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If you have a very painful life in marriage and especially want to divorce, you must calm down, first ask yourself, whether you are fully sure, after divorce will be happier than now.
Then ask yourself, is it really necessary to leave?
It is completely impulsive divorce, you have no money and no ability, then divorce must not be a rebirth for you.
Because after impulsive divorce, you will find that divorce is not the end of the problem, but the beginning of the problem, and you will face more and more realistic problems. After divorce, there will still be frequent major changes in life caused by their own problems.
The importance of money, needless to say, as for ability, including the ability to think independently, the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, the ability to improve oneself, the ability to push oneself and others, and the ability to cope with changes in life and maintain inner peace.
Any happiness and a good life, behind it is supported by money and ability, indicating that people have the ability to control life and happiness.
Seeing many divorced people, they are very happy.
First of all, you have to realize that in this world, nothing is for nothing, and there is a reason for both happiness and pain. Only seeing the happiness of others, so as to affirm that after your divorce, you can also live a very happy life, ignoring the ability to control happiness, you wait for regret.
For example, no one has a strong heart, no one has the same mind, clarity and transparency, and the same choice has entered two lives.
In addition, the eyes will also deceive people, what you see, only what you see, others let you see, not really live as happy. If you are taken astray and cannot see the essence through the appearance, life after divorce will be miserable.
02
Husbands and wives divorce, adults have the ability to take care of themselves, how to survive, but children need to be raised and need to be taken care of, this is really the top priority in front of you, do not allow you to escape.
There is a male friend next to me, and recently my hair has been graying because of the child's problem.
Due to the special nature of his work, he had to transfer to the night shift the next day after he went to the day shift, and his children's life could not be maintained on the same channel. My mother was even more black and white all year round, busy with business in the market at night, and could only return home to sleep in the afternoon, as for my father, who had a home outside early.
So after the divorce, the child suddenly had no one to take care of, and he could not afford to hire an aunt with his financial conditions. I found an aunt who planned to take the child to September, just old enough to go to kindergarten.
But what about after the kids go to school? This is not a matter of two days a day, three months and five months, how can you find a way to deal with the past.
Pick up and drop off children, no one, after the kids are out of school, cooking to take care of, and no one.
Until now, I have not thought of any good way, left and right, this is only the first problem facing the present. I thought that divorce was hope, but the divorce made my life more gray, and I felt very confused about the future.
Women are the same, if you have money and ability, maybe you can really live well after divorce. If there is no money and no ability, and then with children, life will be difficult for you to imagine, single mothers with children, is to spend money, spend money, spend money.
Also, when the child grows up, instead of appreciating you, he will remember and hate you.
If you don't have children, no money is not terrible, and no ability and thought are the most terrible. Because it is easy to be brought into certain groups, from then on, they will willingly degenerate and go with the flow, and there is no longer a good and positive belief in life in their hearts.
Including the heart is not strong enough, the faith is not firm enough, there is no definition of happiness, although it will live a free and elegant life, but it is also easy to be more and more empty because of the free and dashing life, feeling that life has no direction, no destination, inner trepidation, especially insecurity.
Even some people, who can't get out of the shadow of divorce in their lifetime, often use that failed marriage to deny their lives, and they are indecisive and self-contradictory.
Don't think of divorce as simple, no matter when, ability is the foundation of supporting life, directly determine the direction of life. Just no money, at most affects the quality of life, and sometimes have to aggrieved their dignity, but do not have the ability to know themselves, face life, control life, life will become a mess, and get worse and worse.
03
Really, without money and no ability, advise you better not get a divorce.
Because divorce is not the end of the problem, it will only bring more problems, even if you divorce, not to change a partner, just want to be liberated, then single life, not necessarily as easy and beautiful as you think.
Different choices, different responsibilities, which means that no matter how you choose, there are parts that you need to bear. The parts taken on are not comparable, but the pressure is the same.
If you can't accept that a person is lonely and has plans to remarry, then do you have full confidence in remarried life?
Divorce, for some, is indeed a rebirth, but for most people, it is only the beginning of disaster. Especially in your marriage, there is no problem of principle, and after losing a comfortable life, even the trajectory of life will deviate, and the impact is extremely far-reaching.
Unless you are particularly sure and are absolutely sure that divorce means rebirth for yourself. With such a certainty, it is often because there is a principled injury in the marriage, and such a divorce is called stopping the loss in time and starting over. Avoid being dragged deeper and deeper by a person, and the more consumed they are.
Married life is very realistic, especially after divorce, reality, maybe it has nothing to do with divorce and marriage, but as I get older, I take on more and more things. So money and ability are always extremely important, and conversely, if you have money and ability, why does the marriage still fail? It's not about money, it's about ability. If you just want to get a divorce, think a little more about the stakes.
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