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Write the warmest words, heal the lonely heart, pay attention to me, and warm you.
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Door-to-door son-in-law, which is what we usually call the inverted door, up to the royal horse, down to the ordinary people, from ancient times to the present.
But do you know how sad this door-to-door son-in-law has been since ancient times?
Lin An (pseudonym), 37 years old this year, was married to his girlfriend as a door-to-door son-in-law.
Lin An sighed: I gave wholeheartedly, but I was calculated by my wife's family, and this family just used me as a tool to earn money, and I could not be a door-to-door son-in-law in the next life.
Lin An said that when he came to the door, the woman's home was three broken tile houses, and after getting married, he came to work hard to earn money to build a three-story house, and it was also well decorated.
At home, he earned money alone, and others advised him to hide his private money, but he did not listen, and he gave it to his wife for safekeeping. The year before, Lin An's mother fell ill, and his family demanded that the two sons share the medical expenses equally, but Lin An's wife and father-in-law's family did not give him a penny.
There is also a conflict between Lin An and his wife, and the father-in-law is very "protective of the calves", always indiscriminately helping his daughter to count down Lin An's not. Even later, Lin'an's wife and family threatened Lin An to divorce him, and the children, property, and real estate would not want to get a penny.
Looking at the child's face, but also out of the consideration of real experience, these years Lin An had to swallow his anger and seek perfection, and no one knew the bitter life of his son-in-law.
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"Door-to-door son-in-law" a lifetime without worry? In fact, their bitterness is far beyond our imagination.
Lin An sighed that after a man entered the house and became a door-to-door son-in-law, it was equivalent to being under the eaves of others, and after a long time, it was inevitable that friction would arise.
Therefore, many things have to look at the face of the father-in-law's family, and the children born are not with their own surnames. Lin An said that he had no status in his wife's family and did not have the right to speak.
He not only had to serve his wife well every day, but also pay attention to his mother-in-law's emotions at all times, and when she was in a good mood, he would be kind to Lin An. But if you are angry on the outside, you will also sprinkle your inner dissatisfaction on Lin An.
All matters big and small in the family are decided by the mother-in-law. Not only that, But Lin An was often preached. The whole family looked down on him, threw all the dirty work at home to me, and even each of them made a fuss about me.
The door-to-door son-in-law is too difficult, it feels very depressed, if you let Lin An choose again, he said that he would rather beat a single stick than be a door-to-door son-in-law.
Lin An hated himself, if he had been a little angry, he would not have married his wife for money, nor would he have bowed down in front of his father-in-law's family for money.
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For the group of door-to-door son-in-law, people are often not so friendly, but in private, they often use contemptuous words such as "the one who eats soft rice" and "soft bones" to refer to such people.
Many women say that after joining the man's family, there are many kinds of bad things, and they can't get along with their mother-in-law, and they feel that they are constantly wronged. But when the man becomes the son-in-law, you will find that the grievances are continuous, which is a relatively easy thing.
Because when roles are swapped, it is easier to cause contradictions than to marry. As a door-to-door son-in-law, if the husband and wife have discordant feelings, the male psychology usually bears a much more depressed feeling than that of women.
Whether it is a door-to-door son-in-law or a husband singing a woman, you should not be wronged for the sake of worldly ideas. To marry a wife, we must first look at the father-in-law and mother-in-law, if these two people are narrow and difficult to get along with, then the impact on the relationship between your two sons is still greater.
Lin An lamented that after becoming a door-to-door son-in-law, his own brothers and parents were also estranged from him, and they also regarded him as an outsider.
It is not a shameful thing to go to the door to the son-in-law, but if you go into the money for money, you hurt others, and you also hurt yourself. A man like Lin An, who is unhappy, is ultimately self-inflicted.