Someone said:
"A man's love, sometimes menacing, is as hot as a moth to a fire, and the passion fades, like a calm beachshore."
True.
Some men are unreasonable in their feelings, when they are moved, they can love crazy, and when they change their hearts, they are cold as ice.
Fortunately, there are always traces of changes in people's hearts that cannot be hidden.
If a man changes his heart and has a lover, he will often have these three abnormalities when getting along with you.
Women must be aware of it in order to stop the loss in time.
Cold, always saying "it's tiring to get along with you"
Men are always passionate when they fall in love.
Frequent calls, WeChat constantly, want to know your daily action trajectory, want to understand what you hear, see, feel every day, eager to stick together at all times.
But if he had other lovers in his heart, this enthusiasm would become indifferent.
You will feel that he no longer understands himself, no longer cares about his life, no longer cares about his emotions, and is casually perfunctory about everything about himself.
He would even put "it's tiring to get along with you":
It's tiring to talk to you, it's tiring to go shopping with you, and it's tiring to meet your needs.
All this shows that he doesn't love you anymore and has another part in his heart.
Because behind the phrase "it's tiring to get along with you" is hidden someone who can make him compare.
This person is full of freshness, and everything she does can make him feel happy, in contrast, you, who have lived with him for a long time, have become boring.
You know, when you really love someone, there is no such thing as a boring life.
On the contrary, you will feel that every day you get along with is full of different kinds of beauty, and every morning rise and fall is different.
As this saying goes:
"The time with you is all dazzling, because the weather is good, because the weather is not good, because the weather is just right, every day is beautiful." 」
So, if a man frequently tells you that "it's tiring to get along with you", be vigilant, he may have a lover.
After all, people will only be particularly attentive to the things they like, otherwise, they will have a deep sense of exhaustion.
Because love has shifted, the original eagerness that must be you has disappeared, and he already has someone in his heart who makes him want to treat him more eagerly.
Disgust, don't look at you in the eyes
Writer Lu Qi said:
"Men marry because the women they meet are too good, and men cheat because the women they meet are too fresh."
In the relationship, men are deducted points, and enthusiasm will fade over time, so that it is easy to be blinded by the scenery outside.
Once you have experienced the beauty of it, when you see the woman at home, you will subconsciously compare it, and the disgust will follow.
You will find that people who once regarded you as a treasure suddenly began to criticize your words and deeds, disliked your untrimmed edges, and felt that your nagging was not feminine.
The reason that once fell in love with you has become an excuse for now abandoning you, and there is no longer a figure of you in your eyes.
Shakespeare once said:
"Women fall in love with their ears, while men, if they have love, they fall in love with their eyes."
A man who is single-mindedly devoted to you, his eyes will automatically filter out the flaws in you when they look at you.
Will like your shining point, will also accept your shortcomings, in his eyes you will always be smart and beautiful.
People will never treat important things casually, and those who will dislike you are people whose hearts are not on you.
Love never disappears for no reason, and disgust does not arise for no reason.
Everything has changed because he has a lover in his heart, and the passion and love he once had for you has been transferred to her.
At this time, no matter how deep your feelings are, you must know how to stop the loss in time.
Because a person who hates you everywhere and does not look at you in the eyes, it is only a matter of time before he leaves.
Scared, afraid that you will find out his "secret"
The most obvious abnormality of a man who has a lover in his heart is: fear.
For example, the fear that you touch his mobile phone, even if you only glance at his mobile phone screen slightly, can make him feel like a great enemy;
For example, fear that you will know his secret, never explain it positively when you suspect him, but preemptively accuse you of not trusting enough.
As everyone knows, this kind of behavior just shows that he is weak in heart.
Only people with ghosts in their hearts will be so nervous about their mobile phones, because men who have changed their hearts are full of secrets in their mobile phones;
Only people with ghosts in their hearts will be so afraid of your doubts, because they are afraid that you will discover his secrets, and they are afraid that after the East Window incident, things will not end well without control.
Once a woman discovers that the man around her has this behavior, he may have another lover in his heart.
Because a person who loves you wholeheartedly, his heart must be frank, the mobile phone can be looked at casually, and the itinerary can be checked at will.
Only those who have two hearts will cover up and dodge you.
There is a saying:
"Love is used to avoid harm, not to cause harm."
The meaning of love is to protect, to cherish, not to deceive and hurt.
If a relationship comes to an end and only lies and defenses remain, then it has no meaning of existence.
I remembered a passage I had read before:
"There are always some things that we don't want to happen, but we have to accept them; there are always people, we can't do without, but we have to learn to give up and let go." 」
We can't stop a person from leaving, nor can we keep a love from disappearing, what we can do is to cherish love when it is gone, and after love is gone, decisively let go.
No entanglement, no demand, no burden to pursue their own true happiness.
Finally, I would like to share with you a sentence that I really like:
"The greatest blessing in life is to be sure that someone loves you."
May someone love you and keep the persistence after the passion for you;
May someone hurt you and know how to cherish the usual touch in the chicken and dog fragments.
If not, it's okay, then love yourself.
Source: Want Want House