He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
What kind of girl is the most attractive?
Seeing a statistic on the Internet about attractive girls in the eyes of boys, one of the advantages is "emotional stability".
Emotionally stable people generally have strong self-control and have more awareness of themselves.
People who are not emotionally stable enough are more likely to amplify the contradictions between partners in their feelings.
The same thing is different in the eyes of the two.
Emotionally stable people will first find a solution to the problem and reflect on the contradiction itself;
Emotionally unstable people only care about their own feelings, first venting anger and negative emotions.
What are the characteristics of an emotionally stable girl?
In "How to Find an Emotionally Mature Person", this is summarized:
Manage emotions, cognitive emotions, take care of others.
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Emotionally stable girls are able to manage their emotions
What does a mature person look like?
They are often able to control their emotions and know what kind of emotions to release in what environment and on what occasion.
Tell a story:
After the girl came home from work, she saw her husband sitting in the study playing games, and the grievances and pressures of going to work all day made her particularly angry.
Especially, when she saw that the floor of the house was very dirty, and the door was smelly socks, she was even more angry.
So, she ran angrily to the study, directly unplugged the network cable, followed by insults to her husband.
"When you come home from work, you see you playing games, and you don't clean up, you don't do housework, you don't cook, can you have a little pursuit?"
The man looked at his wife with a blank face, did not respond, did not get angry, and just walked silently to the restaurant.
The woman followed, only to find that the meal had been prepared on the table and was waiting for her to come home for dinner.
But the anger was also sprinkled, and the scolding was also scolded, and she was very embarrassed.
But the stubbornness and bad emotions in her heart made her unwilling to bow her head and admit her mistakes.
Thus, the two men entered a cold war state.
You see, because of a momentary impulse and negative emotions, the feelings of the two people have cracked.
If the woman is so anxious every time, so extreme, and does not give the other party any opportunity to explain; I am afraid that it will not be long before the feelings will be gradually destroyed by her unstable emotions.
What is the best solution?
Express your dissatisfaction first, explain your suggestions, and then look at the other person's answers.
After all, when you don't figure out the truth of a thing, it's a bit hasty to draw conclusions based on what you're seeing.
There is an effect in psychology called the "sandwich effect."
Refers to:
When communicating with the other party and expressing your dissatisfaction, you can use the method of first raising and then suppressing.
Begin and end with your respect and praise, with the meaning you want to express in the middle.
Saying this is easier to make the other party accept.
This is especially true when lovers get along.
Don't forget that men love face the most; if you give him enough face, he will give you more love and tolerance.
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Emotionally stable girls will recognize their emotions
A person's emotions, invisible and untouchable, are the biggest "obstacles" to intimate relationships.
A person who is emotionally unstable and extremely irritable means that he is prone to extreme behavior in many things.
Because of his emotions, he was impulsive and made an act that he regretted.
In the end, I wanted to make up for it, but it was too late.
And a girl with stable emotions, they are often able to analyze and realize their emotions at the first time.
For example:
When she has a conflict with her boyfriend (husband) and wants to lose her temper, she forces herself to calm down.
Analyze the problem:
Why am I angry?
Is it necessary to be angry like this?
My mood is unstable, can I find a way to change it?
They are often able to analyze their emotions at the first time, find a solution to their emotions, and then make a decision.
In a person, emotional instability is instinctive, and emotional stability is a manifestation of ability.
Emotionally stable people tend to be more capable; conversely, a person who is emotionally unstable will only be led by emotions and is prone to act impulsively.
You will find that those emotionally stable girls, the feelings are generally not bad.
It is precisely because of emotional stability that their own emotional energy is large and their emotional value is high.
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Emotionally stable girls who know how to take care of themselves and others
We often use the term "empathetic" to describe a girl.
In fact, the essence of empathy is emotional stability.
She knows how to perceive the emotions of others, will think differently when encountering things, and understands to consider problems from the perspective of the other party.
When she has a conflict with her partner, she will think about how to resolve the contradiction instead of amplifying the contradiction.
I won't be in a hurry to lose my temper, and I will let myself calm down first.
Only emotionally stable people know how to take care of their own and the feelings of others.
Whether it is social or intimate, emotional stability can always make the other party feel safe.
How to be a person who makes others like and makes others willing to be close?
Then work hard to exercise yourself and become an emotionally stable person.
Of course, it is perfectly normal for people to have their own emotions and personalities.
Emotional stability is not to make you give up your personality; but to make you more rational when you are anxious, irritable, and angry, and not to go the wrong way.
Today's Topic:
Are you an emotionally stable person?
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