Qingming small long holiday, are you okay?
CC grandma there is a lockdown, this holiday I can not throw the baby away, the epidemic is urgent, C dad also went to the hospital day by day, dragging two babies every day, the heart is going to have a stalk.
Originally planned to be such a quiet cat for three days, but there are too many things happening this year, this year's Qingming Festival, or want to talk to you about it.
What is the Day of Tomb Sweeping?
How do you answer this question when your child asks it?
Qingming is a rare holiday, three days in a row, parents can take the children out to play. Qingming is one of the twenty-four solar terms, "Qingming breaks snow, valley rain breaks frost", Qingming means that all things grow and spring is strong. Qingming is a day to worship ancestors and sweep graves, and we must send our thoughts and respects to our deceased relatives and ancestors.
Is that enough? Far from enough.
In the past Three months, 132 people lost their lives in the China Eastern Airlines disaster, they had parents, children, and represented the loss and suffering of 132 families.
In the past Three months, in many places, some people are facing the virus retrograde, some people are fighting the virus to the death, some of them are only a few months old, some are already eighty or ninety years old, some are the pillars of the family, and some are the treasures of their parents.
These experiences will more or less leave memories for children, and they will definitely affect them subtly in the coming days.
As the guides of children, it is necessary for parents to take advantage of the opportunity of clarity to give their children a good life education lesson and teach them to know life, fear life, cherish life, and understand life.
1- Teach children to learn to cherish in the midst of loss -
On the MU5735 aviation that was killed this time, there was a Qin Ming from Kunming, who was in his early 40s this year, the "perfect husband" in his wife's mouth, and the best father in the eyes of his children.
(Kindergarten works by Qin Ming's son)
On March 21, he sent his son to kindergarten early in the morning, and then went home to play with his one-year-old daughter.
On his days when he is not on business, he has a lot of things to do, to accompany his children to jump rope, play Go, practice words, learn English...
But after getting on mu5735, he never came back.
The wife did not dare to tell the child at first, but the son still felt something keenly.
He said, "I know Dad is on a business trip."
Mom asked, "Do you know how Dad went on a business trip?" ”
He stopped talking.
Mom said, "Dad flew there, but unfortunately, because the plane Dad was on couldn't be found now, he was missing, so Dad was on it, and we couldn't find it either." Recently, there have been a lot of uncles and aunts in the house, and they are all helping us find our father. ”
After hearing these words, the child cried. Later, he went to play by himself, played and suddenly said, "Mom, I'm worried about Dad." Worried that Dad was hungry and had no money to buy something to eat. ”
Mom said, "How come?" ”
He said: "He's on the plane [can't get off), and if he runs out of money and doesn't have money to buy something to eat, won't he be hungry?" ”
Behind the list of 123 passengers and 9 crew members are living lives and grief-stricken families.
Jiajia, who turns 16 next week, plans to go to high school in the UK in the second half of the year, and her parents are full of expectations for her future.
Zhang Junwen, a newcomer to the airline who graduated from college in 2020 and entered the airline with his classmates, is tall and likes to wear a white sweatshirt and Air Force One sneakers.
There is also a 30-year-old girl Fang Fang, who is very capable of fighting, she graduated from college, was admitted to the certified public accountant, worked hard in the workplace for many years, and was just promoted to the company's financial director, but her road to fight for her dream came to an abrupt end.
One netizen said:
The circle of friends suddenly did not want to set up three days to see, afraid that if there is an accident in the future, when my parents think of me, they will not see my circle of friends.
We often say that it is a long time to come to Japan, but in fact, some people's turn may be to say goodbye; some people's waving is not goodbye, but may be "never to be seen again."
It turns out that our seemingly ordinary chai rice oil and salt contain great happiness.
It is necessary for us to tell the child two sentences:
First, every minute and every second of a peaceful life is luck and blessing, cherish the present moment, and live every day well, which is the greatest meaning of life.
Second, life not only belongs to oneself, but also to one's family, and cherishing life is both responsible for oneself and one's family.
2- Teach children to say goodbye in love -
On March 24, at the crash site of China Eastern Airlines, family members laid out candles, flowers and fruits to pay tribute.
Some family members shouted at the valley: "We will come and pick you up!" Remember to go home with us! ”
A camera was given on the TELEVISION of a family member taking a can of dirt from the scene.
CC asked, "Why do you want to put soil back?" ”
I couldn't organize the language, so I could only say dryly: "The leaves fall back to the roots, give everyone a thought." ”
Why?
Some netizens commented: I can't even kiss your ashes, I can only mourn in the ruins.
I think it's not a lament, but a ritual—convincing yourself that the dead are gone, that the living are gone.
Loss is painful, but we still need to withdraw from grief and return to the daily life of chai rice oil and salt.
Lin Huiyin once said:
"There are too many things in the world that we cannot give up. Life is often like this, many hard thoughts and meditations are incomprehensible to the truth, just in a certain ordinary moment, everything has an answer. ”
The answer is: let go.
There is a moving story in the JAL 123 crash of 1985.
