"Social fear" or "social cow" is not only a fashionable hot word on the Internet, but also a true portrayal of some young people at present.
"Social fear", as the name suggests, is a person who is afraid of social interaction; "social cow" is the opposite of "social fear", which refers to a person who is fearless of social interaction and can socialize in any occasion.
Because social networking is an inevitable part of modern society, in general, people with good social skills will have more advantages, so many parents hope to cultivate their children into "social cattle", even if they can't become social masters, they don't want their children to become "social fears".
In fact, I also have this concern, because my daughter is now one and a half years old, and she will be a little timid when facing strangers, even if we remind her to say hello to people, she can't do it every time, so I am a little worried that she will have social phobia.
I read a lot of books and materials for this purpose, and consulted professionals, hoping to give my daughter some correct guidance in terms of social interaction.
According to the data, if you want to improve this situation, the key is to seize the child's social sensitivity period, and the child's social sensitivity period is generally manifested in 2-6 years old, this stage of the child is a very strong desire to explore knowledge, and the ability to accept new things is very strong, if parents can seize this sensitive period can lay a good foundation for the child's future social interaction.
It just so happens that my daughter is about to enter the social sensitive period, and I believe that many parents have the same or similar situations as me, so today I will share with you how to better grasp the social sensitivity period of my children after doing a lot of homework!
1. Parents should observe their children more
We already know that children aged 2-6 are in a socially sensitive period, so if your child is at this stage, then parents need to pay more attention to their children's social situation.
For example, the child's relationship with other people, the social troubles that the child confides to the parents, the social problems of the children reflected by the kindergarten teacher, etc., parents should pay more attention, only by doing this, parents can find problems in time and give children the help they need in time.
2. Parents should give their children correct guidance
Children in this period can not calmly cope with various social problems, so even if they encounter difficulties in socializing, some children may not know how to deal with it, and then they need the guidance and help of parents.
For example, in daily life, parents can take the initiative to guide children to interact with other children, in the process of children's interaction, parents should encourage children more, to help children more, so that children's social skills can be better improved.
3. Parents should play an exemplary role
In children's social problems, a demonstration by parents may be more effective than countless sentences of preaching, so parents must do a good job of demonstration.
For example, when parents get along with others, they should behave generously and proactively, which will invisibly infect their children, and may make them more active in the face of social interaction;
When the child wants to make friends, but does not know how to do it, parents can simulate the scene and make friends with the child, so that when the child encounters this situation again, he can imitate this dialogue to make friends, not to be speechless.
If the child is still not confident enough and is not good at socializing, parents can practice with the child a few more times, and at the same time take the child to practice and interact with children of the same age, through this way, the child's social skills will definitely be improved.
"Sheniu Baby" is not born, the key is the cultivation of the day after tomorrow.
Therefore, as long as parents can seize the child's social sensitivity period and use the right method to guide and help them, then the child's social ability will not be bad, on the contrary, if you miss this critical period, it may be more difficult to cultivate the child's social skills.