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What is the meaning of this life?
What is the value of this life?
What is man living for in this life?
This is the typical "three questions of life". However, for thousands of years, no one has been able to give a standard answer. In the eyes of different people, the value of life is different.
Some people will live for their careers, work silently in a certain field all their lives, and their hearts are particularly full.
Some people will live for their interests, do what they are interested in all their lives, follow their hearts, and live simply and contentedly.
Some people will live to make money and spend their whole lives going around making money, just to be able to have more money.
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As long as we have our own goals and can feel the freedom of life, then no matter what we do, we can feel the satisfaction of our hearts. But once our lives are free and bound by something, that's the beginning of meaninglessness.
In real life, there is a kind of person, no matter how old they live, their lives are in vain.
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Life is "bound", after all, it is helpless.
Some people have said that in this life, people meet people who love themselves, earn enough money to spend, have a small and fortunate family, there is no big problem in the body, and life is satisfied.
The above points seem very simple, but it is particularly difficult to do.
There are many people who have not met people who love themselves in this life, nor a harmonious and happy family, nor a stable job, and their health is not good, and they have been miserable all their lives.
More importantly, the lives of ordinary people are bound by the worldly "money, fame and fortune", so they will not be happy no matter how they live.
Some time ago, I met a 35-year-old peer who bought a house in a first-tier city two years ago, and now the monthly mortgage is 20,000 yuan, and it has been for thirty years. This puts him under particular pressure.
At the same time, because the business environment in recent years is not very good, so the orders on hand have been decreasing, even some old customers are bankrupt, let alone make money, it is good to be able to feed the family safely and steadily.
Now that he thinks of the "thirty-year mortgage", he immediately becomes sad. And the twins are almost in kindergarten, and the pressure makes him miserable.
This peer, as long as he does not make a lot of money, then he will be bound for the rest of his life, not to mention that his life is stable, and perhaps he will not even have a problem with having a relaxed life.
Imagine if you have two children to support and a mortgage of more than 20,000 yuan a month, can you live happily?
Again, all misfortune is self-inflicted. All the shackles are given to oneself.
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There is a kind of person who, the more he lives, the less hopeless he becomes.
One commentator once said that what is more terrible than running out of money is that we lose hope of continuing to struggle.
The word "hope" is our pursuit. Without hope, even if we are sitting on the wealth of the family at the moment, what we see in our eyes is only "darkness".
Who lives more and more hopelessly? It is those who deliberately "bind" themselves.
Some people have no ability to buy a house, then they have to take out a loan to buy a house, and in the end they are still bitter; some people can only earn 10,000 yuan, but he has to ask himself to earn 100,000 yuan a month, then he is forcing himself; some people can only support one child, then he has to raise two, but it is just self-pleading.
As a person, is it really necessary to "tie" yourself up so tightly? Not only is it unnecessary, it's worthless.
In this life, it is ugly to say that it is only a few decades of time, and it will pass in the blink of an eye. If we have to let all the worldly things "shackle" our freedom, won't life lose its luster?
For example, in the case of raising children, you feel that if you give your whole life for your children, your children will be happy. Who knows, every generation has this kind of thinking, all living for others, not for themselves. In the end, the "dead cycle" of generational suffering will emerge.
Human beings always think that it is best to pin their hopes on others. But what they don't know is that to live their lives well, that is the greatest courage and wisdom.
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If people live for a lifetime, they will eventually be "busy in vain".
Some time ago, I had a friend who went in and out of the stock market seven times, and ten years of savings instantly vanished.
That night, he wrote a sentence in the circle of friends: "Life is a gambling process, and if you lose a bet, you can only be busy in vain, meaningless." ”
Seeing his words, I couldn't help but think, "gambling" this matter, obviously he chose it himself, why would he complain so much?
Knowingly, someone once said that adults always need to be responsible for their own actions.
If you have multiple children, then you need to bear huge financial pain; if you choose to "gamble", then you need to face the risk of returning to the pre-liberation period overnight; if you choose to live for unnecessary substances, then the value of your life is equivalent to these substances.
In this regard, we may wish to consider a question, why can some people end without regrets, while others regret it?
All the regrets are satisfied as well as look away. All regrets are bondage and loss. Although everyone will be busy in vain, some people's "white busyness" is worthless and will basically drag down their lives.
That's all.
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