On the plane at that time, there was a 5-year-old boy who was alone in the plane and unfortunately did not survive.
When the news of the air crash came, the boy's mother was devastated.
At the thought of the plane from take-off to crash in the half an hour, other children can hide in the arms of their mothers, their sons in an unfamiliar environment, in a sudden change of circumstances, lonely, panicked, sadness will come like a sea of mountains.
Until one day, she received a phone call, and the woman on the phone told her:
My daughter was on that plane too, sitting next to your son. My daughter is a very gentle and kind person, so rest assured that your son is not alone in the last minute.
This mother was lucky that someone gave her a relief exit. More often, we need to find a reason for ourselves to let go.
Not all diseases can be cured, not all accidents can be avoided, death is there, and it does not exist because of our avoidance.
We can't fight death, so let's first tell the child: death is not terrible, as long as we don't forget, death can live forever.
We must believe that the person we miss day and night in the distance will also want to tell us: Please do not grieve, parting is for a better reunion.
What the departing people want us to do is the song "Remember me" in "Dream Quest":
Remember me
Remember me Each time you hear a sad guitar Whenever you hear a sad guitar sound Know that i'm with you to know that it's me who's with you The only way that I can be until you're in my arms before you get back into my arms Again that is the only way I exist, the most important thing we should do is to cherish everything we have, and also carry the instructions of our loved ones, bravely move forward, live out the color of life, and live in vain.
3- Teach children to be grateful in the midst of suffering -
As for the cause of the crash, there is still no clear answer, and some people have begun to question the safety of the aircraft.
Statistics from 2020 show that there were 244674 traffic accidents of various types on the mainland, resulting in 61,703 deaths. Among them, there were 156901 automobile accidents, resulting in 43,098 deaths.
In other words, the number of people who die by cars on the mainland is close to 200 every day.
If you don't dare to take a plane now, will you not take a car or drive after that?
Hearing and witnessing such a disaster, children will inevitably feel fear, we need to tell children: although we have not been able to avoid accidents, but in the places we can't see, there are many people silently paying for our safety and carrying weights forward.
In 2019, Xi'an pilot Ren Yongtao crashed the plane into the water tower in order to avoid the school when the plane failed, and died heroically.
He originally had the opportunity to skydive to escape, but sacrificed himself in order to protect the students and protect more lives.
There was also the most recent Air China flight CA983, which flew from Beijing to Los Angeles, because of the fire alarm, diverted to Russia, and as it fled, the flight attendant shouted at the passengers with all their might: "Don't take anything, run!" "188 passengers, safely evacuated within 90 seconds, were finally the crew leaving.
When the China Eastern Airlines disaster incident just broke out, someone said on Weibo:
I used to not understand why the plane had either crashed into the mountains or the sea, but now I understand that it was the last effort of the crew.
The last lesson for civil aviation staff is: "If you encounter an irreversible air disaster, try your best to reduce the harm to people's property, reduce the number of casualties as much as possible, and then, calmly die." ”
There is no absolutely safe means of transportation in this world, and China's civil aviation is still the safest choice in the world with the lowest accident rate.
Here is the world's best civil aviation practitioners, the strictest management regulations, the most conservative and prudent working attitude, they do their best to ensure that every moment in China's sky is flying 500,000 people, has been safely flying for 100 million hours.
Although the record of 4227 days of civil aviation in China began to clear from the moment of the China Eastern Airlines incident, they will definitely learn a painful lesson from it and nirvana will be reborn.
Suffering is a school, and what it brings us should not be fear, but gratitude.
In the past few days, the outbreak of the epidemic in many places, a camera in Yanbian, Jilin Province, inadvertently recorded such a picture:
At 12:05 p.m., two young volunteers in protective suits, running in the stairwell, in the darkness, gasped for breath, cheered themselves up, and said:
"For China! For the country! For the great national revival!
I'm going to stick to it! I'm going to stick to it! I'm going to stick to it! ”
There has never been a shortage of strivers and sacrificers for the country and the people around us, and it is a privilege to be in it.
There is also a video of a white-haired grandfather in an isolated neighborhood in Yangjiang, Guangdong Province, holding out a national flag and solemnly hanging it on the balcony.
The camera pulls open, and every household in this community has a brand new five-star red flag hanging on the balcony.
This neat flag shows that we are a collective. Under this banner, we have the confidence and strength to overcome all difficulties.
Zhang Xuefeng, a childcare expert, said: "Life education should be carried out as soon as possible, so that children can face death correctly and understand the meaning of life and death before they know how to cherish everything in the world." ”
Only when we give our children the correct life education will children have a sense of reverence for life.
Qingming is a day to feel "life", you may wish to take a clear incense and mourn for the people who have passed:
Those who have accompanied us in the journey of life, may they be all right from afar.
Those warriors and heroes who defend the country and guard the mountains and rivers may their loyal souls always be there and the monuments live forever.
Qingming, or a day of "gratitude", may wish to light a heart lamp to pay tribute to those who pay silently:
Thank you for your hard work, it is you who make our lives better, and it is you who make us fearless in everything about the future.