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Recently, a mother complained in the group that her baby belongs to the type of "charging for two hours and talking for 5 minutes", which is a typical difficult to sleep household. In order to coax the baby to sleep, hugging, milking, lying down have been tried, and none of the various sleeping positions can make the baby sleep steadily.
I believe that such a situation is definitely not exclusive to this mother. Some angel babies can sleep the whole time out of the confinement, and they don't have to hold it without coaxing, lie down and clap and hum and go to sleep; and some sleeping scum babies can't sleep, milk sleep, hug sleep, landing instantly awakened, and have to cry several times in the middle of the night...
So in a variety of sleeping positions, which sleeping position can make the baby fall asleep faster and at the same time be better for the baby?
Cuddling, milking, lying down, which way of falling asleep is better for your baby?
The first type of hugging sleep
Hugging is a common way for many mothers to coax babies to sleep, mothers hold the baby in their arms, while shaking while humming songs, the baby is gradually falling asleep in the mother's shaking and singing.
This way of sleeping is very safe for the baby, because the baby is in the mother's arms, can feel the mother's heartbeat at close range, while also smelling the smell of the mother, and the relationship with the mother will be closer.
But this way of sleeping is also insufficient, the most obvious is a little "fei mother", long time to hold the sleep, the mother's waist and wrists will feel weak, and even fall into the root of the disease; and the baby will also be accustomed to the mother's taste and heartbeat, only rely on the mother.
In addition, in the process of sleeping, the baby's body is curled up, which will affect the child's spine development, and shake too hard, but also affect the child's brain development, so this way of sleeping, although common, is not advocated.
The second type of milk sleep
Milk sleep is often used when the baby wakes up at night, after all, when the baby cries, he can eat breast milk and stop crying, so the way of coaxing the baby will be very fast, which can reduce a lot of the burden of the baby to the mother.
But it is worth noting that long-term baby milk sleep is easy to form dependence, there is milk to sleep, no milk to cry, some babies in the feeding and sleeping back and forth transformation, neither full, nor sleep well, very affect the baby's development.
Moreover, the baby's long-term milk sleep also has adverse effects on oral health, and it is easy to form caries, so milk sleep is not a good way to sleep.
The third type of lying down sleep
Lying down refers to the baby lying flat on the bed to fall asleep independently, lying down can reduce the baby's dependence on the mother, but also help the formation of the baby's head shape, of course, such a way of sleeping is also more difficult to achieve, the preparation work before going to bed should be done enough, after all, it is not an easy thing to let the baby fall asleep independently.
In summary, lying down is better than other ways of sleeping, of course, the baby naturally can not immediately enter the lying sleep mode, but also need to gradually work in this direction.
How can a child who is accustomed to sleeping in a hugging and nursing sleep allow the baby to fall asleep on his own?
Hold the bed first and try to lie down after your baby has gone into a deep sleep
For infants and young children, the early hug and milk sleep can be satisfied as much as possible, and do not give up the attempt to leave voluntarily. To put it bluntly, one side is satisfying the sense of security, and the other side is using "active departure" to convey a message to make the child get used to sleeping on his own.
This is also the premise of the child falling asleep independently, so that the child can passively get used to the feeling of "no mother around", and constantly extend this feeling, which is very important to teach the baby to fall asleep independently.
Adults should adjust their living habits
In the process of exercising the baby to lie down, every night at a fixed time, the mother can accompany the baby to lie on the big bed, turn off the headlights, and the other members leave and keep quiet, such a sense of sleep ritual will make the baby self-soothe to a certain extent, and gradually develop the habit of falling asleep independently.
In the process of exercising your baby to fall asleep on his own, you should also pay attention to a few points
Don't hold too long: hold too long, the baby will also form a dependence, if the baby has been crying, you can hold for a few minutes after putting it down, and then pick up again;
Do not intervene when the baby cries: when the baby cries, you can pay attention to listen for a while, sometimes just the baby makes a sound, this time the intervention will wake up the baby, if the baby is indeed awake, it is not too late to intervene.
There can be repetition: Recurrence can also occur when your baby develops the habit of falling asleep on his own. Like teething, the mother returning to the workplace, etc., will affect the baby's sleep, and it is normal to repeat it at this time.
Tuanzi Mother uses several methods of coaxing sleep, and Bao Ma may wish to try
Pick up and put down method:
When the baby is sleepy, don't worry about comforting, let him adapt to it for a while, start crying and then comfort, quiet down and then put down, and so on. Let your baby know that he is going to sleep on his back, not in his arms;
Contact suppression method:
When sleeping in the hug, when the baby is confused and about to fall asleep, immediately put it down, do not wait for the complete sleep to put it down, and slowly quit the habit of hugging and sleeping.
Tuanzi Mama wants to say:
No matter which way of sleeping, it is expensive to insist, generally in about 2-3 weeks the baby will adapt, and as the age of the month grows, the baby will be more and more easy to soothe.