Men must understand that there is a truth in love:
"Touching, won't make a woman fall in love with you unless you know it."
Many men think that love cannot tolerate a little slackness, and if the woman she likes is to quickly "fall in love with herself", she must be "moved" by her true feelings.
Many men say, "Obviously I'm good enough for her, why doesn't she like me?"
However, the truth you don't know is that the best feeling is not how good you are to a person, but your good, whether she needs it or not, and what you do even if she is moved, but the touch cannot become a heartbeat.
Mistakenly thinking that touching a person is equivalent to getting a person, and your love is doomed to failure.
A male reader once said:
When he was just working, he used candles and hundreds of red roses to pave the way home for his female colleagues, posing a dazzling red heart, but when the female colleagues heard the news, they fled to their girlfriend's house.
As a result, he waited until the early hours of the morning, and did not wait for the female colleague to appear. No matter how much his friends persuaded him, he didn't want to leave.
In addition to this confession, he usually gave many gifts to female colleagues, and the gifts sent were either hundreds or thousands.
It is not that he has more money in his family, but for the sake of his beloved, he himself saves money and saves every penny.
When others told her female colleagues that he had been thrifty and even starved for those gifts, the girl frowned and returned all the gifts to him.
Everything he did for his beloved touched passers-by and his female colleagues, but it did not touch the girl's heart.
At this point, if you only desperately want to touch the other party, you can only make the woman think that you are very humble and naïve; because women always look at love, they are always moved, not moved.
Even if you can give everything, it will not make you suitable, and it will not make her fall in love with you.
Even if she reluctantly stays with you, because she doesn't have you in her heart, sooner or later she will leave you because of another man's heart.
Just like in "The Moon and Sixpence", the painter saved his wife and loved his wife, who easily abandoned him because she was touched to take care of the family, but because she was touched by others.
Some people may ask: Why is this wife so desperate?
In fact, it is not because the painter is poor, nor is the painter not good enough, but because there is no love without a heartbeat, she does not love him at all, even if she is wronged together, when she meets the man she really loves, when she has a heartbeat, there is abandonment.
Therefore, it is impossible to get love when moved. As the old saying goes, even if you get her people, you can't get her heart.
At this point, before chasing a woman, men must first understand that there is an essential difference between touching and moving.
If you want to win love, understanding "making her heart move" is the key.
As I have said to men many times: "The heartbeat is the most intuitive manifestation of a woman who perceives love and wants to embrace love".
In fact, this sentence is the key to opening the atrium of a woman's heart, and it is also the key to the pursuit of love.
Before a man starts pursuing a woman, he should calm down and think about why she agrees to your pursuit, and what is the point that makes her heartbroken.
For women, it seems simple. For example: pleasing her, giving gifts, all kinds of entanglements, every suitor may be able to do it.
But touching a woman, you can other men too. If women can easily accept you because of this, then love is not coming, it is a little too simple.
And in love, if you want to make women move for you and open your heart to accept you, you can do it enough:
01. Let your appearance become irreplaceable
Chasing a woman, dedication is indeed a shortcut, but this practice is both cheap and humble, you pay a lot, but women are always vague and unmoved.
And the best way to give is: what you give, is what the other party wants.
As long as you do this, women will naturally feel that you are different, because then women will feel that you understand her very well.
If she wants to live a stable life, you have to work hard in the direction of stability; she has just encountered difficulties in work, you must give more good advice in the workplace; when you have a sense of existence and value in the gap between her lives, your appearance is irreplaceable, and she will be moved by you.
In short, what she can get is that she looks at you more; and what the heart can do is to make her eyes look away from you, and want to be close to you and hug you. Being too good to a woman will often make women feel constrained, especially when the other party has not yet moved your heart, which will make her want to escape depressively.
But when you are attracted to her enough to make her heart move, even if you do nothing, she looks at you with love, which is the difference between the two.
Because of love, it never uses one heart to beat another heart, but because of the heartbeat, let each other's hearts collide with the spark of love.