"Please Answer 1988" has this line:
"The so-called love of a person is not to like the other person's body temperature, but to get closer and closer to the other person's body temperature."
If you think about it, this is it, two people together will eventually get closer and closer to each other. As the saying goes: "Those who are close to Zhu are red and close to ink are black." Two people who have been together for a long time will also be similar to each other.
Because the encounter between two people is simple and beautiful, calm and full of waves. In fact, I would like to say that two people need to understand each other when they are together.
After all, two people together first need to get to know each other. Because life can't be smooth sailing, there will always be some unhappy things happening, which is very normal.
When you meet a person, it is impossible to "live a happy life with a prince and a princess" as written in the novel. "And most of the novels end here, but those omitted life plots are the most real portrayals of our lives."
Therefore, loving someone is not only to like the other person's body temperature, but also to get closer and closer to the other party. Because when the passion fades. Conflicts and contradictions in life begin to be exposed.
Short encounters can indeed breed love, but long-term relationships will always encounter some emotional consumption. If at this time, we do not take the initiative to understand each other, get closer to each other. Then it is easy to misunderstand and lead to some quarrels.
It's like in many stories, there will be such a bridge, that is, a couple will always have misunderstandings, but they will always not take the initiative to explain. In fact, as long as you explain it, the things that can be solved, they just don't explain. Finally, the misunderstanding is getting bigger and bigger.
Therefore, to love someone, we must learn to be close to him, instead of always thinking, this matter can not be understood without saying. But some things are really "I thought."
In fact, the other person can't understand what you're trying to say. The so-called long-term tirelessness is maintained by two people with their hearts.
And this maintenance requires two people to enter each other's world. You know, there are not so many suitable people in this world, and there are only two people who are willing to change for each other.
It is impossible to have a heart-to-heart imprint, some are just the hearts of one person who is close to another person, which is why we always like to say: "Good feelings are two-way." ”
Because one person's like is called unrequited love, the likes of two people are called feelings. Although the feelings of two people do not necessarily have to become the most intimate friends.
But it is essential for two people to move closer to each other. Therefore, only by knowing how to be close to each other can we make the relationship more permanent. Loving someone is never a one-man affair. It's about fighting together.
Some people say: "The best tacit understanding in the world is not that someone understands your unspoken meaning, nor that someone understands your desire to stop talking, but that someone can understand your every look and breath." ”
And these all come from two people close to each other, only by constantly getting close to each other, can you understand each other, in fact, the feelings of two people are most afraid of not to understand.
It is simply believed that as long as love can solve everything, but in fact, this kind of love should be put in quotation marks, it requires two people to work together, and it also requires two people to understand each other.
Instead of just relying on liking to go on, if you just rely on liking to support this relationship, it is doomed that this relationship will not last long.
Therefore, loving a person is not only like each other's body temperature, but also getting closer and closer to each other, and to achieve such a degree, it requires two people to be close to each other.
And the reality is like this, if only one person rushes and approaches, after a long time, it will eventually consume all the feelings and passions of the other party. Because when I approach you, you always avoid it consciously or unconsciously, and it really makes me feel that my proximity is a kind of disturbance.
After all, the feelings of two people need to be maintained by two people together. You don't work hard, you don't get close, it's just me trying and approaching alone, even if I use a lot of strength, what's the point of that?
Because, loving someone is not only like the other person's body temperature, but also getting closer and closer to the other party.
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