After the child goes to school, we inevitably have to deal with the teacher, from kindergarten to middle school, the homeroom teacher, the life teacher, the classroom teacher, we may all have communication and exchange with each other because of the child's learning and life situation.
My cousin is an elementary school teacher, and in a chat, I asked her, "Are there any parents that you don't really like?" The cousin pondered for a while and said, "Yes, in our work we will meet all kinds of parents, although we know that we have to treat parents equally, but to be honest, some parents really make teachers unbearable." ”
In fact, there will definitely be a deviation of philosophy between parents and teachers, which is very normal, but the following types of parents are the most difficult to communicate, and also the most headache for teachers and schools. If you happen to be among them, be sure to adjust the way you communicate with your teacher.
Finger-and-foot type
This kind of parent is the teacher's most feared. Because such parents not only interfere with their children, but also are willing to interfere with daily teaching activities, it has caused great trouble to the teacher's teaching.
Once watched a screenshot of a strange chat record on the Internet, the mother not only asked the teacher to put sesame seeds on time and in the child's meal, but also asked the teacher to record the whole process of the child's meal.
I once had a friend who was a kindergarten teacher, and once she took a few photos of her children between classes and put them in the group, and as a result, she was immediately asked by several parents why they did not have their own children. Since then, friends have never taken pictures of their children again.
It is easy for such parents to equate the teacher with the nanny and ask the teacher to take care of their baby meticulously, and if they can't take care of it a little, that is, the teacher is too irresponsible, either verbally reprimanding or complaining.
Secondly, such parents also like to point fingers in the daily teaching of teachers.
Why is the lecture progress slower than other classes?
Why are there no language classes today?
Why didn't I ask my child questions today?
Why are there so many jobs?
Why do you have to do math problems today?
In short, everything the teacher did was unsatisfactory in their eyes.
Such parents behave extremely and speak fiercely, and teachers are eager to walk around.
Favoritism protects the short type
There used to be a "little bully" in my cousin's class, this child is very smart, but there are many problems in behavior, like to bully classmates, take other people's things casually, and wave his fist at every turn.
Once, because of an argument with a classmate, my cousin called the parents of both sides. Unexpectedly, the first words of the child's mother when she entered the office were "Definitely not my child's fault!" It's just that the other kid doesn't understand things."
As a result, the other parent was very angry, and the two families quarreled in the office.
The cousin said helplessly: "Partial to the parents of the short-term type, every time there is communication, it is all the problem of the school, the problem of the teacher, the problem of others, that is, the problem of their own baby." ”
In fact, the child is very good at observing the color, and once he finds that no matter what he does, he will be favored and protected by his parents, and they will become unscrupulous.
Such children are very difficult to manage, no matter how to listen, how to talk is useless, oil and salt do not enter. Because in their eyes, my parents can do everything for me.
We admit that such parents love their children very much, but this kind of scaleless coddling into the campus will actually destroy the children, and the children will bring the family's tyranny into the campus, which will affect the child's normal social interaction, affect the relationship between the child and the teacher, and even affect the daily learning.
Leave it alone
"My children will be handed over to you later", as a teacher, I actually don't want to hear this sentence. Because parents who like to say this sentence are often "throwing their hands in the cabinet".
In the eyes of such parents, when a child enters school, his growth and education have nothing to do with himself! Children do not learn well, find a teacher; children have quality problems, find a teacher, in short, all the problems to find the teacher is right.
The cousin said that this type of parent was like being "invisibly" and disappeared from the day his child went to school. It's either in a meeting or on a business trip, and there's never time.
However, once they are contacted, the parent's attitude is still particularly good, that is, no matter what you say, he finally said "then the teacher you will bother more."
Hu Pingping, deputy director of the Basic Education Quality Monitoring Center, said: "Internationally and we have done the test of student scores, the first factor affecting it is the student's family and himself, we collectively refer to them as individual differences, accounting for 60% to 65% of the share, which is the biggest factor left and right scores." The second is regional ecology and atmosphere, as well as regional support for education, accounting for about 20 to 25 per cent; the third is schools, which only account for 10 to 15 per cent. ”
See no, even if children enter school, in their growth, the most important thing is still the family, parents, not teachers!
Parents who like to be "throwing their hands in the cabinet" are actually people who like to evade responsibility, they push their children to the teacher, and whether the child becomes a tool in the future has nothing to do with me, it is the teacher's problem.
Minister of Education Chen Baosheng said: Family education is not in place, and no matter how well school education is done, it will not help.
After the child goes to school, parents have to learn two things
First, believe in the teacher, believe in the child
The later the parents let go, the harder it is for the child to be independent. We must believe that children can get along with their classmates in school, can listen to the teacher's instructions, and believe that children can handle their own affairs.
Teachers have rich teaching experience than parents, they know how to mobilize children's learning interest, how to arrange learning tasks, parents must have basic trust in teachers, teachers can arrange children's learning and growth more smoothly.
Second, actively cooperate
As parents, we can neither interfere with the teacher's teaching arrangements, nor can we leave our hands alone, but we must have a scale and a bottom line to do a good job of family cooperation.
For example, cultivate children's habits, keep an eye on children's homework and review, even if they make appropriate adjustments and arrangements according to the teacher's suggestions.
Excellent children, behind the family and teachers of the mutual cooperation, the two sides of the positive communication can help children find the best way to grow, so, parents, we can not only require children to be excellent, we also have to be an excellent parent, in order to help in the growth of children.