From birth, each of us will have the nurturing and companionship of our parents, the company of friends when we grow up, and the company of our partners after entering marriage. But one day, these people will gradually drift away, parents will die, friends will stay away, and sometimes partners will leave.
So, how do we spend this lonely human world? Some people may say that there are children, and we raise children to prevent old age.
It is true that raising children and preventing old age is an inherent concept that we have passed down in China to this day, but many times, when you are really old, you will find that your children are busy with their own small families, or busy with work, and even more so, their children are not filial piety and completely ignore you.
Therefore, many objective uncertainties will make your old age life without the necessary protection.
Life is not guaranteed, and the loneliness in the heart is not told. In the face of reality, all emotions will instantly become extremely small.
Of course, there are also children who are both filial piety and have the ability and energy to take care of their parents, which is a blessing for parents and a life of old age that they should enjoy.
But after all, not everyone can have such good conditions, so we can't guarantee that we can rely entirely on anyone, whether it is a partner or a child in this life. In your old age, you will understand that the person you can really rely on is actually the person you are most familiar with, that is, yourself.
One: One day the partner leaves, and all that's left is yourself
The promises that were made when they entered marriage will be kept for the rest of their lives, and some will give up halfway.
The person who promises never to give up and always loves you must be the person you love the most, but life is impermanent and there is always one person who will leave. After all, your wife and children can't become your lifelong dependence, leaving you alone to face this cold and warm world.
Therefore, we should all understand that gathering and dispersing are not allowed to be people. Only by learning to be alone with yourself can you make life go on better.
Zhang Apo sent away her old partner two years ago, the old partner was sick and hospitalized, Zhang Apo took care of her step by step, but the old partner still could not withstand the torture of illness and left Grandma.
The children are far away, the old partner just left that year, Zhang Apo stayed at home every day, only to go out when buying vegetables.
The aunts in the community came to her to go square dancing, and she also politely refused, sealing herself in her own world.
Several of her old friends were very anxious, afraid that she would make a good mistake, so everyone tried to find a way together, and finally knocked on the door of her house and gave her ideological work.
Slowly, the aunts went to her house several times, and Grandma Zhang's heart was slowly melted, and the frozen heart began to accept others.
Now every time an activity is organized in the community, Grandma Zhang has begun to actively sign up for it. The mood was also much brighter, and a smile that had not been seen for a long time appeared on his face.
Once she and one of her aunts said, "Man, in this life, in the end, you can only rely on yourself." The beloved one leaves with our love, and the one we leave behind must also live well with his love. ”
Two: One day, the children will start a family, relying only on themselves
Writer Long Yingtai wrote in her article "Seeing": "I slowly and slowly learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is this life and this life, and I am constantly watching his back fade away. You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away where the path turns, and he silently tells you with his back: No need to chase. ”
From the moment of birth, children mean the first separation from their mothers, and then the children grow up under the urging of time, go to school, work, marry and have children, leave our side, it is time and time again that we see them.
Children are like birds with full wings, and finally they begin to fly, their own sky, so parents cannot be tied to their own side, which is another normal state of life.
And raising children and preventing the elderly has long ceased to meet the needs of today's times, when we enter the moment of old age, we should have understood that children have their own lives, and we are not willing to add burdens to them, and the dependence of the old age, after the wife leaves, there is only themselves.
What's more, after all, children can not accompany themselves for life, after they reach middle age, they have jobs to work, children to raise, families to take care of, and there is no way to allocate more energy to take care of us.
And as the old saying goes, "There is no filial piety before the bed of a long illness." Although the children are related to themselves by blood, if the elderly are sick in bed for a long time, even the filial children will sometimes feel bored, and even some people will directly ignore their parents.
This is a phenomenon we often see in our lives. This is a very common social phenomenon.
After all, we must understand a truth: some things can only be done by one person. Some levels can only be passed by one person. Some roads can only be walked by one person.
Three: Live for yourself, only you are the master of life
We are born lonely, so we continue to know different people at every stage of growth. Until the end of his life, he still left alone.
Therefore, in just a few decades, we must always take advantage of the time now, treat ourselves well, and plan for the rest of our lives.
In the TV series "Old Girlfriend", Aunt Irene has a good image and good temperament, but she lives alone, and her son is far away. But her life is particularly good, she is the leader of the elderly model team, every day is beautiful and busy, and she also gets along with several old girlfriends with similar interests.
Usually a few old girlfriends together, playing and having fun, embroidering cross stitch together, life is particularly full, even if she finally became ill and was desperate, but with the help of friends, her spirit was supported, and finally she was cured and discharged from the hospital.
Therefore, we must know how to love ourselves, treat ourselves well, in order to take care of our children when we are young, and for the sake of our children and families after middle age, when we are old, our children have their own families and have a home.
Now we must live well for ourselves, think more about ourselves, and make about three or five old friends in our spare time, tread green, enjoy flowers, fish, and sit together drinking tea and chatting. It is a leisurely old age.
Conclusion:
When people reach old age, don't always lock themselves in that dark little world, in addition to the family, in addition to children, but also to contact more external things.
Children like to be alone, want to enjoy their own world, do not want to stay with the elderly often, we also have to make some good friends who belong to us, so that the old age life is more colorful and dependent.