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In this day and age, there are always many men who have misunderstandings about women, they always feel that women are realistic and material, if their conditions are not good, women may not even want to say anything, let alone further development.
But in fact, reality and matter are not separated between men and women, and there are fewer men who see money in real life?
So the question is not the material, but whether you meet the right person. If you can throw away those inherent prejudices and routines and treat a person sincerely, gradually, you will have new possibilities.
For women, the love they want is actually very simple.
It's just a man who understands her, cares about her, is willing to trust her and work with her. If you can take the initiative to give her the following things in the process of interacting with each other, then the relationship between you will also have a qualitative leap.
One: Love her with your heart, understand her preferences, and give her your attention
Sweet talk doesn't cost anything, you can say to her, just as you can say it to ten different women.
Trying to use words to touch a woman's heart is the stupidest way to do it. A woman may have heard countless fiery confessions from men, but she will only remember who put on her coat in the cold wind.
Men often ask women what you like and I buy it for you. Such words will only make women want to be farther away from you, if you really want to send her something, it is better to pay attention to her first, understand her preferences and needs, and then put it into action to let her see your sincerity.
If you just keep saying, how am I going to do it to you, what am I going to buy you, then it will only make her think that you are superficial and deep.
Nicholas Tse sang: "Say love me, don't say promise, love I don't need commitment." ”
Commitment is the least worth mentioning in love, and only the actions you make can impress the hard heart of a mature woman.
Two: understanding her is more important than loving her, giving her your understanding will make her completely accept you
Sometimes it's far more difficult to understand someone than to love someone.
Loving someone, we can love in our own way, will be as good to each other as possible, will do our best to give, this is a way for us to express love. But to understand is different, if you want to understand a person, you have to know him well enough, you have to go deep into her soul, you have to love in the way she likes.
Only in this way will she feel that such feelings are what she needs, and that she feels that she can continue to develop.
Women love to eat apples, but men pour out everything to buy a box of bananas, after being rejected, but also blame women for not knowing good villains, still self-pity, feel that they have given all their hands, why not get a word of recognition? Even maliciously speculate whether the bananas bought are not high-grade enough and the packaging is not exquisite enough.
But men forget to ask women, do you really want bananas? What kind of fruit do you really like?
Such blind giving has no meaning except to move yourself. If you really love a woman, put away your self-righteous arrogance, talk to her equally, calm down and go into her heart to see what she really wants.
It's not what you give, she has to accept it.
Three: Respect her, put her on an equal footing with you, and know how to compromise and back down
The reason why the British writer Charlotte Brontë's world famous book "Jane Eyre" still has such a great influence after a hundred years is because it conveys ideas and concepts that are enough to affect generations of people.
The heroine of the book, Jane Eyre, is an orphan who, judging by the social context of the time, is undoubtedly of low status and cannot be compared with people in high society. But in love, she showed self-esteem that ordinary people do not have, and she felt that loving a person is to love each other with her soul, and she is equal to each other and should respect each other.
It is this high degree of self-love that impresses Mr. Rochester in high society.
Mature women are like a masterpiece, they are elegant, wise, and have connotations. They are not easily impressed, but also more sensitive and delicate. But at the same time, they are also more affectionate and single-minded, like pearls wrapped in shells. Only when you open her hard shell with a loyal and persistent heart can you see the most dazzling brilliance inside.
To get the heart of a mature woman is not to be kind to her in no way, not to be self-congratulatory, but to love her from the bottom of my heart, understand her, and respect her.
Only in this way can you harvest the most beautiful love.
Recommend the classic book "Jane Eyre" to everyone, the charm of women is explained through this novel, read more, you will have more connotation, it is easier to make people look up.
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