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We all know the importance of material things, and if there is no material support, life is very difficult.
Although material life is very important, it does not determine a person's confidence.
In other words, people's confidence actually has little to do with material wealth.
Thoreau once said:
No matter how rich the material is, it cannot hide the barren heart, unless a person does not communicate with others, if he communicates with others, the inner barrenness will come out.
People with good material conditions may not be barren in their hearts and may gain confidence, but people with good mental states must live with confidence.
Even if life is difficult, they will hold on and fight for a story of absolute counterattack.
The heroine of "Jane Eyre", Jane Eyre, is such a girl.
Her fate was bumpy, her parents died at a young age, and she was fostered in her uncle's house.
If she accepts not to change and has been thinking about material things, she may live in pain and even affect her life.
01: If the heart is not barren, it will not be too bad
If your fate were the same as Jane Eyre's, you might give in and feel like the unluckiest person in the world.
Even, can not find the meaning of living.
However, Jane Love is different, although the material living conditions are very poor, but she can face it with a positive attitude.
Although she was initially fostered in her uncle's house, her uncle hurt her, and if her uncle did not die, she would not have to face too much, let alone complete self-redemption.
Unfortunately, none of this is possible.
Because her uncle died, and her aunt did not hurt her too much, scolding became a common thing.
Supposedly, in such an environment, Jane Eyre would live a particularly inferior life, but she did not.
Although her aunt was not good for herself, she was not negative, although there were no beautiful clothes, no beautiful toys, but what was it?
As long as there is sunshine in your heart, you must be able to feel the sunshine, right?
Frankly speaking, Jane Love was in her aunt's house, and she was not even a servant, young and weak, and could not do heavy work at all, so it was normal to be disliked.
If you change to someone else, you may hide and cry.
But she is very stubborn in her bones, all this in her view, it does not matter, even if others do not play with themselves, she will play by herself, never inferior.
Although life is under the fence, she is not a good bully, if someone bullies herself, she will not bend the bend, but choose to fight back.
Even if you can't fight yourself, you must resist.
All of them felt that Jane Love was living a very sad life, but she herself did not feel that she did not deliberately pretend that it did not matter, but really did not feel it.
Otherwise, it would be impossible to have such a positive attitude towards life.
Objectively speaking, Jane Love is not barren at heart.
A person who is not barren in her heart, naturally a powerful person, and the simple material conditions cannot defeat her, because there is sunshine in her eyes, so what she sees is sunshine.
Although Jane Eyre's material conditions are poor, her spirit is rich.
Because of this wealth, she has completely lived out her own confidence, even if life is difficult, it cannot make her submit.
Admittedly, many people can't do what Jane Eyre did, and in the face of a bumpy fate, some people may have long chosen to give up.
But what will happen if you give up? In fact, it will only make your life more painful.
If so, why torture yourself? It is better to face it positively, give yourself confidence, and live a beautiful life.
02: People who really have confidence will not complain about others
I have always felt that people with confidence will not resent others.
When they encounter problems, they do not run away, but look for reasons from themselves, and even if life is bitter, they will try to find a little sweetness.
Jane Eyre is such a person.
In all its eyes, Jane Love lives a miserable life: ostracized, repressed, doing the lowest level of work.
Unfortunately, these are only felt by others, and Jane Ai does not care at all.
In the social environment at that time, tutoring was a very humiliating profession.
People who are not worried about their livelihoods, very few people do it, it is obviously a thankless job, and the people who do it are not even looked at as people.
Jane Loves herself has worried about it, but she doesn't stop doing it because she's worried.
She lives a very transparent life, if the other party can get along well, then get along with him, if not, then forget it, never wronged themselves.
However, how many of us in life can do it?
When we encounter exclusion and suppression, we may resist desperately at first, but after a long time, we find that our resistance is useless, so we begin to complain to ourselves.
Since then, I have begun to feel that only when I become rich can I have the courage to fight against the unfairness in this world.
But is this really the case?
Can pure imagination really achieve your reversal counterattack?
Obviously, it is simply not possible. So, instead of self-hypnosis, try to look at these injustices from a different perspective.
As the saying goes, what you have in your heart, what you see in your eyes is what you see, and only when you make your mind positive can everything in front of you be clear.
Jane Eyre doesn't wrong herself for the sake of others, and she knows that such a life has no meaning.
Instead of living like this, it is better to forget it, there is no need to live in other people's worlds, trembling.
And this positivity is also the strength of Jane Love!
As Jane Eyre expected, the employer Rochester did have some difficulties getting along with, not only was he harsh and mean, but he always thought of trying to embarrass Jane Eyre and take pleasure in it.
If you change to someone else, you may be angry and leave, but Jane Love is different, she has done what she should do, and she will never tolerate unreasonable demands.
She doesn't give in because of who she is, she knows what she wants.
For this reason, Jane Eyre strives to be herself, not only not agreeing to the unreasonable demands of her employers, but also talking and debating with them.
What is surprising is that in this way, the two people get along and become harmonious.
Slowly, Rochester also liked Jane Eyre more and more, and eventually the two people collided with the spark of love in the process of getting along.
Originally, Rochester wanted to give her the jewelry stored in the bank and make everyone envious, he thought that Jane Eyre would be particularly happy, but unfortunately, Jane Eyre refused.
She said bluntly that she loved Rochester herself, but it wasn't because of the other person's wealth, she didn't want to be someone who depended on others to live, she wanted to rely on herself.
Although she wanted to spend her life with Rochester, when she learned that Rochester had long been married, she chose to leave quietly.
In her opinion, love should be equal, it should be a matter of two people, and since Rochester is married, it means that there is no fate.
That being the case, leaving is the best option.
You see, Jane loves to live a lot!
If you change someone else, you may be willing, although the other party is married, but the other party has enough wealth, which will make you worry-free for a lifetime.
But Jane Eyre is not a material person, she has her own stubbornness, she knows what she wants, if she is allowed to sell her soul for material things, it is absolutely impossible.
As long as a person is not affected by material things, she will live a sufficiently confident life and will not live a humble life than anyone.
For the rest of my life, I hope that everyone can be like Jane Eyre, know what they want, and don't lose the confidence to stand in society because of material things.
Only in this way can you live the way you want to be, and can you live the way others envy.
Encourage with the King!
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei is a young writer and marriage counselor. Hope to use simple words to warm your heart.