In these days when the epidemic is at home, the child stays at home all day long, originally only his mother Hedong Lion Roar, and now even my "immovable" father has begun to join the "mixed doubles". Hey, don't you say, the home seems to be a chicken flying dog jumping a little, but the family atmosphere is much happier and livelier.
In fact, I also wanted to participate in the education of my children, but my wife always complained that I did not "learn" how to take a baby. Those "expert opinions", "authoritative guides" are really not interested, occasionally listen to the advice of the pacesetter brothers with babies, because the situation of each family is different, we should not learn from the "standardized baby", brothers say right?
But my set of ideas was marked by my wife as "sophistry."
Therefore, when I was with the child, I didn't move much, just accompany him to stare at the accident, and the more I did it, the more I was scolded by my wife.
The epidemic is a turning point, the child stays at home for a long time, so much that his mother can't stand it, and began to let me take over, then I am a fierce operation.
One day at dinner, I asked the kids for advice before eating, and then my mom and I tossed out a hearty dinner.
As a result, when it came to eating, I didn't want to eat that, and I didn't want to eat, and I lost my temper and began to fake crying, my wife was so angry that he didn't listen, I was directly a grappling technique to catch him up and take him out of the house, wa really collapsed and cried, "Mommy, I want Mommy!" ”
My wife was anxious first, "You don't get him, wait until the crying is angry, or I will come to comfort him!" ”
I closed the door and first made him cry against the aisle window, and then reasoned with him and talked about the promise of men.
"Didn't your mother and I ask you what you wanted to eat first?" You yourself said that you want to eat meat and eggs before we do it, and now you don't eat it, don't you eat it, does manhood talk not count? (Tell him to be trustworthy)
"You eat well now, and there's a lot of time we can play together, stack Lego together, if you don't eat, you can, you'll always be hungry, and at night I'll play there happily with your mother, and you'll be crying and crying and hungry alone, do you want that?" (Tell him that different choices will have different results, let him take responsibility for his own choices)
He was put into the scene by me (maybe he was also crying and hungry) and slowly stopped crying, thinking about what to do.
After a while I hugged back an emotionally stable, well-spoken man.
Hmmm, I didn't miss the surprise on my wife's face when I walked in the door.
Another time, when I took a shower, I used that big family pool to bathe my son. My wife is always afraid that my son's foot will slip and he can't stand and fall into the water and choke, I don't care, and my son has fun with the water gun, confronting each other, teaching him to dive and even trying to teach him to turn his head in the water...
In fact, I also understand my wife, pregnant in October has been in protection mode, motherhood makes her afraid of the child being hurt a little, but the father can be more bold to let the child take a little risk, let him be more courageous to try, to explore, to learn how to protect himself.
Maybe the father's way and the mother's way can complement each other, there is love and care from the father and mother, in order to raise a physically and mentally healthy child ~ ~
And from the child's point of view, the father with the baby is not so unreliable.
Without the meticulous care of the mother, the child will become less squeamish in the slightly indulgent freedom given by the father, which can provide the child with a fresh perspective outside the mother, let the child see a different world, and also ignite the small flame of exploration and adventure in the heart, so as to obtain a tenacious and brave character.
Recently, the epidemic has brought many fathers back to their homes, and mothers have probably felt how "useful" the usually unreliable fathers are during this time, especially when they have the right tools to help him.
Moms don't have to be afraid of our "fatherly love like a mountain... Body slippery slope", of course, fathers should also join more into family education, with children is not only an obligation to fulfill, but also a re-growth of their own, and the game has created a new number, the sense of achievement and happiness of raising a number You know?
But some brothers may have to say, the pressure of supporting a family is high, the work is busy, even if you want to take the baby, you have more than enough and lack of strength. It is true that many dads are busy at work is an unavoidable reality, so improving the quality of participation in a limited time is the key.
First of all, fathers should realize that even the busiest father can become a good father. Busy fathers often work overtime and travel more, which will certainly reduce the time spent with their children, but no matter where you go, you keep in touch with your children, and there is emotional contact and communication with your children, which is also an effective companionship.
Secondly, at home, accompanying children to read, play, sports, even in a short period of time, as long as you have fun and actively participate, it is an effective companion.
As long as they are around their children, fathers try to exert their own continuous creativity and patience, and play a high quality and quantity of each companionship, why worry about the wife not boasting, the children do not love it? I'd rather be the "mountain" of the "landslide" than the "mountain" that is "silent as a mountain"!
To borrow a passage from Kabakin, the father of mindfulness, I encourage myself and all the fathers in the world: I hope that we can all make the right adjustments, just because we are the fathers that our children love.
Do moms have a lot of feelings when they see this? Hurry up and forward the article to your husband or forward it to the circle of friends! Let more dads join in, learn from each other, and start your own "perfect dad" journey!