a moment, if a man refuses to accommodate you, then he really does not love you.
First: when a woman's body and mind are most vulnerable
No one in this world is iron, all of them are mortal flesh, especially women, because of special physiological structures, may be more vulnerable physically and mentally than men, such as every month when the "big aunt" comes.
At that time, physical discomfort will cause psychological vulnerability, usually looking at the strong and independent women, will become sensitive because of physical reasons, will cry, will long for someone to take care of, be booed and warm.
If when a woman comes to the great aunt, the man does not know how to accommodate the woman, feels that she is inexplicably sad, and sheds tears at every turn is pretentious, is a disease-free moan, then such a man really has to be terrible.
I don't understand the pain of physical and mental exhaustion when the woman's aunt comes to report, I just blindly count the accusations, blame the woman for not being strong, that is really standing and talking without waist pain, which is really chilling.
For example, many people say that divorce has been premeditated for a long time, in fact, the last straw that overwhelms marriage is often not a big thing, usually a trivial matter.
Just like the reader Xiaolu, she divorced her husband Li Ti because she was confined and Li refused to accommodate her, which seemed like a trivial matter, but in fact, it could reflect the fact that he did not love himself so much.
This can be seen that Da Li doesn't care about Xiao Lu at all, or she is not willing to endure the pain of confinement alone, and she will take the handle no matter how she says. The child is not Xiao Lu's own, he is also responsible.
A man like Xiaolu's husband, Da Li, who doesn't know how to care for his wife and can't accommodate her when she is physically and mentally fragile, really doesn't love you and care about you as much as he says.
Second: when two people quarrel
Two people together, where there is no contradiction and quarrel, couples quarrel is normal, there is no couple in this world who does not quarrel.
In fact, no matter why two people quarrel, if one party takes the initiative to give in, it is impossible to quarrel, which avoids saying some extreme words when the emotions are on the head, and hurting each other's feelings.
But some men are arrogant in front of women, playing with ability, and when quarreling with women, they have to win or lose, completely forgetting that home is a place of affection rather than reason.
Most of the men who confront women when arguing tit-for-tat, refuse to give in half a point, and refuse to accommodate them are mostly because they don't care so much about women in their hearts, and they will watch women being angry with themselves and can be indifferent.
Because I don't love, I don't care. Will be unscrupulous, regardless of women's feelings, what is difficult to hear when quarrelling, that word is like emaciated with venom, lest hurt people not fierce enough.
If you really love a woman, men will know how to accommodate her when quarrelling, take the initiative to admit their mistakes, do a review, and coax women to be happy. Instead of wantonly hurting and not caring about women's feelings.
Third: when a woman is emotionally angry and loses her temper
Sometimes women seem to be gambling on temper tantrums, but in fact, they want to get men's attention, hoping that men can hug her and coax her.
But some men obviously know what women want, he does not do this, feel that coaxing women to lose face, accommodating women is not the work of manhood, this kind of man who only cares about his own feelings really does not love women.
Women gamble, do not eat or sleep, men are not distressed at all, they are not accommodating at all, and they feel that they are doing the right thing, not accustomed to women's stinky diseases, such men are too cruel, women are best to stay away.
There is a sentence in the novel "Paper Marriage" that says it well: "No one is perfect, as long as they are willing to accommodate each other most of the time and are willing to understand each other, it is extremely rare." ”
Men are willing to take the initiative to accommodate women at these special times, indicating that men will love this woman very much, they are sincere to women, and they hope that women can spend the rest of their lives with men who are willing to accommodate themselves.
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