The theory of the child's temperament model
(This paragraph is more theoretical, more boring, readers read carefully, and those who cannot understand can be skipped directly)
From an evolutionary perspective, human development always develops new skills according to the needs of the environment. Humans, for example, have no sharp teeth and have developed tools that can hunt animals and capture large mammoths.
Human capabilities will always cultivate new abilities according to the needs of the environment. And the evolved abilities of humans will be passed on. Not only human beings, but almost all living things develop corresponding abilities according to the needs of the environment and combined with their own characteristics. For example, otters learn to build dams for fishing.
According to the theory of ecological evolution, the growth of children also needs to respond accordingly to the needs of the environment.
The new ecological theory argues that organisms do not simply respond to the environment, but evolve corresponding abilities according to the needs of the environment, and also change the environment. Human beings are not simply compromising on the environment, but constantly transforming the environment.
Such ecological theories are more optimistic than evolutionary theories, and at the same time, they also challenge individuals how to find the ability to adapt to the environment and develop them in a way that suits their own characteristics. The difference susceptibility model emphasizes that individuals have different sensitivities to the external environment due to temperament differences, and some temperament tendencies will promote positive development results when encountering positive parenting methods, such as children with musical talent, focusing on cultivating musical talents, playing piano, singing, etc. are always easy to produce results. And when encountering negative parenting styles, it leads to worse social adaptation.
How can we find the temperament characteristics of children in the process of parenting?
First look at an experiment, there are studies that found that those one-and-a-half-year-old children with difficult temperament, if the parents are too sensitive to the child, responsive, and there is no management means, then it is possible that the problem of the child after 6 months is more. On the contrary, if a one-and-a-half-year-old child with difficult temperament, if the parents are not too sensitive to the child, do not respond to the needs, and take management measures, then it is possible that the behavior problems of the young child will be reduced after 6 months.
This experiment confirms that for the cultivation and education of children, it really needs to be different from person to person. The reason why human education cannot achieve the ability to teach according to aptitude is that the cost of education is too high. Dozens of students in a class, the teacher can not understand the child's personality characteristics one by one, even if they can understand, they do not have the energy to cultivate education one by one. The goal of the teacher is to let most children learn social adaptation from education and master basic knowledge, and the way of teaching according to the aptitude will obviously increase the teacher's teaching investment, teaching investment will increase the consumption of the teacher's resources, human resources are limited, and the consumption of resources will lead to various physical and mental health problems. A large number of studies have found that the physical and mental health problems of educators are not optimistic, and burnout is a common phenomenon.
Therefore, relying on teachers to teach children according to their aptitudes is obviously a difficult goal to achieve.
Then, parents can only rely on their own efforts to find the temperament characteristics of children, and cultivate and educate according to the characteristics of children's temperament.
How to find the temperament characteristics of children?
In fact, every child has temperament characteristics, and it is not difficult to find these characteristics.
If the child has learned to Chinese literacy, then it is possible to communicate cognitively at a higher level.
Parents can follow the teaching videos in the article to guide their children to find their own parenting goals.
Expectations are likely to be fulfilled
In educational psychology, there is a very well-known experiment.
A group of psychologists came to the elementary school, did some intelligence tests, and then told the teacher that there was a group of students who had great potential. But in fact, psychologists only randomly find some students in the school and label them as "potential". After a few months, psychologists returned to school and found that the students who had been labeled "potential" had generally improved their grades. This is the famous Rosenthal effect.
This experiment is constantly being repeated. This experiment illustrates the implications: it shows what people expect from children, and it is really possible for children to develop in the way they are expected.
Therefore, in the education industry, there is an idea that has always affected me: never let your children down.
Of course, for adults, always maintain optimism and hope. For adult development goals, we will do a special program to let adults find their goals in life.
What are the expectations? Expectation is a goal, a result. If you expect children to grow up healthily, "good health" is an expectation and a temperament. If it is said that children can adapt well to society, "adaptability" is an expectation and a temperament. People with good adaptability can adapt to new environments, and people with weak adaptability are suitable for living in a relatively stable environment.
The following video is to teach parents and children how to find their own temperament, or the goal of parenting.
Maybe this tool is very cheap, but cheap does not mean that the utility is not good, cheap is that we give up the pursuit of profits, but let the public benefit, I hope that everyone can be taught according to their aptitudes, according to the temperament of the child.
Look at what personality type the child has, you can look at this