When women do this, they actually hope that you will take the initiative and men will understand

Text: Xi Xihuan

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In the feelings, there will always be one party, will unconditionally take the initiative to pay, there may also be such a party, will never take the initiative, even if the heart loves each other, is not willing to take the initiative to show goodwill, take the initiative to pay, take the initiative to move closer to the other party.

Some men will be very passive in their feelings, or say "straight men" in the words of women, because he never seems to know how to take the initiative, which makes women uncertain in many cases.

Women in the relationship is in need of a sense of certainty, if the man is not in place, not active, in a deeper sense will make the woman feel that he does not love her enough, so it will become in the relationship of gain and loss, lack of security.

Some men will find women's minds difficult to guess, in their opinion, if women have any requirements, or where they feel unhappy, they can say it directly, but women will always use a cryptic way to hint at men, which makes men scratch their heads and do not know what to do in this relationship.

Men should know that the reason why love makes people feel addicted is because many times the expression of emotions is not so straightforward, so there are more small interests, and more magic that makes people fall deeper and deeper.

No matter what you think in your heart, even if a woman wants to hide her emotions, she can't hide it completely, and she will always reveal her truest emotions in some details, so when women do this, they actually hope that you take the initiative and men must understand.

01 Deliberately saying "harsh words" to you

Caught in the love network, it is said that the lover's eyes are out of the west, see how the other party looks good, the advantages will be infinitely magnified, and the shortcomings will be automatically blocked.

It's not that the person you're in love with has no flaws, it's that because you love her, you don't care even if she has flaws.

Therefore, we will not be willing to lose our temper with our loved ones, say harsh words, and always fear that our inadvertent harsh words will hurt the other party's heart.

In the relationship, women want to be pampered and considerate, but men should also know that if a woman deliberately says something insincere to you, she is not really angry with you, but hopes that you can take the initiative with her.

Friend Zhang Yuqing is a very introverted girl, and she never seems to have lost her temper in the eyes of her friends, so they all like to get along with her.

After falling in love, Zhang Yuqing seems to have changed a lot, she always complains to her friends that the other party is very wooden, obviously they all like each other, but he just refuses to take the initiative to confess.

Some friends advised her to take the initiative, after all, in the relationship, it is not necessary for men to take the initiative, but Zhang Yuqing is more true in this matter, and wants the other party to speak first.

So a few times she deliberately quarreled with the other party, and said harsh words, saying that she would not contact or meet again in the future, which meant that she was not important to men.

After a few tantrums, the man finally understood her meaning, so he took the initiative to confess to Zhang Yuqing, after the two people established a relationship, the man once asked Zhang Yuqing why he said those cruel words hurt his heart, and he took those words seriously at that time.

Zhang Yuqing smiled and said, "If I hadn't deliberately said those harsh words, how could you have taken the initiative to take a step forward, in case you really missed me, would you be willing to do it?" ”

The man's heart was clear, it turned out that she was not willing to be so cruel, but wanted a few harsh words to motivate herself to take a step forward.

There is always someone in the feelings who take the initiative, otherwise they are just standing still, no one will take the initiative to go forward, how can the feelings heat up? It will not make two people know each other better.

So, when a woman always deliberately says something harsh to you, don't be hit by the surface of these harsh words, it is likely that she wants to have further development with you, so she will use these harsh words to hint at you.

02 Take the initiative to show weakness

Women will always be easily regarded as a vulnerable group in the relationship, according to psychologists' research found that women with weak appearances can stimulate men's desire to protect and make men feel pity.

In today's society, women are no longer as dependent on men as they used to be, and women will also receive a good education and have equal opportunities for jobs, so women are becoming more and more independent both financially and ideologically.

In the eyes of men, although independent women are more attractive and more appreciated, from another point of view, such women seem to be omnipotent, and men are easy to find a sense of existence and value, and it is easy to feel frustrated in feelings.

Over time, men are naturally reluctant to take the initiative, because no matter how active he is, he will feel that women do not need themselves, lack of themselves, women can do a lot of things.

However, a woman's independence is her own capital and confidence in this society, and it is not a reason and excuse for a man not to take the initiative.

Even independent women also need to feel the man's thoughtfulness and care in the relationship, if the man always stays in place, unwilling to take the initiative to pay for the woman and the feelings between them, then the woman will be disappointed in the relationship, and even finally choose to give up.

Therefore, when a woman takes the initiative to show weakness to you, the man should not pretend to be confused, let alone feel that the woman is really vulnerable, but she is waiting for you to take the initiative.

Zhao Xin is a very independent woman, in the eyes of her parents, study and work have never used them to worry, in the eyes of friends, it seems that she can do everything, so some men even if they appreciate her, do not dare to take the initiative to pursue her.

There was a man who finally attracted zhao Xin's attention, he was also very good, Zhao Xin could see the appreciation and admiration for himself in his eyes, so he secretly rejoiced and felt that there would be a fate between the two people.

However, Zhao Xin waited for a long time, the man still did not take the initiative to show kindness, let alone confess, Zhao Xin learned from a friend, the original man thought she was too good, afraid of being rejected after confessing.

Therefore, when Zhao Xin is getting along with men, she will take the initiative to show weakness, perhaps she is fully capable of solving this matter alone, but she will seek help from men.

After several attempts, the man understood her intentions, so he plucked up the courage to make a bold confession, and the two finally established a romantic relationship.

Men actually do not have to worry too much in the feelings, many times, the more you do not take the initiative, the more you withdraw, but the more women are disappointed in you, it is better to be bold, take the initiative to fight for women's good feelings and recognition of you, so that the distance between you will be closer and closer, and the feelings will heat up.

Feelings require two people to work together to maintain and operate, so if you really love her, take the initiative to move forward, and will enter her heart.

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