The 4 marriage truths hidden by Jane Eyre are still deeply rooted in people's hearts today

Author: Nightly Mengshu

Rarely has a novel with such twists and turns as the twists and turns of fate as Jane Eyre.

Obviously, it was the proud work of the British talent Charlotte Brontë, but because of the conservative customs at the time, it had to be published under the guise of a man's name.

It wasn't until after the novel's fire that Charlotte Brontë dared to reveal her true identity.

As the first person in the history of English literature to express the voice of women, she used her own experience as a model to truly reproduce the various restrictions that women faced in marriage and love at that time.

But even so difficult, the protagonist of the book, Jane Eyre, is still indomitable in her fight for her rights and dignity.

More than a hundred years have passed, and the world has been turned upside down, but those difficulties related to marriage and life still exist.

The four truths of marriage revealed in the book are still deeply rooted in people's hearts today.

1

Only those who have the ability to make a living are qualified to make love

Time goes back to the Victorian era, and the whole society is still the supremacy of male power.

Men have traditionally been in control of almost everything, while women are in a position of dependency.

In the marriage field, the door and family wealth are the basis of choice, and beauty and talent are the weight of high marriage.

Unfortunately, jane Eyre, who was orphaned and looked ordinary, stood at the bottom of the chain of contempt from the beginning.

But fortunately, Jane Eyre, who had nothing, understood early on that she could only rely on herself for the rest of her life.

In the harsh conditions of the charity school, Jane Ai wears a simple shirt every day, eats coarse food, and strives to learn all the lessons.

With excellent grades, she successfully stayed in school after graduation and became a teacher, and two years later, she was hired as a tutor at Thornfield Manor.

At that time, the social status of tutors was almost the same as that of maids. But with this salary, Jane Eyre can really support herself.

She had the courage to stand in front of Mr. Rochester, the owner of the manor, and said loudly to her lover whose wealth and status far exceeded her own:

"I don't have a prominent background, I'm mediocre looking, I'm short... My heart is the same as yours, it is rich, it is full! ”

More courage to find out that the lover is married, decisively give up the good life in the manor and run away.

Because Jane Loves knows that at any time, she can support herself with her hands.

Beauvoir said:

"The great fortune of a man is that he has to take an extremely arduous path, both as an adult and as a child, but it is the most reliable path.

The misfortune of a woman lies in being surrounded by almost irresistible temptations, and she is not asked to work hard, but is only encouraged to slide down to reach bliss. ”

But people's hearts are so changeable, the world is difficult, who dares to guarantee that the commitment when the love is strong can be maintained for a lifetime after the love is weak.

In the final analysis, chai rice oil and salt is the foundation of standing, and the wind and snow are just luxuries in life.

If the two are happy with each other, it is a great blessing to accompany each other and grow old together.

Unfortunately, if you have the opposite eye, you must also have the courage to start over and find a new life.

2

A marriage without love is doomed to be a disaster

Concealing marriage and finding another love is an out-and-out scumbag behavior. But when Jane Eyre learns the truth, she has deep sympathy for Rochester.

Because his first marriage was actually a conspiracy.

At that time, Rochester's father passed all the family property to his eldest son.

In compensation, he intended to marry Rochester to a wife with a generous dowry.

At this time, the wealthy Mason family, which has a history of genetic mental illness, is looking for a decent and healthy husband for their daughter Bertha.

One side seeks wealth, the other side wants people, and the two sides hit it off.

But no one thinks about the two young people, and such a marriage that lacks an emotional foundation is doomed to many hidden dangers.

Sure enough, soon after the marriage, the differences in temperament between Rochester and Bertha were gradually exposed, and the contradictions between the two sides became more and more.

Coupled with Bertha's frequent illness, Rochester, who feels cheated, is very disgusted with his wife.

But legally, their marriage could not be dissolved.

Emotionally broken, Rochester simply chooses to leave home and wander, while Bertha, who is completely insane, is imprisoned and full of hatred.

A self-serving marriage eventually became a cage for the couple, and years later, jane Eyre was hurt.

This ending is deplorable, but it is by no means unexpected.

The so-called marriage is actually a protracted cooperation.

One person is too helpless in the wind and rain, so he wants to find someone to help him; the road ahead is too long and arduous, so he wants two people to work together sincerely, which is understandable.

But marriage also needs love as the foundation, and a marriage without love but only calculation is doomed to be a catastrophe.

3

There is no right partner, only a tolerant marriage

After leaving Thornfield Manor, Jane Eyre wandered around, almost in a desperate situation. It was not until he met the priest St. John that he was able to become a teacher in the mountain village and barely make ends meet.

