Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Sometimes, I really think more than once, what is the purpose of people living this life?
When I was young, I felt that I was living for my ideals.
In middle age, I live for my responsibilities.
After retirement, I thought about it and realized:
In this life, no matter how the first half of life is lived, the old age is relatively smooth and not too desolate, which is the best life before the "way home".
After retirement, people also grew older. Looking back on the first half of my life, I won't lose success or failure, gather and scatter honor and disgrace, in fact, I don't get tangled when I look at it and look down on it!
Once people look away and look down, they will definitely understand how much time is worth cherishing.
Unfortunately, some people have retired and are old and still can't let themselves go.
When some people who gradually learn to "stay away from the hustle and bustle" after retirement enjoy the present, some elderly people begin to maintain and move around in the "interpersonal relationship" in the sunset red.
As everyone knows, in real life, too much reality and human nature, in their own bloody "maintenance" and "walking", let people see too much unbearable.
Interpersonal relationships are always the most realistic! In all the heat and cold of the world, it is the highlight of human nature.
After retirement, if you do not know how to enjoy real comfort, you must not have too many expectations for relationships. A faint coming and going is the person who really understands "interpersonal relationships".
What's more, in real life, no matter what the relationship, if you are not profitable to others, you are sincere and meaningless.
Some people think that "profit" here refers to power, status, or money.
In fact, the "profit" between people comes and goes, not only these cold and vain, but also mixed with too many abstract thinking, some of the excessive expectations of others.
Therefore, some relatives, should keep their distance!
Some relatives, if you don't move around, don't "mess around"! This is really good for you. Believe it or not:
First: Relatives who do not know how to be grateful, try not to interact!
The more people interact with each other in the present, the more obvious the reality is.
To survive in the world, from birth, we are instilled by our parents and teachers the virtue of "knowing how to be grateful".
However, everyone knows that in the real exchange between black and white, it is because reality has lifted the seal of human nature and the ugliness of the human heart. Some people are full of benevolence and morality but do not know how to be grateful and do not do "human" things.
This phenomenon is most common among general relatives!
When you have value for your use, he is showing you kindness, respect and gratitude. But something didn't go along with ta's meaning, and he immediately turned his face.
In the face of such people, some people feel that they are relatives after all, and they will tolerate and understand to respond to "ungratefulness". However, the other side has intensified.
In fact, turning faces between relatives is never an overnight affair. When he is able to have a picture in you, all his "closeness" to you is just a trick.
Retired, you may think that in your old age, you will eventually be able to walk around with your relatives, enhance your feelings, or dissolve some of your former unhappiness. However, for those who are not grateful to you, after turning their faces, they will be blind and scornful to you!
In this life, people gradually enjoy the process of loneliness in the years of constant farewell.
No matter what happened in the past, your relatives did not know how to be grateful to you, and you should not expect to resolve it through the exchanges after retirement.
People who don't know how to thank you are selfish people in nature. Selfish people, only value their own gains and losses, pay attention to their own feelings, if you let him feel "loss", how can he smile at you?
Second: Don't move around too much with your relatives (your child's in-laws or in-laws) and your parents-in-law!
At any time, don't forget that the daughter who marries out spills out the water.
After the children become a family, as parents, do not move around too diligently with their relatives, which is not a good thing.
You know, some of the contradictions in the lives of young people originate from their respective elderly people. If you think that you and your relatives move around more, one is to connect feelings, and the other is better for your children, then you are wrong.
Any relationship that gets too close is a disaster. If you can't give your children real "benefits", you are running to your own home and breaking your leg, which is only to cause trouble for young people.
Moreover, if you get too close to your relatives, you will cause unnecessary sensitivities between each other. Either the other half of the children think that you are too ignorant of "proportions" to always stir things up, or the relatives think that you are too "idle" and always come to "monitor".
The relationship between relatives and families is fragile. Don't overestimate the solidity between you when you underestimate human nature. When you are better than your relatives, he will think that you often show off. When you are not as good as your own family, he will feel that you have to "rely on".
Don't say that this is alarmist, it is the human heart and human nature that determine, and the ideas between people will not be truly synchronized and pure.
Retire and live your life. If you have the necessary exchanges, you will be fine with each other!
Between relatives and families, if it is not a strong alliance, you can't really "hug the group" for warmth.
When you and your relatives move too actively and frequently, the hidden troubles you may bring to your children are the most difficult for your children to bear!
Retired, growing flowers and raising fish in your own home, quiet and comfortable, it is really good!
Third: Don't go to relatives who have too big a gap between rich and poor, and move around frequently!
In this life, people will always be three poor and three rich to old. However, when relatives get along, there will be a natural distance because of the difference between the rich and the poor.
Relatives get along, and the gap between rich and poor is the biggest reason why we must keep our distance from each other. Behind the superficial harmony is the sensitivity of deliberate generosity and tolerance in order not to hurt and be angry.
You think you're approaching for affection, and frequently you may be artificially obsessed.
You think that talking together in your later years is the best harmony, but in fact, it is the awkwardness that you need to pay attention to when talking to each other.
Until nothing unhappy happens, you'll think it's too tiring for people to think about too much about the interactions between relatives. By the time there is a real contradiction, it will be too late for you to wake up again.
Young people are unhappy, and they still have a lifetime. Moreover, people in their later years are unhappy, which will make each other close their eyes and be grumpy.
When you retire, don't move around too often with your relatives who are too far apart from rich and poor, which is the best respect for each other's relationship.
People are willing to absorb messages that make them happy. When your frequent appearances cause a "burden" and "disturbance" to relatives, you will have a sense of detail.
The gap between the rich and the poor is too big, there is a difference in the degree of life and food and clothing, whether the rich people are Versailles, the poor are not overly sensitive because the mirror is not good...
These are unnecessary troubles caused by too close a relationship.
When you retire, you can live your own life. Don't go to the homes of relatives who are too far apart from your own conditions, share trivia, and talk about so-called things. When people are old, don't ask for trouble, is to retain their true dignity.
Man, at any time, is a person who "can withstand loneliness", and the better it is.
A person, no matter how old, can enjoy some tranquility and freedom in a person's quiet years, in order to feel truly steadfast and comfortable.
Retire and live your life in the moment. Keeping a distance between relatives is to give each other the last face.
Retire, remember this sentence: don't bother others, don't embarrass yourself!
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