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Everyone needs to know what "emotional intelligence" really means.
In the eyes of many people, emotional intelligence is "emotional management", but in fact, emotional intelligence also includes "emotional cognition".
"Be open to your joys and sorrows as they arise."
—John and Lynn St. Clare Thomas
Feel the roulette wheel
This gadget, called "Sensory Roulette," was invented by counselor Dr. Gloria Willcox to help people become more aware of their emotional state.
The "Feeling Roulette Wheel" is simple to use and can be self-made by the family, and is a psychological tool that can be used by the family.
Feel roulette as a whole as shown below
Let's disassemble this diagram in detail.
The "Sensation Wheel" is divided into 3 circles from the inside out.
The innermost circle is divided into 6 parts, which are the 6 most easily identifiable feelings for humans.
Sadness, anger, fear, joy, strength, peace.
The first half is 3 positive feelings, which when these feelings appear, a person will feel "happy" or "inner peace".
The second half is 3 negative feelings, when these feelings appear, a person will feel "unhappy";
Most people can accurately perceive these emotions.
What causes these 6 emotions is the feeling of the outer circle.
For example, when a person feels happy, it may be because:
Something (traveling, winning a lottery, chasing a drama) makes him very excited;
Seeing pleasing things and feeling the beauty;
After exercise, I am full of vitality so I am very happy;
Family gatherings, gatherings of friends make him feel happy;
did creative things (jigsaw puzzles, drawings);
Feel hopeful for the future.
In refinement, why does he feel hopeful?
Because his assessment of the future is optimistic.
Why does creativity make people happy?
Because the process of assembling building blocks and origami is very pleasant and easy.
So actually your emotional chain is:
Assembling blocks is fun – creative needs are met – and I'm happy.
If you don't know the chain, then your happiness will be relatively simple.
The advantage of emotional sensitivity is here, and an emotionally sensitive person can experience deeper feelings.
To help your child improve their emotional intelligence, this picture is enough
Emotional intelligence is by no means simply an attitude and performance towards people and things.
For a child, the really important emotional intelligence is how he recognizes his emotions.
The movie "Mind Task Force" uses personified images to represent the five emotions of anger, dislike, happiness, fear, and worry, and together they make decisions about the behavior of little master Riley in the brain control center.
This film helps children to accurately recognize and feel their emotions and become friends with emotions.
We adults are not yet able to accurately express our emotions, let alone children.
Print out this picture, when the child has emotions, parents can help the child analyze at home.
If you can clearly understand the child's emotional chain, the way to help him will be clear.
Many psychologists abroad have suggested that "sensory roulette" be introduced into the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence.
Usually children have a lot of knowledge of their emotions around the age of four, but they have not yet learned enough words to describe their feelings, and this roulette wheel can help them learn a lot of words related to feelings and emotions.
It is very helpful for emotional intelligence development.
According to the stage division, the focus of emotional intelligence development for each age group is different:
2 to 3 years old: fight separation anxiety, recognize simple emotions, overcome fear of life;
3 to 4 years old: confident, independent and empathetic;
4 to 5 years old: anger management, self-control and frustration resistance;
5 to 6 years old: learn to socialize, deal with interpersonal conflicts, and cooperate with classmates and friends
No matter what kind of emotion the child marks on the roulette wheel, parents should accept it as soon as possible.
Emotions are not good or bad.
Depending on the emotions marked, parents can react as follows.
Try to respond to your child's emotional responses, allowing the child to feel empathized and supported, thereby enhancing his understanding and acceptance of his emotions.
#试着问:
"Why are you crying?"
"What do you think?"
"Can you guess why I was angry just now?"
Let children identify psychological feelings under the guidance of parents.
#当孩子讲述和朋友之间的矛盾时, you can also ask:
"Why is she angry?"
"What's going on between them?"
"If it were you, what would you do?"
In this way, let children learn to empathize with others and think differently under your guidance.
#释放情绪的方法
It's normal to let go of emotions, and parents want to allow their children to cry and get angry, but there are three basic principles:
Do not harm others, do not harm yourself, do not damage items.
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