In order to repay the favor, Jane Eyre did her best to educate the peasant girls who came to study. Unexpectedly, this became a means for St. John to measure her value.

The two are in a similar family, or long-lost cousins.

Both are enthusiastic about public welfare and complement each other's abilities.

St. John therefore felt that Jane Eyre was particularly suitable to be his career companion, and that they should get married and go on a missionary trip to India together.

But Jane Ai felt that she was more pleased with Mr. Rochester's love than these corresponding and interlocking matches.

As a towering manor owner, Rochester was enlightened to support Jane Eyre's continued work as a low-status governess.

While enjoying a luxurious life, he can also agree with Jane Eyre's insistence on simplicity.

In this love between rich and poor, their love has always been the true appearance of each other, not external conditions.

So when Bertha Mason was gone and the worldly obstacles had disappeared, Jane Love willingly returned to Rochester.

Even at this time, he was old and blind, and had lost most of his property, but she was just right in age and still had a small fortune.

But what can be more worthy of joy for the rest of your life than the heart-to-heart fit.

Marriage experts say that the biggest misunderstanding of marriage is that we must find a partner who is just the right match.

The door in front of you is right, and it will become unrecognizable in the years at any time.

Now the three views are consistent, and eventually they will part ways in a chicken feather.

The so-called marriage, in fact, who chooses is wrong.

But a good lover is always willing to make mistakes in the years.

There are differences, willing to put themselves in the other person's shoes, have problems, and can seek common ground while reserving differences and compromise with partners.

There is less expectation for marriage than one point for perfection, and one point more tolerance for lovers.

As long as the goal is still the same, as long as the pace is still moving forward, all contradictions will always disappear in mutual understanding.

Lin Yutang said:

"The so-called happy marriage is only the result of the couple's accommodation and habits with each other. It's like an old pair of shoes that will fit well after a long time. ”

In this world, there is never a completely "right" lover, but with tolerance and respect, you can always manage a marriage that is always "right".

4

Who you can marry has long been destined

For more than a hundred years, Jane Eyre has been praised by countless people as a model of brave pursuit of love.

But what is even more valuable is that she obviously grew up in the mud, but she has to live as a ray of sunshine.

When she was young, Jane's loving parents died and she had to live in her aunt's house.

Her aunt abused her in every way, her cousin often scolded her, and even the servants accused her of everything.

It was hard for Jane Eyre to get a chance to enter school and start a new life.

The principal listened to her aunt's rumors and publicly declared her a liar and demanded that the teachers and students of the school alienate her.

Again and again, malice and humiliation almost crushed Jane Eyre.

But in the end, she still survived strongly, learned to be tolerant with her friend Helen Pence, she concentrated on improving herself, and under the guidance of her teacher Miss Temple, she saw the charm of knowledge and found the direction of life.

Jane Eyre says:

"I want to break through obstacles, pursue happiness, be single-minded in goodness, and yes, do good things. I want to be a better person, better than I used to be, and better than I am now. ”

Sure enough, a few years later, this once inferior and gloomy child confidently appeared at Thornfield Manor.

With her unique charm, she won the admiration of Mr. Rochester, the owner of the manor.

With wisdom and courage, he overcame the deception, confusion, illness, and hardship along the way... Finally harvest your own happiness.

In this world, there are always too many unsatisfactory.

Maybe it's when you can't stand on your own, you're being bullied by a bad family of origin.

Maybe when you step into society, you are maliciously hurt by the people around you who are maliciously plotting.

He was stabbed again and again, and the pain was deep in his heart.

But no matter how big the ordeal, it will eventually pass, and no matter how deep the wound, it will eventually heal.

What really prevents us from embracing the new birth is actually the heart that does not dare to believe in happiness.

As the old saying goes, what kind of person you are, you will meet.

But first of all, who you want to be, you will become.

Life is still long, a hundred years, and every tomorrow is a myriad of possibilities and hopes.

Please let go of the past and just try to be excellent.

Maybe turn the next intersection and your happiness will come as promised.

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Philosophers say that marriage is the hardest adventure in life.

Everyone wants to find a like-minded partner and build a solid harbor.

When the wind and rain hit, there is a home to cover, and someone can support the bottom.

But the problem is that before you enter marriage, you never know whether the person you choose is a partner or a storm.

The only thing you can do is to cultivate yourself well and take every step of life well.

Marriage is not the destination of life, it is.

Only when you live well can you have the confidence to run a happy marriage.

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